How do I stop being a repeater? I repeat things during the conversation
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Anonymous
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I notice my worst habit may be that in conversation, I repeat things. At work, at home, to everyone.
How do I stop this habit? It’s not that I don’t know that I’ve said it before but it’s that I end up phrasing it differently at the second point of the conversation. Person 1: Kristine doesn’t like cats. She doesn’t. She cried and hid in the basement when she saw Fluffy. Me: I know! Ever since we were in elementary school, it was in 5th grade, she has never liked cats. I’m not sure why she lied to you. Person 1: Me either! Me: Ever since 5th grade, she has not liked cats. Me: DH please stop by Target after you pickup Joanne from soccer. DH: Ok Me: Once you are at Target, get the Kenyan coffee. Don’t forget to get that after Joanne is picked up. DH: You are repeating yourself, I won’t forget. It just happens over and over to me. How can I stop repeating myself? It’s not that I am not getting their response. Or maybe am I rejecting their response subconsciously? |
Anonymous
| Do you have anxiety or OCD? My husband, his father, and now my DC do exactly this. |
Anonymous
| Interesting. My MIL does this and it’s totally annoying, but linked to her anxiety. |
Anonymous
| My mother did this and now I'm noticing I'm doing it to. Its almost like I can't stop myself. Sorry I can't be more help OP - but you are not alone. |
Anonymous
oops "too" |
Anonymous
| I do this and it drives my family nuts. I've heard it called circular versus linear talking. It can be related to communication in the culture you grew up in |
Anonymous
Thanks for not using 'Larla'! |
Anonymous
This. Talk to your doc, this is a classic sign. |
Anonymous
| Repeating has been shown in people who are autistic and those entering dementia among probably a whole list of of other "disorders." Either one run in your family? |
Anonymous
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My anxious mother repeats. I remind her, "I understand. You don't have to say it again." And then she does, it's a compulsion for her. She says she does it to help herself remember, like a verbal to-do list.
It's pretty annoying even though it's been a lifetime of it. |
Anonymous
| I paraphrase myself, usually as a concluding phrase at the end of an explanation. My teens get annoyed. I wonder if it annoys anyone else. |
Anonymous
And yes, I have anxiety. Sigh. Another thing to worry about. |
Anonymous
| My husband not only repeats himself constantly, but when I am speaking he repeats back to me what I am saying as I go (like talking over me at a slight delay). It drives me F*%(ing nuts and I have pointed it out to him. He claims anxiety. I don't care what it is, but I need it to stop. Have you considered just being quiet and nodding? |
Anonymous
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Me too. I did it in high school already when writing an essay. Instead of moving on to the next idea, I wrote the same idea a little bit differently. They tried to make a writer out of me and that was the outcome. I cannot write and dislike it so much.
As I have got older, I started to repeat things and stories that interest me. I feel like nobody is listening. Zero special needs, I promise. Just very small vocabulary. I grew up on a farm with nobody to talk to. |
Anonymous
| You're anxious. |