In a relationship is sex more important to men or women?

[Anonymous]

In a relationship is sex more important to men or women?

[Anonymous]

In a marriage without a doubt in the long run it's more important to women and it's a great source of tension among couples. Men unfortunately can peak sexually very early. Some men as early as their 40s they will be fine just fine being in a sexless marriage. For women if they agree to it it's 99.99% because they are choosing to compromise.

I am not a medica expert but it's possible that women release different hormones compared to men when they have sex and sex is really important to them.

[Anonymous]

Women

[Anonymous]

Men, of course

[Anonymous]

After awhile in my marriage it was way more important to me than it was to him. That's why we got divorced. After the divorce, I had some awesome sex and he had pretty much none, for years.

[Anonymous]

Woman here.
Sex is more important to women.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Woman here.
Sex is more important to women.

why? Man here. I don't agree.

[Anonymous]

Am surprised by all the women saying it's more important to them.

Woman here, with an active s-x life in my 25 year marriage. Every woman I know is totally indifferent to sex in their marriage by mid 40s. Or if we think it is important, it is important only because our husbands think it is important - and we love our husbands so want to maintain that closeness with them through s-x. That is, if my DH thought watching netflix nightly was an important part of staying emotionally close, I would put a high priority on watching netflix nightly and would take pleasure from it because it keeps us close. Even if i don't have a personal desire to watch netflix. If our DHs decided tomorrow that they were all happy having s-x just once or twice a year, I don't know any women who would care.

I think the women responding and saying it is more important for women.... are likely in dead marriages and want to point to s-x as the problem when it's likely something else.

[Anonymous]

I think women. It's one of the prime reason woman cheat on their spouses.

Men just want to f**k and c***m. Most women will get zero satisfaction from a 5 mins session while for most men 5 mins is enough for them to get their urge satisfied

[Anonymous]

5 min is too short but better than nothing. I need 10 min to fill fulfilled emotionally and sexually. 15 min is perfect.

-Woman

PS I don’t think it’s gender based, OP.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:5 min is too short but better than nothing. I need 10 min to fill fulfilled emotionally and sexually. 15 min is perfect.

-Woman

PS I don’t think it’s gender based, OP.

This. Men (most) don't have the same emotional connection to sex the way women do.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Am surprised by all the women saying it's more important to them.

Woman here, with an active s-x life in my 25 year marriage. Every woman I know is totally indifferent to sex in their marriage by mid 40s. Or if we think it is important, it is important only because our husbands think it is important - and we love our husbands so want to maintain that closeness with them through s-x. That is, if my DH thought watching netflix nightly was an important part of staying emotionally close, I would put a high priority on watching netflix nightly and would take pleasure from it because it keeps us close. Even if i don't have a personal desire to watch netflix. If our DHs decided tomorrow that they were all happy having s-x just once or twice a year, I don't know any women who would care.

I think the women responding and saying it is more important for women.... are likely in dead marriages and want to point to s-x as the problem when it's likely something else.

Good insights and thanks for sharing. I get the impression though at least on this forum women tend to desire more sex and are more vocal about it particularly when they get into their 40s. It seems to me biologically women get hornier than men as they age which is horrible for men timing wise as most men are older by their spouses by at least couple of years and are likely to peak soon. And further stress has a massive negative impact on a man's libido more so than a woman.

[Anonymous]

Why do so many men as soon as they c**m they are completely disconnected? I'm some cases they don't even want to cuddle and so forth..

[Anonymous]

As a woman I think aging has a more negative effect on sex drives on women than on men. Dryness becomes a real problem and dealing with it is not easy. For men, ED can be a problem but a simple pill can solve the problem. We’ve been married 40 years and we still enjoy weekly sex so it is still important to both of us. A nice back rub, massage and then foreplay can still rock me as my husband really gets going.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In a marriage without a doubt in the long run it's more important to women and it's a great source of tension among couples. Men unfortunately can peak sexually very early. Some men as early as their 40s they will be fine just fine being in a sexless marriage. For women if they agree to it it's 99.99% because they are choosing to compromise.

I am not a medica expert but it's possible that women release different hormones compared to men when they have sex and sex is really important to them.

Is this satire?