what do you think is the appropriate age is for wearing a 2-piece bathing suit?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me clarify: I think 2-piece swimsuits for girls (not including tankini style) immediately make people imagine that girl in a "bra and underwear" - to me, that seems inappropriate prior to being fully developed/older.
-OP

Yeah, no. You have some issues you need to work through.

No, I don’t. I’m just very in tune to how many “pervs” are in the world. Look up stats on NATIONAL CENTER FOR MISSING AND EXPLOITED CHILDREN.
-OP

Like I said, you need help with your anxiety issues.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Let me clarify: I think 2-piece swimsuits for girls (not including tankini style) immediately make people imagine that girl in a "bra and underwear" - to me, that seems inappropriate prior to being fully developed/older.
-OP

Yeah, no. You have some issues you need to work through.

No, I don’t. I’m just very in tune to how many “pervs” are in the world. Look up stats on NATIONAL CENTER FOR MISSING AND EXPLOITED CHILDREN.
-OP

Like I said, you need help with your anxiety issues.

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[Anonymous]

This thread is ridiculous

OP get a grip it's a bathing suit.

Get a parenting book for raising confident girls clearly you need one, because you are a complete idiot.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I hate seeing bikini tops on little girls with no breasts. My girls worn just the bikini bottoms until around six or seven. Definitely by ten. Girls are grown now and no worse for my choices of bathing costumes for them.

Agreed. What exactly are they covering up? Oh right, nothing.

I have my 5yo b/g twins wear rash guards. So much easier than covering them in sunscreen.

Both my kids wore rash guards also. Girl wore shorts with interior bikini bottom for more sun coverage. 9 year old is a wanting more traditional two piece tankini etc now. Older teen brother still wears a rash guard 50 percent of the time. This is 100 percent for needing less sunscreen and providing protection from the sun.

[Anonymous]

If you feel like it’s sexual and invites predators, then the tween time seems like the WORST time for it. It’s either 18 or infancy.

Keep your kids away from creeps and talk to them from an early age about creepy men. The one piece won’t save them. And if you are so crazy to believe it helps, I doubt you’ve been talking to your daughter about actual risks and how to think about, plan for and deal with dangerous men.

[Anonymous]

I think there are reasonable points on both sides, but the one thing I keep coming back to is how many adult women remember being cat called and harassed by older (i.e., adult) men as young teens. That inappropriate attention in itself is stressful and traumatizing for girls, regardless of whether they're confident with their bodies or insecure like so many teens are. I have young, but very tall and thus older looking girls and spend a lot of time now saying things like "ha, no she's not in second grade, actually she's only 5, just super tall!" and I assume that when she's 9 and looks 12, or 12 and looking 16, that inappropriate and unwanted attention is going to start, like it or not. So regardless of whether I should HAVE to worry about a bikini sexualizing my child, my gut instinct is that if a more childish bathing suit (like a one piece, rash guard, or tankini) can keep her looking closer to her actual age for longer, than let's say I require it for sun protection and hopefully stave off that nonsense for as long as possible.

[Anonymous]

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[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think there are reasonable points on both sides, but the one thing I keep coming back to is how many adult women remember being cat called and harassed by older (i.e., adult) men as young teens. That inappropriate attention in itself is stressful and traumatizing for girls, regardless of whether they're confident with their bodies or insecure like so many teens are. I have young, but very tall and thus older looking girls and spend a lot of time now saying things like "ha, no she's not in second grade, actually she's only 5, just super tall!" and I assume that when she's 9 and looks 12, or 12 and looking 16, that inappropriate and unwanted attention is going to start, like it or not. So regardless of whether I should HAVE to worry about a bikini sexualizing my child, my gut instinct is that if a more childish bathing suit (like a one piece, rash guard, or tankini) can keep her looking closer to her actual age for longer, than let's say I require it for sun protection and hopefully stave off that nonsense for as long as possible.

Where are you going to the pool?!

[Anonymous]

^^Also, how do you explain this? “No, honey, it’s only one pieces for you. You are responsible for any comments that come your way while wearing a bikini because men can’t be asked to control themselves around such displays. You are a sexual being and should do everything you can to temper appearing as the vixen you are under those clothes.”

