Reasonable to Ask 19YO to Cover Childcare for 5 Days?

[Anonymous]

This has to be a troll or a joke. If not, f no. Are you insane? You are terrible parents to ask this of your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:How is this trip only five days? It’s a minimum 23 hours from your house if you live in DC to the capital of the Maldives. You still then have to get to the resort.

The actual vacation is five days, not including flights.

Ok this is definitely a troll. You said you’d be away for 5 days. I’ve been to the Maldives and I know it can take more than a day just to get to your resort (not counting the return trip).

[Anonymous]

Don’t most people fly through the Middle East to get to the Maldives?

[Anonymous]

I think so. 19 is an adult. I would pay them, naturally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I assume this is a troll.

But in case it is not- NO it is not reasonable. Are you crazy?!

Why not? When I was 16 I took care of my 18 month old niece while my sister and BIL spent a weekend in NY city. Of course, that was 40 years ago and I was a very responsible 16 yr. old.

You had one toddler to care for not 6 kids. Her parents were in NY not 2-days travel away. And presumably your parents were close by to help if needed.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure, but this is a recipe to have many of your children choose to never have children because of your selfish choices.

I really think a lot of people don’t get big families. I posted previously that my parents did this once with our big family. Amongst us, we have 24 kids. And those 24 kids already have like another dozen. So no, none of us were so traumatized that we chose not to have children. All of us had at least 2.

Also from a big family and the key is that none of us had more than 2 … none of us wanted to repeat the chaos and borderline negligence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:F no. please parent the numerous children you chose to have. I am from a similar sized family and while I did help out while I was home for college my parents never left without an older adult to care for the younger ones.

This. It stinks having to raise your younger siblings. All while your parents get to gallivant and talk about how “we’re all a big family,” “our kids are so close,” and “we wouldn’t have it any other way!”

[Anonymous]

Solid troll post. She’s a troll. Well done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t most people fly through the Middle East to get to the Maldives?

Yep, through Dubai.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure, but this is a recipe to have many of your children choose to never have children because of your selfish choices.

I really think a lot of people don’t get big families. I posted previously that my parents did this once with our big family. Amongst us, we have 24 kids. And those 24 kids already have like another dozen. So no, none of us were so traumatized that we chose not to have children. All of us had at least 2.

Did any of you have as many as your parents?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Don’t most people fly through the Middle East to get to the Maldives?

Yep, through Dubai.

OP - what is your backup plan if Dubai airspace shuts down the week you are flying?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:This may not even be legal in your jurisdiction, OP. I just googled what you are suggesting and it runs afoul of most care rules. Even licensed day cares can’t have one person supervise more than three under age 12 and you have four. Are you not aware of the local family of 12 kids whose infant died because the father thought the eldest daughter was taking care of it and vice versa? It was left in the car after church and died. Father went to
Prison. Mother was in Europe. I would call social services on this in my neighborhood and I’m not even a Karen.

Laws about how many children someone can watch don’t apply to nuclear families.

Of course they do. One call to social services is all it takes. Did you know in some jurisdictions you can’t leave a 12 year-old child alone? And, yes, that is care by the nuclear family.

[Anonymous]

Give us an update, when you get back!

[Anonymous]

This is not something to figure out when you're travelling "soon"; you figure it out before you even book your plane tickets. I would not ask my 19-year-old to do this, and if I couldn't make arrangements for the kids, I would not take the trip.

[Anonymous]

Ask your 19yo if she’s got a friend who’d be interested in helping out. Otherwise this seems like a huge lift, since the two youngest kids will need a ton of attention and the other teens won’t listen to the 19yo unless they have a close, cooperative relationship.