13yo sleepover without meeting the parents?

[Anonymous]

DD13 doesn’t have school tomorrow and is going home today with a new-ish friend and a couple other friends. They are going to see a movie. This morning DD asks if she can spend the night, that a sleepover has suddenly been planned and all of the girls are sleeping over. The mom is ok with it. No brothers in the house. Mom will be home the entire time. I’ve never met the mom in person, but I’ll shoot her a text. Would you be comfortable with this? They live about a mile away.

[Anonymous]

Yes

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:DD13 doesn’t have school tomorrow and is going home today with a new-ish friend and a couple other friends. They are going to see a movie. This morning DD asks if she can spend the night, that a sleepover has suddenly been planned and all of the girls are sleeping over. The mom is ok with it. No brothers in the house. Mom will be home the entire time. I’ve never met the mom in person, but I’ll shoot her a text. Would you be comfortable with this? They live about a mile away.

Yes, this is the how it works at this age.

How is "no brothers in the house" relevant to anything?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD13 doesn’t have school tomorrow and is going home today with a new-ish friend and a couple other friends. They are going to see a movie. This morning DD asks if she can spend the night, that a sleepover has suddenly been planned and all of the girls are sleeping over. The mom is ok with it. No brothers in the house. Mom will be home the entire time. I’ve never met the mom in person, but I’ll shoot her a text. Would you be comfortable with this? They live about a mile away.

Yes, this is the how it works at this age.

How is "no brothers in the house" relevant to anything?

OP here. I don’t think it matters but I put it out there because I assumed someone would want all the facts. You know DCUM.

Thanks for your reply!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD13 doesn’t have school tomorrow and is going home today with a new-ish friend and a couple other friends. They are going to see a movie. This morning DD asks if she can spend the night, that a sleepover has suddenly been planned and all of the girls are sleeping over. The mom is ok with it. No brothers in the house. Mom will be home the entire time. I’ve never met the mom in person, but I’ll shoot her a text. Would you be comfortable with this? They live about a mile away.

Yes, this is the how it works at this age.

How is "no brothers in the house" relevant to anything?

OP here. I don’t think it matters but I put it out there because I assumed someone would want all the facts. You know DCUM.

Thanks for your reply!

It's not in any way relevant to the question you posed, though. It was a strange thing to mention.

[Anonymous]

No

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD13 doesn’t have school tomorrow and is going home today with a new-ish friend and a couple other friends. They are going to see a movie. This morning DD asks if she can spend the night, that a sleepover has suddenly been planned and all of the girls are sleeping over. The mom is ok with it. No brothers in the house. Mom will be home the entire time. I’ve never met the mom in person, but I’ll shoot her a text. Would you be comfortable with this? They live about a mile away.

Yes, this is the how it works at this age.

How is "no brothers in the house" relevant to anything?

OP here. I don’t think it matters but I put it out there because I assumed someone would want all the facts. You know DCUM.

Thanks for your reply!

It's not in any way relevant to the question you posed, though. It was a strange thing to mention.

Don’t be obtuse . There are several people who post about the dangers of brothers in the home on sleepover threads. Reasonable for OP to mention it up front .

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD13 doesn’t have school tomorrow and is going home today with a new-ish friend and a couple other friends. They are going to see a movie. This morning DD asks if she can spend the night, that a sleepover has suddenly been planned and all of the girls are sleeping over. The mom is ok with it. No brothers in the house. Mom will be home the entire time. I’ve never met the mom in person, but I’ll shoot her a text. Would you be comfortable with this? They live about a mile away.

Yes, this is the how it works at this age.

How is "no brothers in the house" relevant to anything?

OP here. I don’t think it matters but I put it out there because I assumed someone would want all the facts. You know DCUM.

Thanks for your reply!

It's not in any way relevant to the question you posed, though. It was a strange thing to mention.

DP. In every single DCUM sleepover thread, someone will inevitably come in and cite sexual assault by older brothers as a reason not to do them.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:DD13 doesn’t have school tomorrow and is going home today with a new-ish friend and a couple other friends. They are going to see a movie. This morning DD asks if she can spend the night, that a sleepover has suddenly been planned and all of the girls are sleeping over. The mom is ok with it. No brothers in the house. Mom will be home the entire time. I’ve never met the mom in person, but I’ll shoot her a text. Would you be comfortable with this? They live about a mile away.

Yes, this is the how it works at this age.

How is "no brothers in the house" relevant to anything?

OP here. I don’t think it matters but I put it out there because I assumed someone would want all the facts. You know DCUM.

Thanks for your reply!

It's not in any way relevant to the question you posed, though. It was a strange thing to mention.

I apologize if it offended you. I have seen the question asked in other sleepover threads and just wanted to present all the facts so I didn’t have to waste time responding to questions. I’m doing it anyway. So, sorry to those I offended. Nothing against your sons.

[Anonymous]

I was shocked that this is how it works. We had a sleepover at my house and I fully intended to meet all the parents before their kids slept over. Some of them dropped their kids off at the end of the driveway and left. They never confirmed there was an actual sleepover.

I was fully ready to greet all the parents of the door, and at least say hello. If my kid was sleeping at their house, I would have gone up to the house to say hello and to meet the parents.

[Anonymous]

Yes, it's a group of girls and not your daughter alone visiting a friend in Dracula's castle.

[Anonymous]

I'd worry more about alcohol or sneaking out than I'd worry about ordinary brothers.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn’t. I don’t love middle school aged sleepovers in any case though. But a new friend whose family I didn’t know, would be a no.

[Anonymous]

That’s a no for me. If there’s time before to invite the girl over or meet the parents, then ok. Otherwise, nope. Honestly, nothing great happens at a middle or high school sleepover, especially with a group.

[Anonymous]

I was fully ready to greet all the parents of the door, and at least say hello.

What you expected would be normal behavior. Keep doing it or hoping it happens. Tons of adults have social anxiousness and make their own comfort more important, than good parenting.