Give me a break. If some man catcalled my 10 year old, I would be there and would make sure he was told off. Also, I don’t take my kids to pools at construction sites and such. Where are you hanging out that this happens to little girls?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:^^Also, how do you explain this? “No, honey, it’s only one pieces for you. You are responsible for any comments that come your way while wearing a bikini because men can’t be asked to control themselves around such displays. You are a sexual being and should do everything you can to temper appearing as the vixen you are under those clothes.”

Give me a break. If some man catcalled my 10 year old, I would be there and would make sure he was told off. Also, I don’t take my kids to pools at construction sites and such. Where are you hanging out that this happens to little girls?

"No honey, you and your brother wear rash guards and board shorts because your skin is still young and very sensitive and you need sun protection. String bikinis are for grown ups and you don't need gendered clothing as a six year old"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you feel like it’s sexual and invites predators, then the tween time seems like the WORST time for it. It’s either 18 or infancy.

Keep your kids away from creeps and talk to them from an early age about creepy men. The one piece won’t save them. And if you are so crazy to believe it helps, I doubt you’ve been talking to your daughter about actual risks and how to think about, plan for and deal with dangerous men.

I don't have a problem with bikinis because I think it invites creeps. I have a problem with them because they're impractical and ridiculous for a child. My son and daughter wear the same clothes because children don't need gendered clothes. What's creepy is covering a child's nonexistent breasts.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^Also, how do you explain this? “No, honey, it’s only one pieces for you. You are responsible for any comments that come your way while wearing a bikini because men can’t be asked to control themselves around such displays. You are a sexual being and should do everything you can to temper appearing as the vixen you are under those clothes.”

Give me a break. If some man catcalled my 10 year old, I would be there and would make sure he was told off. Also, I don’t take my kids to pools at construction sites and such. Where are you hanging out that this happens to little girls?

"No honey, you and your brother wear rash guards and board shorts because your skin is still young and very sensitive and you need sun protection. String bikinis are for grown ups and you don't need gendered clothing as a six year old"

This. You don't say anything except "our entire family wears rash guards because they protect your skin best." You make it about something other than sexualization. And we have a beach house and it happens on the boardwalk and on the beach. Yes, even "nice" beach towns and pools don't protect teen girls from sexual harassment. Why? Because privileged boys grow up to be entitled teens and young adults and as you know, boys will be boys. If you think your 12 year old won't hear comments from 16 year olds, then I've got a bridge to sell you.

And again, it's COMPLETE nonsense that any of us have to think that way. But do you want to ignore reality and let YOUR daughter's mental health suffer because you don't think it should work that way? Ask any adult woman that developed earlier than her peers, it happens and it sucks.

https://www.bbc.com/future/article/20180611-the-health-risks-of-girls-maturing-early

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:If you feel like it’s sexual and invites predators, then the tween time seems like the WORST time for it. It’s either 18 or infancy.

Keep your kids away from creeps and talk to them from an early age about creepy men. The one piece won’t save them. And if you are so crazy to believe it helps, I doubt you’ve been talking to your daughter about actual risks and how to think about, plan for and deal with dangerous men.

I don't have a problem with bikinis because I think it invites creeps. I have a problem with them because they're impractical and ridiculous for a child. My son and daughter wear the same clothes because children don't need gendered clothes. What's creepy is covering a child's nonexistent breasts.

Um, ok.

[Anonymous]

My daughters have always worn bottoms with a rashguard top (super pale and minimizes sunscreen). My older one has started wearing a bikini top this year at age 9 that is sports-bra style because she has also started wearing a training bra and needs some support. I still ask her to wear the rashguard for sun protection.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:^^Also, how do you explain this? “No, honey, it’s only one pieces for you. You are responsible for any comments that come your way while wearing a bikini because men can’t be asked to control themselves around such displays. You are a sexual being and should do everything you can to temper appearing as the vixen you are under those clothes.”

Give me a break. If some man catcalled my 10 year old, I would be there and would make sure he was told off. Also, I don’t take my kids to pools at construction sites and such. Where are you hanging out that this happens to little girls?

"No honey, you and your brother wear rash guards and board shorts because your skin is still young and very sensitive and you need sun protection. String bikinis are for grown ups and you don't need gendered clothing as a six year old"

I think the OP said her daughter is 10. Some of us have older kids with opinions, not kindergarteners.