Would it be weird to ask to be reimbursed?
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Anonymous
| Long story short, DD13 and two of her friends, amongst themselves, planned a little outing/activity, but they needed someone to drive them. I agreed to pick them all up from school and take them, but I asked DD to let them know they needed money. It was $30 a person. She assured me she told them and they would have money. When we got there, neither of the girls had any money, so I ended up paying. Yes, it was only $30 a girl, but that came to $90 out of my pocket. I can’t think of a tactful way to ask the parents for the money. Should I just cut my losses or do you have any ideas? |
Anonymous
| Yeah, you need to eat that. |
Anonymous
+1. Lesson learned. |
Anonymous
| I think your daughter was not completely honest about the cost |
Anonymous
| Next time ask them for the money in advance or take them back home if you don’t want to pay. Don’t go begging parents for $30. |
Anonymous
| I’d be inclined to ask DD to cover 1/2. Apparently she was organizing this and these were her friends. If she’s old enough to be taking charge, she’s old enough to be taking some responsibility. Maybe she’ll be able to get the money from her friends, or maybe she’ll be more careful in the future who she invites and how she communicates who pays for what. |
Anonymous
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I would ask but just once and chalk it up to a lesson learned if they don’t pay.
“I lent Larla $30 because she forgot to bring her money for admission. Please Venmo when you have a chance”. I would pay you immediately and not think anything of it. |
Anonymous
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You were only out $60 because it sounds like your daughter was going to make you pay for her.
You could have suggested to your daughter that she pay for her friends or not do the activity. What did the girls say when they were asked for entrance money and they didn’t have any? If they all started to cry, realizing the issue, and you agreed to bail them out but said you’d have to ask their parents to repay you, then it doesn’t sound like a problem for you to request the money the girls owed you. |
Anonymous
| Fine to ask for Venmo |
Anonymous
| Do you have the parents contact info? I would send a short text or email and let them know you paid the admission fee and give them your venmo. |
Anonymous
| If it were me, I wouldn't ask for a reimbursement but I would remember for next time to ask "Does everyone have their money?" when I pick them up not at the venue. |
Anonymous
| I wouldn’t bat an eyelash about a text asking for reimbursement in this situation. |
Anonymous
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That's why it's good to know the parents or least just a bit. You don't need to hang out with them if you don't want to. But, you need to know who your kids hang out with. If you sense they are filthy rich, ok, not a problem but I'm not going to act like I have that money to spend on all the kids. Because it will happen again.
Kids don't know where the money come from. I would go through the child. Not everyone has $90 to spend each time the kids goes out with their friends. That's crazy to think I'm going to cover your friends expenses each time. If they want to do it, good for them. I would offer to cover my kid's portion. |
Anonymous
| Unless the other moms reciprocate with something of equal value, I would ask for reimbursement. |
Anonymous
| I would not ask for reimbursement but would make it clear to both my child and the other kids that the other kids will need to be prepared to pay for themselves going forward, and that you were only agreeing to provide a ride, not fund the activity. |