Senior in college has never dated

[Anonymous]

My daughter is a rising college senior, has never dated or been asked on a date by a guy. She's pretty, thin, smart, has many female friends. Just no males interested in or pursuing her at all from age 13 to now at almost age 22. She's not interested in women.

This bothers her. I listen but I'm not sure what to say. I have two other kids who dated on and off throughout high school and college and one is close to proposing to his girlfriend.

[Anonymous]

This is more common than you think. Is she in a female centric major (nursing/teaching) and only do female centric clubs and activities? Is she shy?

[Anonymous]

Maybe the problem is she is waiting to be pursued. She is probably not giving off any availability or interest vibes.

[Anonymous]

I had my first boyfriend my senior year of college. we were set up by a friend. we were together for 6 awkward months. i went on online dating after that but didn’t have another boyfriend until i was 25, and i married him 4 years later. her time will come!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I had my first boyfriend my senior year of college. we were set up by a friend. we were together for 6 awkward months. i went on online dating after that but didn’t have another boyfriend until i was 25, and i married him 4 years later. her time will come!

was about the post an almost identical story! first boyfriend year after college, about six v awk months.

online dating always seemed overwhelming (mid 2000s) and i was happy to be single.

met my now husband at 24, started dating at 25 and got married three years later.

no advice to OP, but it is probably still pretty common. I didn’t marry any later than my serial monogamist friends, and I didn’t feel like I needed to have dated more men seriously before knowing my husband was the one for me.

[Anonymous]

Maybe she should ask a guy out or get a friend to set her up. I only suggest that because you make it sound like something she wants but isn’t happening and she isn’t pursuing it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Maybe she should ask a guy out or get a friend to set her up. I only suggest that because you make it sound like something she wants but isn’t happening and she isn’t pursuing it.

She is going to have to put herself on dating apps if she hasn’t done so already. Otherwise she needs to put herself in front of guys in a meaningful manner. Men don’t approach in public like they used to, so it has to be done another way.

[Anonymous]

My friend's DD is in a 7 year relationship with her very first boyfriend. Their first date was after college ended. Problem I see is: they are married, he hasn't proposed. She has no experience to compare.

Why doesn't your DD ask someone out? Be the one to do the asking. This is more would treat similar to finding a good, suitable job. Lots of effort has to be made and most effort won't pay off. But nothing will ever happen without trying.

[Anonymous]

Just curious, why did 2 of the PPs above describe the 6 months of dating as awkward? Can you elaborate?

[Anonymous]

That was my DD. She did not date in HS and senior year of college. Started dating in senior year (saying yes to coffee etc), but was not in any relationship (or hook up). Reconnected with one of her college friend once they started working. A few years later they are happily married.

[Anonymous]

It is not uncommon anymore. Also, there are many immigrant children from non-WASP cultures and they don't feel the same pressure to date from their family or parents.

[Anonymous]

Is she tall OP? This was an issue for me, which is why I ask.

She might need to put herself in groups where there are more guys than girls, or pick a hobby that is similar. Or get set up by her friends.

[Anonymous]

Guys are more shy now

[Anonymous]

Encourage her to let her friends know she is interested in meeting a guys with similar interests. Suggest looking for meetup type groups during this coming year. Some general thoughts while in school this year would be to participate in co-rec sports with gigs and gals.
This is also advice to continue in a new community if she goes to grad school or gets a first job. Also if there is a college Faith group she might give a try at that too,

I met my husband while working in DC after graduating from GWU at the mass on campus.
So did my apartment roommate also a GWU grad. We have remained best friends for years

[Anonymous]

Gen Z either do lots of hookups or commit as soon as they find a good match. They don't mind being single if they don't find a connection or committing early if they do.