when to start dating while separating/divorcing

[Anonymous]

Did you and your ex agree on when it was OK to start seeing other people before the divorce was final? What was the mark you agreed on, e.g., when there was a formal separation agreement in place, when one of you had moved out of the house, something else? Any guidelines or advice on how to navigate this, particularly if the split is relatively amicable?

[Anonymous]

3 years from now.

[Anonymous]

My lawyers said the days after the decree was signed, but I had a huge custody battle.

[Anonymous]

Just be by yourself for a while. Is it really that painful to be in your own company?

[Anonymous]

Are there children? That impacts my answer.

[Anonymous]

Don’t date while you’re still living together.

[Anonymous]

Ask your soon to be ex rather than randos online.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My lawyers said the days after the decree was signed, but I had a huge custody battle.

Because your ex would use any dating as leverage in the custody fight?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just be by yourself for a while. Is it really that painful to be in your own company?

right, see, I have been, for years. Hence the divorce.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are there children? That impacts my answer.

teens

[Anonymous]

Did you and your ex agree on when it was OK to start seeing other people before the divorce was final? What was the mark you agreed on, e.g., when there was a formal separation agreement in place, when one of you had moved out of the house, something else? Any guidelines or advice on how to navigate this, particularly if the split is relatively amicable?

Some factors would impact when you start dating, such as:

Do you have children? If so, how old are they? If they are out of the house (e.g., living on their own or in college), it will be easier to start dating before the divorce is finalized.
Have you discussed this with your attorneys? Specifically, are you sure that even if your "soon-to-be ex" agrees that you both can start dating, they cannot use this fact during the divorce?
Do either of you know someone you plan to date as soon as you can? It can be problematic (for a variety of reasons) if one of you starts dating someone seriously right after you two agree to get divorced.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Are there children? That impacts my answer.

teens

Yeah, I'd go very slow. Like wait until the divorce is final. Wait to talk to them. I had SO MUCH respect for my dad that he floated the idea of dating by my brother and me before he just announced he was dating and had a girlfriend. Probably a big part of what made me so open to the one he has stuck with long term.

[Anonymous]

LOL you really want to get laid, huh?

[Anonymous]

Husband was dating within hours of separating, but really long before. I won’t consider dating until the divorce is final.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:LOL you really want to get laid, huh?

I've been trapped for years. I finally found the courage to get out. I want to meet people and have fun and find companionship. It's not only or even mainly about sex.