Which all-girls school has the mean girls

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Please be consistent with your comments and acronyms when referring to Academy of the Holy Cross and Connelly School of the Holy Child.

Academy of the Holy Cross - AHC

Connelly School of the Holy Child - HC

Makes a huge difference when you are commenting. You all are getting it and the readers confused.

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Anonymous wrote:I think Mean girls are one thing but beware of Mean moms who make sure the mean girl behavior is multiplied by a 1000. Having said that it is very grade dependent

Agree. We only have a handful at NCS thankfully but just having a few in a grade can have a negative effect. They are the usual suspects described above - Chevy and Congressional parents and kids can definitely have a vibe and set a tone.

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Stone Ridge for sure

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Anonymous wrote:I know they are almost everywhere, but where is this pervasive?

Boys and girls can be equally mean for the record.

We have friends at a variety of private schools in the DC, MD, VA area. The most common theme I hear from friends at all of these schools including ours is that the schools that have a very high percentage of parents that belong to either Chevy or Congo tend to also have a very distinct culture of mean kid/mean parent behavior. Yes, mean parents tend to have mean kids and for whatever reason those families and parents tend to cluster together in a very unhealthy way.

Agree. The 8th grade class at SR has a large number of girls whose families belong to Congo or Chevy. It seems the girls have learned their elitist/exclusive behavior from their moms.

Agree with all of this. Boys can also be very cruel and always get a pass. It seems that in addition to the country club culture, you find especially mean kids in Lacrosse. The kids of both create a culture of exclusivity that usually extends from their parents behavior.

Also the 10th grade class at SR is chock full of mean girls. Several girls switched schools because the bullying was so bad. Heard the same about 9th and now 8th too, something toxic is going on over there in the SR school culture.

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Anonymous wrote:I know they are almost everywhere, but where is this pervasive?

Boys and girls can be equally mean for the record.

We have friends at a variety of private schools in the DC, MD, VA area. The most common theme I hear from friends at all of these schools including ours is that the schools that have a very high percentage of parents that belong to either Chevy or Congo tend to also have a very distinct culture of mean kid/mean parent behavior. Yes, mean parents tend to have mean kids and for whatever reason those families and parents tend to cluster together in a very unhealthy way.

Agree. The 8th grade class at SR has a large number of girls whose families belong to Congo or Chevy. It seems the girls have learned their elitist/exclusive behavior from their moms.

Agree with all of this. Boys can also be very cruel and always get a pass. It seems that in addition to the country club culture, you find especially mean kids in Lacrosse. The kids of both create a culture of exclusivity that usually extends from their parents behavior.


We have heard so many stories about SR but I think a lot of those parents/families all belong to CCC. We also hear and have read on DCUM so many of these families came from NCS and it was the same atmosphere there too. Why do school admit these families knowing fully well about their exclusive behavior? Is it just about the bottom line "Money"?
Also the 10th grade class at SR is chock full of mean girls. Several girls switched schools because the bullying was so bad. Heard the same about 9th and now 8th too, something toxic is going on over there in the SR school culture.

Having now spent a few years in these schools, we have concluded that many in administration are just like (or want to be like) those horrible parents. Like attract like. Stay away.

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Dalton

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Anonymous wrote:I know they are almost everywhere, but where is this pervasive?

Boys and girls can be equally mean for the record.

We have friends at a variety of private schools in the DC, MD, VA area. The most common theme I hear from friends at all of these schools including ours is that the schools that have a very high percentage of parents that belong to either Chevy or Congo tend to also have a very distinct culture of mean kid/mean parent behavior. Yes, mean parents tend to have mean kids and for whatever reason those families and parents tend to cluster together in a very unhealthy way.

Agree. The 8th grade class at SR has a large number of girls whose families belong to Congo or Chevy. It seems the girls have learned their elitist/exclusive behavior from their moms.

Agree with all of this. Boys can also be very cruel and always get a pass. It seems that in addition to the country club culture, you find especially mean kids in Lacrosse. The kids of both create a culture of exclusivity that usually extends from their parents behavior.

Also the 10th grade class at SR is chock full of mean girls. Several girls switched schools because the bullying was so bad. Heard the same about 9th and now 8th too, something toxic is going on over there in the SR school culture.

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Like a PP said already, it’s the grades with high concentrations of country club/cotillion girls that have mean girls/mean moms. I’m sure it’s the case anywhere as some of these girls came from the same K-8’s

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You'd be hard pressed to find a mean girl at Madeira.



Hard-pressed to find a mean girl at Madeira? There are mean girls at Madeira, just not as many as at some schools. Someone is obviously drinking the Madeira Kool-Aid and also smoking something while she drinks.

I dunno, PP. My daughter, who is quite sensitive and has definitely seen mean girl behaviors at her K-8, says that she has absolutely not met any mean girls at Madeira. She is rather in awe of that, actually.

+1. The kindness at Madeira is impressive. Not every girl is best friends, but they treat each other respectfully remarkably consistently for this age cohort. Have experienced the opposite elsewhere.

Madeira doesn't really have a lot of girls in the social scene of the DMV. They are not really part of the social scene. My kids do not know anyone that attends Madeira. It is a very separate world from the DC/MD social scene. That may be a good thing? Not sure but it is difficult to compare.

The fact that you mentioned the “social scene” twice while also commenting that your kids don’t know anyone from Madeira is hilarious. I wasn’t aware that 1) there was only one “social scene” in the whole DC area and 2) that it was possible for kids to know everyone in that very same “social scene.” I’m getting the feeling that you belong to one of the country clubs cited upthread. And that your daughter attends one of the schools that have been discussed. And to answer your question as a Madeira mom, your post has confirmed that it is a good thing that Madeira girls may not be a part of this very important and exclusive “social scene” you speak so confidently of.

Actually there is a private school social scene mainly made up of the single sex schools. Not sure why that is but is true and yes Madeira is not part of that. Maybe because geographically they are so far away? They are just not part of it.

Which schools do your kids attend?

Helpful info for OP.

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Anonymous wrote:There is no school that has “pervasive” mean girls. The level of mean girl and cliquish behavior is entirely cohort dependent.

This, but also: Holton.

Lol. This.

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Anonymous wrote:Stone Ridge for sure

Ugggg, really, can you share more?

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Stone Ridge = Meanies

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Anonymous wrote:Holton is next level mean girl. So much social pressure to navigate and the best part is that the school claims to care deeply about emotional health.

So odd. I have friends with daughters there and they don't report that. I wonder if it's cohort-specific. What grade(s)?

Yes. 100%. Not mean girls. But there is a mean parent trying to cause drama on this site.

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Anonymous wrote:Holton is next level mean girl. So much social pressure to navigate and the best part is that the school claims to care deeply about emotional health.

So odd. I have friends with daughters there and they don't report that. I wonder if it's cohort-specific. What grade(s)?

Yes. 100%. Not mean girls. But there is a mean parent trying to cause drama on this site.

DP. Same poster that revived the black at Instagram post from 4 years ago?

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Apparently NCS has mean parents if you look at the post they had complaining about their commencement speaker yesterday. Not a good look!

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Anonymous wrote:NCS

No not really. Op I would only be concerned if your daughter is entering crew as the crew parents and girls seem to have a LOT of drama and just seems to be a constant center of complaining and gossip.