Are we overhyping companionship?

[Anonymous]

It's now been 1 year since I have been divorced and I am honestly enjoying being alone. I no longer have to abide by some rules from someone who thinks our household has to be led according to their rules. And I can go to bed whenever I want and have undisturbed sleep. When I am out late at work or on a business trip I don't have to to worry about someone swearing on their end that I am cheating despite having never cheated. I can go on and on.. We have 50/50 custody. When I have my kids we have a better time together. My son is a teenager now so he is in his own universe. My daughter is 12 and she really loves me and I love her equally. The time we spent together now is more fulfilling.

I guess some people want daily sex, I don't. It has not been difficult for me to find an attractive woman that was willing to sleep with me. I have a friend who calls me when she wants some and i call her as well when in need of sex. I just won't get into a relationship with anyone.To me it's not worth the hassle.

Some people thought have amazing relationships and I hope it stays that way for them. But for some of us I wonder if we are being forced into a companionship/relationship because that's what adults are supposed to be in....

Is companionship overrated?

[Anonymous]

You are making no sense. You were married to a person that was wrong for you so of course you are enjoying being single. Do you but companionship is not overrated. You just chose wrong.

[Anonymous]

Companionship is overrated for you…

[Anonymous]

You had poor companionship. Imagine if you were married to someone who supported and trusted you, who encouraged you to do whatever you felt was best for your body in terms of sleep, etc.

[Anonymous]

Reverse the gender. If OP were a woman, a lot of women would sympathize with her. Unfortunately in our society we relinquished household management to women. So girls grow up watching Mom do everything. Boys grew up watching Mom do everything. The green couch mom probably picked the color.

Relationship are maintained by women mostly. For this reason if a man claims that he had a bad marriage, he has an uphill battle to convince women that he weren't the one at fault.

I have been married for 20 years and we have a great marriage. It has it challenges of course but we compromise.

It would be foolish for anyone to act as if society is not different today. Human relationship are not the same anymore. People are more superficial. People are less likely to compromise and when they do they are bitter about it.

Of course OP should not generalize. However in today's context it's not so simple. Our society is just far more complex. Finances and the economy are a challenge for us to navigate. Those who manage to cultivate healthy relationships despite all these challenges are a minority. When people remain married it's not necessarily because they still want to be together. The alternative for many people forces them to remain in relationships that they don't want to be part of.

[Anonymous]

Yes we are. Women scream all they long they don't need a man but they are lying. The extent to which women go not be alone is crazy.

[Anonymous]

No. One year of living alone after a difficult relationship is just healing, OP, and you need it. But it doesn't mean that companionship is over-rated. I think it's under-rated, actually. We need meaningful human connections to keep us from lacking empathy... the opposite of what one billionaire thinks. But those connections don't necessarily have to be romantic, and they don't necessarily mean you need to share your private spaces. Broaden your mind.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. One year of living alone after a difficult relationship is just healing, OP, and you need it. But it doesn't mean that companionship is over-rated. I think it's under-rated, actually. We need meaningful human connections to keep us from lacking empathy... the opposite of what one billionaire thinks. But those connections don't necessarily have to be romantic, and they don't necessarily mean you need to share your private spaces. Broaden your mind.

How many people are capable of that? We are a depressed and anxious society. Every other person is on anti depressing or anti anxiety pill.

[Anonymous]

Yes, I think romantic, monogamous companionship is overrated. I really enjoy living alone, too. I like decorating my house the way I like it. I like falling asleep to a book without wearing earbuds. I like undisturbed sleep. I like to be in control of the TV. I like not caring for someone else's moods or feeding them.
I also prefer non-romantic companionship. It's far less complicated and more supportive. I like having deep, meaningful connections with platonic friends.
Finally, I dislike monogamy. It's boring.

[Anonymous]

I am a divorced women and I don't think companionship is overrated. However personally I will never be in another relationship again. And I know other divorced women who think likewise. In fact most divorced women never get into a long term relationship again if they divorced into their late 40s.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it is overrated. Men relish solitude more than women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. One year of living alone after a difficult relationship is just healing, OP, and you need it. But it doesn't mean that companionship is over-rated. I think it's under-rated, actually. We need meaningful human connections to keep us from lacking empathy... the opposite of what one billionaire thinks. But those connections don't necessarily have to be romantic, and they don't necessarily mean you need to share your private spaces. Broaden your mind.

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No. One year of living alone after a difficult relationship is just healing, OP, and you need it. But it doesn't mean that companionship is over-rated. I think it's under-rated, actually. We need meaningful human connections to keep us from lacking empathy... the opposite of what one billionaire thinks. But those connections don't necessarily have to be romantic, and they don't necessarily mean you need to share your private spaces. Broaden your mind.

You probably misunderstand what that billionaire meant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. One year of living alone after a difficult relationship is just healing, OP, and you need it. But it doesn't mean that companionship is over-rated. I think it's under-rated, actually. We need meaningful human connections to keep us from lacking empathy... the opposite of what one billionaire thinks. But those connections don't necessarily have to be romantic, and they don't necessarily mean you need to share your private spaces. Broaden your mind.

How many people are capable of that? We are a depressed and anxious society. Every other person is on anti depressing or anti anxiety pill.

Are you of the opinion that depressed and anxious people can't make meaningful human connections? My best friend has been depressed all her life and is on meds for it. She's a wonderful friend. I have severe anxiety but by all accounts, I'm a kind and sympathetic listener and a good friend and parent.

Maybe you need to educate yourself.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:No. One year of living alone after a difficult relationship is just healing, OP, and you need it. But it doesn't mean that companionship is over-rated. I think it's under-rated, actually. We need meaningful human connections to keep us from lacking empathy... the opposite of what one billionaire thinks. But those connections don't necessarily have to be romantic, and they don't necessarily mean you need to share your private spaces. Broaden your mind.

You probably misunderstand what that billionaire meant.

Point is, his autism warps his worldview. He himself doesn't need human connection, and he thinks empathy is over-rated. He's wrong.