Dating someone who works in politics

[Anonymous]

Is it possible for a normal person, who has no connection to politics other than reading the news and voting, to date someone who works in politics.

Boyfriend works for a political organization. I am a normal person. I follow politics and have opinions. I am much more moderate than my boyfriend, who I would consider borderline extreme. I agree with him on about half of the issues. On the other half I technically agree with him but I think he’s too militant.

The issue is that he is SO inflammatory and argumentative. I am currently frustrated because I had a bad day, called him, politics came up, and he started with the routine where he treats me like a guest on a political podcast. Again, I’ve had a horrific day at work, so the constant cutting me off (initially I was like “Oh I didn’t hear about that” and then I went full deflection/change the subject mode) was really making my blood pressure go up. I finally got pissed when I said “You know, I don’t know about this, all I’m finding are articles from XYZ-“ At which point he cut me off and snidely said “Yeah, because they’re never biased.” I was like actually if you had let me finish, I was LITERALLY about to say that it’s a biased source so I would need to do more research. Maybe we don’t talk to our significant others like they’re stupid when they’ve had a bad day, at which point he claimed he wasn’t talking to me like I’m stupid and “anyway I have work I could be doing so goodbye.” Unreal. Not “Oh, sorry. You’re right, I’m talking to you like I talk to people from the opposing side at work, even though you didn’t inherently disagree with me AND you mentioned earlier that work was so stressful you cried at lunch.” Not even just “Sorry”!

What I would LIKE to do at the moment is text him and say “You know what? I had a shit day so don’t talk to me until you’re prepared to have a normal conversation with me, and if that never happens maybe you can date a girl from work because you clearly need someone who just tells you youre right all the time! And there are only about ten people on this earth who will do that! Goodbye!” But other than this he’s a good boyfriend and I love him. Also I’m not a teenager. So I can’t be immature.

Anyway I’m venting because this all happened about 20 minutes ago and I’m mad. My question is, is it possible for a normal person whose involvement in politics is a quick scan of the Post (or I guess that was my involvement before I met him) to date someone whose involvement in politics is literally their livelihood? If this is you and your significant other or spouse, what are your ground rules?

[Anonymous]

of course you can date someone who works in politics. but whether you want to date this guy? sounds like no. not everyone who works in this field is like this.

[Anonymous]

I don't think that's an issue with politics or even you two agreeing/disagreeing on the policies. I think he sounds extremely inflammatory and argumentative as you said and that would be exhausting.

[Anonymous]

Oh lord you are mad lol. But, I would be too. That's annoying.

I would just shut it down every time it comes up. And if it keeps coming up to the point that you're constantly shutting it down, I would shut this down.

[Anonymous]

It's not politics, it's him. He is clearly a combative person.

[Anonymous]

If they think you are a catch then want the ring right there and then. Women give the impression that they have lots of choices because men always pursue them , but they are well aware of quality issues

[Anonymous]

Sounds like he's a lawyer for a political organization based on the argumentative conversations. Just started pleading the 5th.

[Anonymous]

IMO no.

[Anonymous]

No. For reasons like this.

[Anonymous]

Clever people in politics listen (and then take advantage of what you tell them). This guy doesn’t sound like much of a politico.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clever people in politics listen (and then take advantage of what you tell them). This guy doesn’t sound like much of a politico.

this sounds like what someone who has never lived in DC thinks people in DC would say.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clever people in politics listen (and then take advantage of what you tell them). This guy doesn’t sound like much of a politico.

I don’t think he is a politico, or even an aspiring one. Sounds like he’s an aspiring pundit or litigator of some kind.

[Anonymous]

This has nothing to do with his field and everything to do with him.

[Anonymous]

This is him. But I do think a lot of people like him are drawn to politics.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Clever people in politics listen (and then take advantage of what you tell them). This guy doesn’t sound like much of a politico.

Have you followed politics in the last decade? Clever people don’t go into politics anymore, only stark raving lunatics, and no one listens. They just insult people and encourage their bases to hate half the country.