Do I really get nothing?
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Anonymous
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I am consulting divorce attorneys regarding my impeding divorce from my soon to be ex husband of 11 years. Here are our stats:
Late thirties My income: 125k His income: varies since he is self employed for the past 5 years. Some years he has made 300k, the past 2 years he has made 120k-60k, this year he has made 15k so far? He also works part time at a local music store teaching music making $20/hr We do not have any kids or property as we rent. I have a small 401k of 250k and he has no retirement savings. I would like to file due to him wasting my time and refusing to grow up and breaking all his vows; serial cheating and alcoholism, gaslighting, refusing to obtain steady employment and work on shared goals. I am devastated and furious, I thought he could at least pay me to freeze my eggs or I can get some alimony to rebuild my life. I have met with 3 attorneys and they all recommend a noncontentious divorce that is cheap and quick as we have nothing to fight over and for me to tell him we each walk away with what we have. I want to make him pay!! But apparently I can't?? 
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Anonymous
| Get the quick divorce and find a therapist to help you move forward before dating again. |
Anonymous
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You've met with 3 lawyers and are still doubting your situation?!
You can file for any reason. Nobody but you cares about his 'gaslighting' and 'refusing to grow up'. |
Anonymous
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Honey, you wasted your own time.
Divorce, heal, move on. |
Anonymous
| Listen to your lawyers and get a therapist. Divorce actually is not the venue for you to get any emotional satisfaction from your relationship including revenge or compensation. You get what the law provides no more no less. |
Anonymous
+1 What you "get" is the gift of no more loser husband. |
Anonymous
| You get freedom and hopefully in time...happiness? |
Anonymous
| This has to be fake. He has nothing, you have nothing. Yet you want him to pay? You have supported him for 11 years and allowed it to go on that long. You should be the one paying him. |
Anonymous
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"I am devastated and furious, I thought he could at least pay me to freeze my eggs or I can get some alimony to rebuild my life."
What??? Alimony for what? You make your own money. Don't own anything, don't have kids. You sound like you need some serious therapy but that's if you're really real. I think your a troll. |
Anonymous
She wasted 3 lawyers time! |
Anonymous
| Be glad he’s not asking for half of your retirement. |
Anonymous
| YOU GET NOTHING. |
Anonymous
| He doesn't have anything to take. You make plenty of money so what we you need to "rebuild" with money anyway? You both make money and you haven't saved anything, so there's nothing to do but send you both on your way. |
Anonymous
| He’ll get half of whatever amount that you put into your 401k since you got married as well as half of the earnings on that amount. There. Does that make you feel better? |
Anonymous
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What do you think armchair lawyers can tell you that three lawyers haven’t? Divorce is about dividing assets and you have none.
You’ll be lucky to get away with your retirement and not paying alimony to him. Retirement is marital property. You got good advice. |