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Ugh. I started seeing someone a month ago.
We met online I looked him up because he said something that felt off, and after going down a rabbit hole I found out he's married. We were never intimate. I blocked him on everything. I did nothing wrong but I feel like crap. |
| Don’t feel bad. You did the right thing. He is the ahole. |
| This happened to me too. Started dating someone and then after a month or two in they shared they were still married. It happens, it sucks, and people suck sometimes! |
| What’s the big deal? Marriage is on the outs |
some people would rather not be involved with someone who is MARRIES. that's the big deal. some people would also rather not be involved with a CHEATER! |
I’m curious, what did he say that felt “off?” This may be useful for other people. |
Not everyone has loose morals like you. |
| Oh no you are not at fault. He is a liar and a cheat you dodged a bullet. |
Definitely this, OP. You are not at fault. I’m sorry he lied to you and wasted your time. You’re a good person. |
| It happens. A friend was seeing a guy and we all knew something was off because they never had any real dates -- he works in a public place and would have her come visit him at work, and he would go to her place. He claimed he was in the middle of getting a divorce. She started digging and found out he and his wife closed on a new house while she was dating him and he was supposedly separated. |
He said that he had to get off the phone because his son and grandson were pulling up. He explained that his son needed him. He was now a single dad who worked overnight and He would watch his grandson overnight. He didn't say I'll text you later, he couldn't talk until the next day. I remember thinking wow, he started as a really young grandad. I discovered through sleuthing that he also lied about his age by 10 years. |
| OP: that isn't the first or last married man who you will date. |
| It will be ok. You sensed something was off. Good for you! You dodged a bullet. Go do something nice for yourself and forget about him. |
| Don’t feel bad OP. He was lying about more than being married, sounds like a sociopath, you 100% dodged a bullet. |
This happened to me. It went on almost a year. We were intimate. |