I stalk my DS’s email

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:One of the college admissions books I read actually suggested setting up a separate email that student AND parents access to use for all the college stuff, keeping it separate from the student’s personal email and making sure important things don’t fall through the cracks. DC is only a rising sophomore but we’ll likely take this advice when we start actively signing up for information.

It’s s good idea but hard to do in practice. You need to sign up for the PSAT (and any other standardized test) using it, and at my son’s school they register you using your school address, which is then deluged.

That is actually a great idea. Do you put this email on college applications and everything college related? Then just edit the email contact at some point toward the end of high school when accepted?

[Anonymous]

My senior uses his official his official HS email account for common app/applications. He has to check it every day for school so never misses anything,

He has a separate google account he set up for sports recruiting which we share.

I gave zero access to his school one- but he’s really good about it.

[Anonymous]

I don't see the big deal. Congratulations!!!

[Anonymous]

Right there with you, good job Mom!

[Anonymous]

This is why you micromanage.

[Anonymous]

The moral of the story is...

Let your children fail at a young enough age that the consequences are low. The problem with not letting failure happen when the stakes are low is that you start playing all or nothing as the stakes get quite high. So if you are reading this and you have a middle schooler, a few spectacular "ooops!" will go a long way to preventing creating a situation like one OP shared. Maybe instead of judging each other, we can learn form each other? Her post served as a good reminder for me to stop rescuing my younger kids. It was helpful to me.

[Anonymous]

OP here. He can learn from his failures on something else. I hope other parents check on on their seniors’ emails. Never know what you’ll find.

[Anonymous]

You have to be a troll. Yikes

[Anonymous]

I 1000% see this happening to me. My kids (junior twins) juggle about 100 balls at once but they stink at checking emails. They have never turned in an assignment late (private school) but they can't manage to register for the SAT on time.

[Anonymous]

NP. I don’t read my emails either!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Kids don’t check email, it’s a huge thing. It’s not just your son, op.

So if I email your young adult kid a job offer, they just don't check their email?

All these HS seniors, graduating and being like "huh, I wonder if I got into any colleges. How can I find out??" That's what you think?

They check for emails they know are important. If they don't have a secretary filtering them, aka, mom.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I 1000% see this happening to me. My kids (junior twins) juggle about 100 balls at once but they stink at checking emails. They have never turned in an assignment late (private school) but they can't manage to register for the SAT on time.

Then they probably learned, from the SAT mistake, that sometimes you need to check your correspondence. Or you miss billing statements, job offers, shipping notifications, invitations to birthday parties for your children, sports tryout information for your children, daycare alerts....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:NP. I don’t read my emails either!

Not even if you were waiting for an acceptance to a program you dearly wanted to attend, knowing the acceptance would come by email?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:One of the college admissions books I read actually suggested setting up a separate email that student AND parents access to use for all the college stuff, keeping it separate from the student’s personal email and making sure important things don’t fall through the cracks. DC is only a rising sophomore but we’ll likely take this advice when we start actively signing up for information.

We did this. It worked! And, yes I read every email and opened emails for demonstrated interest. IDRC what DCUM has to say about it!! Are you going to get your kid to the finish line or not?!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:NP. I don’t read my emails either!

Not even if you were waiting for an acceptance to a program you dearly wanted to attend, knowing the acceptance would come by email?

Clearly this boy didn’t really want to attend, nor was he waiting for acceptance. Mommy told him he need to apply here, then she waited and anticipated the results while stalking his email. She’ll have to do the same thing when he gets a job and he might miss major deadlines. I mean, I know my company won’t let anyone but me with a card and password log into our VPN. Some floors require finger prints.