I stalk my DS’s email

[Anonymous]

He gave me his password bc I think he misses 90% of his emails. Guess what I found today? An email saying to check his portal at UChicago, and hes off the wait list at Brown. He was ecstatic.

Flame me all you want. I’m so relieved I asked him to let me do this.

I’d say hopefully he’s learned a lesson, but I’m dead sure he hasn’t. At least he can be a dolt with a UChicago degree.

[Anonymous]

OP again. I meant he’s off the WL at Chicago. I read that Brown thread and then posted here. Check those emails!

[Anonymous]

Are tou going to college with him? How will he survive without you?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Are tou going to college with him? How will he survive without you?

Oh clever clever. So funny.

[Anonymous]

If he can’t manage his acceptance emails I’m not sure how great Chicago is going to go…

[Anonymous]

Your son would have completely missed his admission to UChicago if his mom hadn’t gone through his inbox for him? Does the university know how babied he is?

Are you going to continue this for him in college? Go to class with him?

[Anonymous]

One of the college admissions books I read actually suggested setting up a separate email that student AND parents access to use for all the college stuff, keeping it separate from the student’s personal email and making sure important things don’t fall through the cracks. DC is only a rising sophomore but we’ll likely take this advice when we start actively signing up for information.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If he can’t manage his acceptance emails I’m not sure how great Chicago is going to go…

I was thinking the same thing lol. Executive functioning struggles that severe need to be addressed , not masked by mommy checking her adult sons emails for him

[Anonymous]

Congratulations! Some students take longer to master these skills. He’ll get there!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If he can’t manage his acceptance emails I’m not sure how great Chicago is going to go…

I was thinking the same thing lol. Executive functioning struggles that severe need to be addressed , not masked by mommy checking her adult sons emails for him

No kidding! If I found out about something like this as an employer, not a chance he'd make the list.

Hey Mom, do you still do his laundry, ensure he eats nutritious meals, and change his diapers?

[Anonymous]

Op, play a thought experiment with yourself. If you didn’t check his email- and told him you weren’t going to check it any more- what would have happened to the Chicago email?

Would he have never read it and never gone to Chicago?

Would he have eventually gone through his inbox and gotten the acceptance?

If it’s option B, you know you are babying him the point of crippling him.

If it’s option A, you need to have him meet with a neuropsychologist before college to address his deficits and get him on some meds or something

[Anonymous]

Ignore these people. Congrats and good job, Mom or Dad!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Your son would have completely missed his admission to UChicago if his mom hadn’t gone through his inbox for him? Does the university know how babied he is?

Are you going to continue this for him in college? Go to class with him?

Agree. This level of involvement with a kid going to college is embarrassing.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Op, play a thought experiment with yourself. If you didn’t check his email- and told him you weren’t going to check it any more- what would have happened to the Chicago email?

Would he have never read it and never gone to Chicago?

Would he have eventually gone through his inbox and gotten the acceptance?

If it’s option B, you know you are babying him the point of crippling him.

If it’s option A, you need to have him meet with a neuropsychologist before college to address his deficits and get him on some meds or something

Actually, she needs to let him have these failures - over and over until he learns. He will fail spectacularly eventually when she can no longer pull him along while hovering from above. The consequences of those failures are possibly much bigger than missing this email. It will mean things like - a lost job, crippled career, numerous parenting fails, divorce, etc. You know, things that have real tangible consequences.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Op, play a thought experiment with yourself. If you didn’t check his email- and told him you weren’t going to check it any more- what would have happened to the Chicago email?

Would he have never read it and never gone to Chicago?

Would he have eventually gone through his inbox and gotten the acceptance?

If it’s option B, you know you are babying him the point of crippling him.

If it’s option A, you need to have him meet with a neuropsychologist before college to address his deficits and get him on some meds or something

Actually, she needs to let him have these failures - over and over until he learns. He will fail spectacularly eventually when she can no longer pull him along while hovering from above. The consequences of those failures are possibly much bigger than missing this email. It will mean things like - a lost job, crippled career, numerous parenting fails, divorce, etc. You know, things that have real tangible consequences.

You guys are all idiots. What happened to "some kids take time to mature"? This is one of those things. Let OP do what she thinks is best for her kid. Anytime I see snarky, useless posts like these, I picture an ill-tempered spinster surrounded by a few cats, sipping cheap wine, mouthing each word in a raspy voice as you type. If that's not you, please be nice. If that's you, keep at it.