Divorced childless friend putting down husbands

[Anonymous]

I have a childless divorced friend who often puts down the husbands of our friends. She will call them losers or tools and say she is so glad not to be stuck with a loser like Jack. She will say that she can’t imagine coparenting with her ex, John, to have to be in constant contact over the kids and have him be in her life forever. I’m not sure if she is genuinely happy not to be married or divorced sharing custody or she is just a hater. It is fine to be glad to no longer be married but I don’t think it is necessary to put down others’ husbands for no reason.

Why do you think she does this?

[Anonymous]

Deep down she knows she sucks and is insecure.

[Anonymous]

Jealousy and sour grapes.

You know she likely talks smack about you and yours, too.

I'd distance.

[Anonymous]

Time to slow fade.

[Anonymous]

Yuck. She sounds very bitter and unhappy and determined to make it everyone else’s problem, whether she realizes she’s doing it or not.

If she is a good friend, I might point out that putting down other friends’ spouses isn’t a great way to convince everyone that she’s living the dream. If she isn’t a good friend, I’d slow fade, because she’s definitely talking about you and your husband, too.

[Anonymous]

Cringe, very cringe.

People who do that are clearly feeling the opposite of what they express.

Please point this out to her.

[Anonymous]

She’s not genuinely happy. If she was, she would quietly revel in her single childless bliss. She’s mad jelly with a dash of salt.

[Anonymous]

This is one of the reasons divorce is contagious.

[Anonymous]

Calling people users or tools is unacceptable. I’d distance myself.

[Anonymous]

Stop complaining about your loser husband to her.

[Anonymous]

Do you like this person? Is she actually your friend? If so, have a conversation with her about it where you express curiosity about what's going on and tell her how it makes you feel when she does this.

If you don't like her, don't let her think you're her friend.

[Anonymous]

doubt she's jealous of the husband. She probably does wish she had kids, but sees that window closing, so she has to remind herself she'd be miserable parenting /married to the manchild she divorced and she does that by remembering how annoying men can be.

[Anonymous]

I am divorced and never make comments. But I am so glad I am not married. Most men are just not worth it. She is verbalizing it.

I don’t think this means she is unhappy or jealous. I think she does not know how to interact socially.

[Anonymous]

I had a friend who did this. I ended up distancing myself from her because I found myself telling her negative things about men just to make her feel better.

[Anonymous]

She does it because they suck and are losers