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[quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous][quote=Anonymous]OMG thanks for the list of chores but no, this is not what I need, really. School and other places have been bombarding me with suggestions of what *I* can do with my kid...um, no thanks. I miss all the in-person, low-cost options with minimum participation from me (I need to just bring the kid). I am sorry, I don't mean to be hard on you, PP, but all these lists of activities is one of the things that make me cringe lately. [/quote] Have you actually tried giving your child concrete, meaningful chores to do though? What I am hearing you saying is that your child needs to interact with other people and basically be entertained by others, and you have minimum engagement in the activity. I'm not saying that to be critical. But it sounds like your child is basically used to being entertained by others. And since they don't have that as much, they are trying to interact with you, and you are exhausted by it. I am trying to offer you a suggestion: kids need to feel useful and engaged, but it doesn't have to be an activity that is directed by others. You are right -- no one is coming to help you out by reopening libraries and whatever else you want them to reopen. You nee to teach your child to be interested in the boring at home options that are somewhat creative, meaningful and useful. Even if your kid never was interested in them before, you might find that now that there is so little to do, they will be bored enough to get into them. Instead of turning up your nose at my suggestions, I encourage you to take this list or a similar one you have made, and go over it with your tween and TELL THEM you need their help around the house. Make them feel like they are actually needed. TELL them they have to pick 10 items off the list and do them and that you will help them, but that the goal is that they actually take some of these chores off of your to do list. Kids need to feel important and useful and competent. Let them do any chores they like off the list. By telling them it has to be 10... they might find 3 or 4 they actually really enjoy. Kids are so much happier when they have useful and creative tasks to do. They go from being dependent on others for intellectual stimulation and unable to bear even a few moments of boredom, into capable kids able to handle frustration and problem solve. They become a lot more fun to live with, too. Just a thought. [/quote] Op here. It has more to do with me. I am tired of being the school and the extended day activities for my kid. Ok? This is just part of the problem though because my kid needs to be somewhere where he doesn’t have an option to whine for electronics. I can’t take him out every day ok? [/quote] So, basically you don't enjoy being a parent as that's what parents do.[/quote] I knew you would use this tired argument. If I don’t want to work 18 hr days, does it mean I don’t like my job? If I don’t enjoy doing something I am overqualified for but can’t outsource, do I hate my job? [/quote] Being a parent is not equal to your list and it’s what you choose when you choose to have kids. [/quote]
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