Just for laughs - a sex talk with my tween

[Anonymous]

My 11 year old had “puberty education” recently and was pretty open to discussing things she’d learned. In our district they then do additional sex Ed in eighth grade.

I decided she should know about oral as well since I’ve read about that being a thing some middle schoolers engage in and - while she has zero interest in any sexual activity now - I know things can change.

After telling her about this her reaction was horrified / “what?!? Why would anyone do that?!?”

I said that, as far as I’m concerned, if two adults consent to behavior where it’s respectful and safe and no one is hurt they can “dress up in cow costumes and moo at each other and I wouldn’t care.”
My DD’s reaction was “well that at least sounds like it would actually be fun!”

[Anonymous]

HAHAHAHAHAHA

Good job, OP!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My 11 year old had “puberty education” recently and was pretty open to discussing things she’d learned. In our district they then do additional sex Ed in eighth grade.

I decided she should know about oral as well since I’ve read about that being a thing some middle schoolers engage in and - while she has zero interest in any sexual activity now - I know things can change.

After telling her about this her reaction was horrified / “what?!? Why would anyone do that?!?”

I said that, as far as I’m concerned, if two adults consent to behavior where it’s respectful and safe and no one is hurt they can “dress up in cow costumes and moo at each other and I wouldn’t care.”
My DD’s reaction was “well that at least sounds like it would actually be fun!”

why are you pushing oral on your child?

[Anonymous]

Op here. I told her there was another type of sex I didn’t know if she’d learned about, but that she shouldn’t ever do it if she’s pressured and if someday she chooses to do it she should know you can still catch diseases and need to protect yourself. I’d rather have that conversation when it’s not something she’d consider than wish I had told her later.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My 11 year old had “puberty education” recently and was pretty open to discussing things she’d learned. In our district they then do additional sex Ed in eighth grade.

I decided she should know about oral as well since I’ve read about that being a thing some middle schoolers engage in and - while she has zero interest in any sexual activity now - I know things can change.

After telling her about this her reaction was horrified / “what?!? Why would anyone do that?!?”

I said that, as far as I’m concerned, if two adults consent to behavior where it’s respectful and safe and no one is hurt they can “dress up in cow costumes and moo at each other and I wouldn’t care.”
My DD’s reaction was “well that at least sounds like it would actually be fun!”

why are you pushing oral on your child?

She did use the word “adults”, so she is saner than many DCUM-ers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I told her there was another type of sex I didn’t know if she’d learned about, but that she shouldn’t ever do it if she’s pressured and if someday she chooses to do it she should know you can still catch diseases and need to protect yourself. I’d rather have that conversation when it’s not something she’d consider than wish I had told her later.

yeah, thanks. now your child is going to break the news to my child about all that stuff my child doesn't care about. i am sure she will focus on the exact elements you emphasized and flawlessly relay your perspective.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I told her there was another type of sex I didn’t know if she’d learned about, but that she shouldn’t ever do it if she’s pressured and if someday she chooses to do it she should know you can still catch diseases and need to protect yourself. I’d rather have that conversation when it’s not something she’d consider than wish I had told her later.

yeah, thanks. now your child is going to break the news to my child about all that stuff my child doesn't care about. i am sure she will focus on the exact elements you emphasized and flawlessly relay your perspective.

I would so much rather my kid's friends shared what they learned about this from their parents than from older siblings or TV. If you think your 11 year old isn't going to be hearing about this anyway whether OP educated her daughter or not, then you are part of the problem.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I told her there was another type of sex I didn’t know if she’d learned about, but that she shouldn’t ever do it if she’s pressured and if someday she chooses to do it she should know you can still catch diseases and need to protect yourself. I’d rather have that conversation when it’s not something she’d consider than wish I had told her later.

yeah, thanks. now your child is going to break the news to my child about all that stuff my child doesn't care about. i am sure she will focus on the exact elements you emphasized and flawlessly relay your perspective.

I would so much rather my kid's friends shared what they learned about this from their parents than from older siblings or TV. If you think your 11 year old isn't going to be hearing about this anyway whether OP educated her daughter or not, then you are part of the problem.

no, parents eager to talk oral sex with their uninterested 11 year olds are the problem.

[Anonymous]

One of my strongest memories of 2nd grade is the indoor recess when a bunch of kids gathered in the corner and started talking about sex. What we heard, what we’d seen— and the misinformation was wild.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I told her there was another type of sex I didn’t know if she’d learned about, but that she shouldn’t ever do it if she’s pressured and if someday she chooses to do it she should know you can still catch diseases and need to protect yourself. I’d rather have that conversation when it’s not something she’d consider than wish I had told her later.

yeah, thanks. now your child is going to break the news to my child about all that stuff my child doesn't care about. i am sure she will focus on the exact elements you emphasized and flawlessly relay your perspective.

Well hopefully OP’s kid will talk to yours since you’re going with ignorance for your daughter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op here. I told her there was another type of sex I didn’t know if she’d learned about, but that she shouldn’t ever do it if she’s pressured and if someday she chooses to do it she should know you can still catch diseases and need to protect yourself. I’d rather have that conversation when it’s not something she’d consider than wish I had told her later.

yeah, thanks. now your child is going to break the news to my child about all that stuff my child doesn't care about. i am sure she will focus on the exact elements you emphasized and flawlessly relay your perspective.

I would so much rather my kid's friends shared what they learned about this from their parents than from older siblings or TV. If you think your 11 year old isn't going to be hearing about this anyway whether OP educated her daughter or not, then you are part of the problem.

no, parents eager to talk oral sex with their uninterested 11 year olds are the problem.

Exactly—wait until after some teen boy explains to her exactly what he wants her to do.

[Anonymous]

If your child is going to school with kids who have phones, it's a race to see who gets explain "things" to your kid. Either you can do it in a loving way or have Jimmy thrust a video of 69 in her face with her having no context about what she's seeing.
Which is more trauma? You choose.

Don't care how upright of a school your kid goes to. This is how it goes down with phones or older siblings doing the educating. Don't stick your head in the sand and leave your kid defenseless.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your child is going to school with kids who have phones, it's a race to see who gets explain "things" to your kid. Either you can do it in a loving way or have Jimmy thrust a video of 69 in her face with her having no context about what she's seeing.
Which is more trauma? You choose.

Don't care how upright of a school your kid goes to. This is how it goes down with phones or older siblings doing the educating. Don't stick your head in the sand and leave your kid defenseless.

actually, your parents pushing sex on you is more "trauma". kids are supposed to "learn" this from other kids.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If your child is going to school with kids who have phones, it's a race to see who gets explain "things" to your kid. Either you can do it in a loving way or have Jimmy thrust a video of 69 in her face with her having no context about what she's seeing.
Which is more trauma? You choose.

Don't care how upright of a school your kid goes to. This is how it goes down with phones or older siblings doing the educating. Don't stick your head in the sand and leave your kid defenseless.

kids who can't even have peace are home with their mother jumping to talk sex are the defenseless ones.

[Anonymous]

OP, my 11 yo kid got the same talk and had the same reaction, lol. Don't listen to the people who want kids to be ignorant until it's too late. She has 12 yos in her class and there are unfortunately kids watching porn or even sexually active at that age.