Not having to be nice to in-laws is amazing

[Anonymous]

Everyone turning on OP, but if you think money has no impact on relationships then you are naive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone turning on OP, but if you think money has no impact on relationships then you are naive.

Maybe. But now OP can continue the cycle with her own kids.

[Anonymous]

I wonder what OP must treat people like who have less than she has and can’t do anything for her. Like gum on her shoe?

[Anonymous]

So you used them for money for years? Now treat them bad since you don't need them?

You sound like an ugly person.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Everyone turning on OP, but if you think money has no impact on relationships then you are naive.

Obv. But no one in their right mind will express themselves as crudely. It’s simply not done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Everyone turning on OP, but if you think money has no impact on relationships then you are naive.

Obv. But no one in their right mind will express themselves as crudely. It’s simply not done.

Well, op is empowering so many people through her post.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Going to get a lot of flack for this but I can’t say this anywhere else. I’ve subconsciously been extra nice to in laws over the last decade because they are very wealthy. Never did this consciously, but I’ve come to realize how many times I’ve allowed them to be prioritized over my family for holidays, vacations, even the hotel room allocations for our wedding. Didn’t do this because they gave us money (they never did) but because they would always give in other ways (extravagant gifts, meals) which made us feel beholden to them, even if they never said they expected anything and we never asked for any of this.

Recently we’ve had a windfall which puts us almost on par with them. We really don’t need anything they can give us anymore. It’s an AMAZING feeling. We are going where we want for the holidays and don’t feel the need to be nice about everything. It is true what they say, there are always strings and having your own money is power

Nobody believes you. Why not be nice just because?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Going to get a lot of flack for this but I can’t say this anywhere else. I’ve subconsciously been extra nice to in laws over the last decade because they are very wealthy. Never did this consciously, but I’ve come to realize how many times I’ve allowed them to be prioritized over my family for holidays, vacations, even the hotel room allocations for our wedding. Didn’t do this because they gave us money (they never did) but because they would always give in other ways (extravagant gifts, meals) which made us feel beholden to them, even if they never said they expected anything and we never asked for any of this.

Recently we’ve had a windfall which puts us almost on par with them. We really don’t need anything they can give us anymore. It’s an AMAZING feeling. We are going where we want for the holidays and don’t feel the need to be nice about everything. It is true what they say, there are always strings and having your own money is power

So you were only nice to get things? That seems awfully manipulative on your part.

I feel sorry for them. They probably thought they had a genuine relationship with you instead of a transactional one.

[Anonymous]

I was expecting to hear about toxicity and drama coming from the ILs to support OPs headline. Maybe there is more to the story. Maybe OP is a shallow gold digger and can now become even shallower and materialistic with the windfall. Dunno.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I was expecting to hear about toxicity and drama coming from the ILs to support OPs headline. Maybe there is more to the story. Maybe OP is a shallow gold digger and can now become even shallower and materialistic with the windfall. Dunno.

Don't worry; the OP will come back soon to backpedal and tell us all kinds of stories about how nasty her ILs are and that they are terrible people lol:

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Going to get a lot of flack for this but I can’t say this anywhere else. I’ve subconsciously been extra nice to in laws over the last decade because they are very wealthy. Never did this consciously, but I’ve come to realize how many times I’ve allowed them to be prioritized over my family for holidays, vacations, even the hotel room allocations for our wedding. Didn’t do this because they gave us money (they never did) but because they would always give in other ways (extravagant gifts, meals) which made us feel beholden to them, even if they never said they expected anything and we never asked for any of this.

Recently we’ve had a windfall which puts us almost on par with them. We really don’t need anything they can give us anymore. It’s an AMAZING feeling. We are going where we want for the holidays and don’t feel the need to be nice about everything. It is true what they say, there are always strings and having your own money is power

Nobody believes you. Why not be nice just because?

Because OP is not capable.

[Anonymous]

Good position to be in. You can be a nice person but you don’t feel pressure to agree with situations/things you are uncomfortable with because you are financially free.

[Anonymous]

You’re still hung up about the wedding hotel rooms after 10 years? You need to let stuff go.

[Anonymous]

Yuck! My ILs are wealthy and very generous but I’ve never prioritized them over my family because of their generosity. Nor can I imagine them ever thinking I would. OP needs help!

[Anonymous]

So you were greedy and not you don't have to be greedy? What a horrible rant from a horrible person. You ditched your parents BCS you wanted money, wow, what a message.