Why do grown women post photos of social events?

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Anonymous wrote:It is strange to me that so many posters think that social media posts are intended to provoke jealousy. I want my friends and family to have good things in their lives. Someone else's nice house, vacation, or dinner doesn't take anything away from me.

It’s strange to me how many posters are acting like social media wasn’t invented to elicit feelings of jealousy and FOMO. That’s the whole business model.

Not true.

Really? You think happy people keep logging in over and over to see how happy everyone else is, too? That’s not how it works. And not how tech billionaires are made.

Yes. People do login to see how happy other people are. It’s wild that you don’t get that.

It’s wild that you are shocked there are downsides to social media.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

Well, see that’s the thing. I have a group of friends that’s pretty large and not everyone can make the gatherings we have several times a year. We take a group photo at every gathering and then someone texts it to the group chat. The people who couldn’t go see the photo (although they often feel sad bc they couldn’t attend), and the people who were there also see the photo. The question remains, when you post it on social media- who is it for? Why do people who aren’t connected to the group need to see the photos? That is the basic question.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It is strange to me that so many posters think that social media posts are intended to provoke jealousy. I want my friends and family to have good things in their lives. Someone else's nice house, vacation, or dinner doesn't take anything away from me.

It’s strange to me how many posters are acting like social media wasn’t invented to elicit feelings of jealousy and FOMO. That’s the whole business model.

It’s sad that you think that

It’s the truth. See Facemash’s origin story.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

The reality of that moment exists only for the people who were there. When you share a pic publicly, the moment doesn’t belong to you anymore—it’s open to interpretation by anyone who can see it. Some might feel happy, some might feel jealous, some might mock it. Some might act like they’re happy about it, but silently mock it. You can’t feel bad about that though, because you put it out there.

And yes, you are deliberately participating in a platform whose addictive properties have been documented repeatedly. So even if you’re not addicted, you’re still part of a societal problem.

[Anonymous]

Good grief this forum is full of seething lunatics. Imagine being triggered by seeing middle aged peers *gasp* having fun, socializing, and perhaps vacationing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good grief this forum is full of seething lunatics. Imagine being triggered by seeing middle aged peers *gasp* having fun, socializing, and perhaps vacationing.

Flaunting their vacationing!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

The reality of that moment exists only for the people who were there. When you share a pic publicly, the moment doesn’t belong to you anymore—it’s open to interpretation by anyone who can see it. Some might feel happy, some might feel jealous, some might mock it. Some might act like they’re happy about it, but silently mock it. You can’t feel bad about that though, because you put it out there.

And yes, you are deliberately participating in a platform whose addictive properties have been documented repeatedly. So even if you’re not addicted, you’re still part of a societal problem.

Cool. Now do alcohol. Let me guess, ThAt's DiFfeReNT!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Good grief this forum is full of seething lunatics. Imagine being triggered by seeing middle aged peers *gasp* having fun, socializing, and perhaps vacationing.

I think the ones really triggered are those realizing that their posting behavior is cringe.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

The reality of that moment exists only for the people who were there. When you share a pic publicly, the moment doesn’t belong to you anymore—it’s open to interpretation by anyone who can see it. Some might feel happy, some might feel jealous, some might mock it. Some might act like they’re happy about it, but silently mock it. You can’t feel bad about that though, because you put it out there.

And yes, you are deliberately participating in a platform whose addictive properties have been documented repeatedly. So even if you’re not addicted, you’re still part of a societal problem.

Cool. Now do alcohol. Let me guess, ThAt's DiFfeReNT!

Would you stand outside an AA meeting handing out cocktails?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

The reality of that moment exists only for the people who were there. When you share a pic publicly, the moment doesn’t belong to you anymore—it’s open to interpretation by anyone who can see it. Some might feel happy, some might feel jealous, some might mock it. Some might act like they’re happy about it, but silently mock it. You can’t feel bad about that though, because you put it out there.

And yes, you are deliberately participating in a platform whose addictive properties have been documented repeatedly. So even if you’re not addicted, you’re still part of a societal problem.

Cool. Now do alcohol. Let me guess, ThAt's DiFfeReNT!

Would you stand outside an AA meeting handing out cocktails?

Analogy fail. Your claim is that my drinking cocktails at home is harming alcoholics. Don't want to see my FB posts? Don't visit my FB page.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:So it is offensive if I post a pic with my friends at dinner/concert/party/whatever? What if we haven’t seen each other in many months/years and rarely post such things?

I don’t think it’s offensive. I think some people are just wondering who is it for when you do that?

It could be for us?

It could be for our friends who couldn’t join us (maybe they live far away)?

I mean, who are pictures generally for? Aren’t they a way to capture a moment?

The reality of that moment exists only for the people who were there. When you share a pic publicly, the moment doesn’t belong to you anymore—it’s open to interpretation by anyone who can see it. Some might feel happy, some might feel jealous, some might mock it. Some might act like they’re happy about it, but silently mock it. You can’t feel bad about that though, because you put it out there.

And yes, you are deliberately participating in a platform whose addictive properties have been documented repeatedly. So even if you’re not addicted, you’re still part of a societal problem.

Cool. Now do alcohol. Let me guess, ThAt's DiFfeReNT!

Would you stand outside an AA meeting handing out cocktails?

Analogy fail. Your claim is that my drinking cocktails at home is harming alcoholics. Don't want to see my FB posts? Don't visit my FB page.

Again, if you’re participating in the platform, you’re part of the societal problem. No one cares if you drink cocktails at home or take pictures of your girls night out and just keep them for your own enjoyment.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Good grief this forum is full of seething lunatics. Imagine being triggered by seeing middle aged peers *gasp* having fun, socializing, and perhaps vacationing.

I think the ones really triggered are those realizing that their posting behavior is cringe.

They are living under a rock wondering what all the fuss is about. They know, they just don't care, it's part of the charm of posting on social media.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Good grief this forum is full of seething lunatics. Imagine being triggered by seeing middle aged peers *gasp* having fun, socializing, and perhaps vacationing.

I think the ones really triggered are those realizing that their posting behavior is cringe.

There are lonely crazies requesting posts in this thread be deleted because they struck a nerve.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Good grief this forum is full of seething lunatics. Imagine being triggered by seeing middle aged peers *gasp* having fun, socializing, and perhaps vacationing.

I think the ones really triggered are those realizing that their posting behavior is cringe.

There are lonely crazies requesting posts in this thread be deleted because they struck a nerve.

It's pretty early in the day to be this angry. Maybe go look at your friends social media to cheer yourself up?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Because some of us use Facebook as our diaries and photo albums. That is all. Judge away: it’s not going to change. I love the convenience

I think it’s largely this. I’m not on much any more. I unfriended a lot of casual acquaintances for being MAGA. Mostly everyone else, I can call or text.