Not having to be nice to in-laws is amazing
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Anonymous
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Going to get a lot of flack for this but I can’t say this anywhere else. I’ve subconsciously been extra nice to in laws over the last decade because they are very wealthy. Never did this consciously, but I’ve come to realize how many times I’ve allowed them to be prioritized over my family for holidays, vacations, even the hotel room allocations for our wedding. Didn’t do this because they gave us money (they never did) but because they would always give in other ways (extravagant gifts, meals) which made us feel beholden to them, even if they never said they expected anything and we never asked for any of this.
Recently we’ve had a windfall which puts us almost on par with them. We really don’t need anything they can give us anymore. It’s an AMAZING feeling. We are going where we want for the holidays and don’t feel the need to be nice about everything. It is true what they say, there are always strings and having your own money is power |
Anonymous
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You sound nasty.
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Anonymous
| Super. Now you can control your kids. You prioritized your in laws because they could buy you nicer treats? |
Anonymous
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At every level you sound like a toxic human being. You would be nice to people ONLY because they buy you nice treats? And then when you can buy them yourself you are all: F you?
You should be nice to people, especially family, hopefully because you respect and care about them, even when they are frustrating (just as you are frustrating to them) or at the very lease because you want to show your kids how to be nice so they in turn will know how to be nice to you when you are older and they have their own priorities. But then to say F you when you no longer need them? Remember this when your own kids throw it back at you. |
Anonymous
| You didn’t say the ILs were mean to you; just that you were nice to them so they could buy you stuff. You sound like the a$$hole. |
Anonymous
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It seems right to wish for karma in such a situation. |
Anonymous
+1 yikes |
Anonymous
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You're so cold and transactional. Are you like this for everyone? Maybe you're a sociopath.
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Anonymous
| I hope your in-laws see this and cut you off. |
Anonymous
| So you’re nice to them so you can have nice things paid for? That’s very … shallow. |
Anonymous
| I'm not a fan of my inlaws but damn, this is straight up soulless. |
Anonymous
| This is a deeply disturbing post, OP. |
Anonymous
| Yikes op! Keep your money and stay away from me (and the in-laws)!! |
Anonymous
| Were they unkind in any way? I feel like this was all an ongoing situation you created in your head. You created this dynamic. At least you are aware not to express this out loud anywhere else. |
Anonymous
| Holy moly. You come across as lacking real bonds with family. |