Twins creating separate lives

[Anonymous]

If you have adult twins, how separate are their lives? My 27 year olds don't have very separate lives. They went to the same college and we insisted on different roommates for freshman year, but then they lived together the other 3. They got an apartment post grad and recently bought a house together. They both have great jobs in totally different fields (one is a nurse practitioner and one is a CPA) but otherwise mostly just stick to each other. k

[Anonymous]

Well, at least they have each other, OP. One of my children has no friends. At all.

[Anonymous]

I don’t have twins, but my sister is married to an identical twin. The twins went to the same college; where my sister met her husband. They married right after college. The other brother had a brief marriage, but basically is a third wheel to my sister’s family. He is at their house most weekends or during the week. Sometimes they all vacation together, or the vacation alone. The other brother sometimes joins our side of the family for the holidays. The brothers are a matched set and we all accept that.

[Anonymous]

Just curious what the moral is here…make sure twins attend different colleges? Have different friend groups in HS?

…or you want them to be attached for life?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Well, at least they have each other, OP. One of my children has no friends. At all.

Debbie Downer and irrelevant.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Just curious what the moral is here…make sure twins attend different colleges? Have different friend groups in HS?

…or you want them to be attached for life?

why does there have to be a moral?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Just curious what the moral is here…make sure twins attend different colleges? Have different friend groups in HS?

…or you want them to be attached for life?

why does there have to be a moral?

Trying to understand is happy about the current situation or not..and what parents should consider with twins.

Sounds like the parents are not happy the twins are so attached…but not 100% sure

[Anonymous]

do they have other friends?

[Anonymous]

Are they happy?

Having lived through several friendships and failed relationships and now in a shitty marriage, I'd take a reliable, fun, joyful sibling relationship any day.

Don't fix what's not broken, OP. Love is a gift in any form.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I don’t have twins, but my sister is married to an identical twin. The twins went to the same college; where my sister met her husband. They married right after college. The other brother had a brief marriage, but basically is a third wheel to my sister’s family. He is at their house most weekends or during the week. Sometimes they all vacation together, or the vacation alone. The other brother sometimes joins our side of the family for the holidays. The brothers are a matched set and we all accept that.

Why? Is there some reason a twin gets a pass vs just a sibling…or would the sibling get the same treatment?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Well, at least they have each other, OP. One of my children has no friends. At all.

Debbie Downer and irrelevant.

Np how is the pp a 'debbie downer?' Op's kids are adults. Let them live their lives

[Anonymous]

I knew twins like this in college and assumed they’d live together forever, but now they are married and live a few hours apart.

It seems like a gift to me to have that relationship.

[Anonymous]

Sounds like a beautiful thing. Really confused about why any one would view this as any kind of problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you have adult twins, how separate are their lives? My 27 year olds don't have very separate lives. They went to the same college and we insisted on different roommates for freshman year, but then they lived together the other 3. They got an apartment post grad and recently bought a house together. They both have great jobs in totally different fields (one is a nurse practitioner and one is a CPA) but otherwise mostly just stick to each other. k

Its great to have a built in life long best friend in your twin but they must trying few years of living apart in different states for individual growth and romantic relationships.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I don’t have twins, but my sister is married to an identical twin. The twins went to the same college; where my sister met her husband. They married right after college. The other brother had a brief marriage, but basically is a third wheel to my sister’s family. He is at their house most weekends or during the week. Sometimes they all vacation together, or the vacation alone. The other brother sometimes joins our side of the family for the holidays. The brothers are a matched set and we all accept that.

Why? Is there some reason a twin gets a pass vs just a sibling…or would the sibling get the same treatment?

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