My father was put on administrative leave from school

[Anonymous]

My dad is 70 and is a teachers aide. He’s been aide the past 10 years for the city and has been with this middle school the past 4 or 5 years.

About a year ago the students started teasing him and calling some random name that isn’t his. Last Thursday he was using the restroom in between class periods when one of the boys started calling him this name while he was in the stall. Long story short the student kept threatening to fight my dad and kept asking my dad to hit him. Now according my dad he repeatedly told the boy he wasn’t going to hit him. Another student witnessed what was going on and shoved the other student out of my dad’s way - luckily everything was all caught on video (no audio). This kid immediately went and told a teacher that my dad tried to hit him. They admonished my dad for not telling admin what happened right away. Despite the boy having a history of behavioral issues they told him that he needed to go home. They said they would call and get a statement from him. This was last Thursday and they still haven’t contacted him….

I don’t know why my dad just hasn’t called them himself. I guess he’s afraid to find out? I have a bad feeling that they just won’t call him and let the school year end.

Anyone in admin or a teacher have experience with something like this? What are your thoughts?

[Anonymous]

What name are they calling him? Not Chester?

[Anonymous]

Does your dad have a union rep? Check the r/teachers subreddit. You’ll probably get better information there. If he’s local, post in the appropriate district forum here.

[Anonymous]

My immediate thought is, why was he using the student’s bathroom and not the faculty bathroom? He wouldn’t be in this mess if he had used the faculty bathroom.

[Anonymous]

I’m not surprised at the school’s response. I have a friend who is also a teacher’s aide and she has been treated horribly by a couple students, even bullied and the school always sides with the kids (and their parents). They have no interest in disciplining the kids or telling the parents the truth.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My immediate thought is, why was he using the student’s bathroom and not the faculty bathroom? He wouldn’t be in this mess if he had used the faculty bathroom.

I almost always have to use the student bathroom because the teacher bathroom is flooded or because it’s on the other side of the building and I don’t get enough time to get there and back.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not surprised at the school’s response. I have a friend who is also a teacher’s aide and she has been treated horribly by a couple students, even bullied and the school always sides with the kids (and their parents). They have no interest in disciplining the kids or telling the parents the truth.

Sigh. I miss the days when kids were actually respectful (and a little scared) of old teachers or any teachers for that matter.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:My immediate thought is, why was he using the student’s bathroom and not the faculty bathroom? He wouldn’t be in this mess if he had used the faculty bathroom.

Ah, yes victim blame. There’s no way this aggressive student would’ve threatened him any other time if he had just used the faculty bathroom .

[Anonymous]

I’m so sorry he experienced that. This kid has a dim future. Karma. Hopefully he won’t start torturing animals.

[Anonymous]

I'm a HS teacher and we don't have teacher only bathrooms anymore

[Anonymous]

I remember s few years back when some girls accused a male teacher of inappropriate touching
They ultimately admitted they were lying but the teacher took an early retirement. No punishment for these horrible girls but I hope their lives are miserable.

[Anonymous]

Let’s not rich to judgment about the student here.

The consequences to the student over this alleged behavior could be tremendous. Kids are young and fragile. A child being disciplined can be very traumatizing and stunt their emotional growth.

Certainly no one wants that.

Can’t your dad just work somewhere else ?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I’m not surprised at the school’s response. I have a friend who is also a teacher’s aide and she has been treated horribly by a couple students, even bullied and the school always sides with the kids (and their parents). They have no interest in disciplining the kids or telling the parents the truth.

+1. OP, schools are desperate for paras right now. Tell your dad to apply elsewhere. The admin at his current school is probably more interested in keeping their rate of suspensions low than keeping good employees.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Let’s not rich to judgment about the student here.

The consequences to the student over this alleged behavior could be tremendous. Kids are young and fragile. A child being disciplined can be very traumatizing and stunt their emotional growth.

Certainly no one wants that.

Can’t your dad just work somewhere else ?

I hate that I can’t tell when someone is being sarcastic or serious anymore.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:My immediate thought is, why was he using the student’s bathroom and not the faculty bathroom? He wouldn’t be in this mess if he had used the faculty bathroom.

Ah, yes victim blame. There’s no way this aggressive student would’ve threatened him any other time if he had just used the faculty bathroom .

But anyplace else would have probably been on camera.