How many times did you have sex with your spouse in 2020?

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Anonymous wrote:45 years old, about 8 times. She is fine with it, I am depression and want to divorce but I love my kids too much.

And before open marriage poster asks, I tried the girlfriend thing and it's too stressful. I want a real marriage.

Yeah, men forget girlfriends are work. You have to maintain your hygiene abs make an effort at foreplay and feigning interest in someone else’s life. Nothing easier than a wife.

That wasn't the work. I do all that. It was the secrecy that was work plus the fact she fell in love with me.

Save yourself pointless work by dropping pretenses of secrecy. What’s the problem with your girlfriend catching feelz?

Drop secrecy? So just let your spouse, neighbors, kids, extended family see you together? Yeah that will go over well...

A sexless wife does not warrant any efforts toward secrecy

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Anonymous wrote:50 and 52. At least 300 I would say. During Covid it's been at least once a day. Need to have some entertainment!

How many of those times did the man have to woo/seduce the female?

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60-70 times.

Sometimes daily, sometimes a six-week break.

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About 200

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0. I’ve tried to get my husband to be warmer. It’s depressing, but unlike the above poster, he’s not a crappy roommate. He’s a pretty good one. He’s also a pretty good dad and helps me look after my parents.

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Anonymous wrote:0. I’ve tried to get my husband to be warmer. It’s depressing, but unlike the above poster, he’s not a crappy roommate. He’s a pretty good one. He’s also a pretty good dad and helps me look after my parents.

Here too. He’s a fantastic man. But we’re at 0 as well. Not my preference

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Anonymous wrote:0. I’ve tried to get my husband to be warmer. It’s depressing, but unlike the above poster, he’s not a crappy roommate. He’s a pretty good one. He’s also a pretty good dad and helps me look after my parents.

Same situation with my wife'. I think we did it 6x and average about 1x a month for last decade. Only 44 now. She is a great mom and roommate which makes it hard to leave. She's totally fine being celibate.

I figure it's 6 more years till lat kid leaves for college then I can move on if I still have a sex drive. Hoping she gets a job soon as well so the divorce won't be so hard on her.

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Anonymous wrote:0. I’ve tried to get my husband to be warmer. It’s depressing, but unlike the above poster, he’s not a crappy roommate. He’s a pretty good one. He’s also a pretty good dad and helps me look after my parents.

Let him know that as platonic room mates there can be no expectation of sexual fidelity. Then you are free to meet that need elsewhere.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe 50-60 so about the same as always but the quality has gone way up for a few reasons. The first is that with a teen always we’ve been forced to get creative. There were a few sessions in our home gym that I’ll never forget. The other is that because of the confinement of the pandemic we’ve both been working out - a lot. She’s probably doing Orange Theory 5-6 days a week. Our time together has gotten more, athletic? Also, her six pack looks pretty hot!

Update: This morning makes two for the new year - not a bad start!

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58. Yes. I kept count to make sure we did it at least once a week.

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Zero. Marriage is over and if I'm being honest, it's been over for about four years. Young kids who love their dad. So scary at the thought of complete and total financial ruin but I feel like I'm dying inside and wasting my life with a spouse who is depressed (because of some BIG mistakes) and refuses to get help. Not attracted to someone who's been at a solo pity party for four years. Life is to be lived.

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Maybe twice. No excuse except “everything” is always something getting in the way. She probably has an AP.

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Anonymous wrote:Maybe 50-60 so about the same as always but the quality has gone way up for a few reasons. The first is that with a teen always we’ve been forced to get creative. There were a few sessions in our home gym that I’ll never forget. The other is that because of the confinement of the pandemic we’ve both been working out - a lot. She’s probably doing Orange Theory 5-6 days a week. Our time together has gotten more, athletic? Also, her six pack looks pretty hot!

Update: This morning makes two for the new year - not a bad start!

I posted earlier with about the same number. I'd certainly go for more quantity but I'd hate for our quality to go down. We're in a pretty good rhythm of the sex being really hot pretty much every single time. I almost always give her a full body coconut oil massage that puts her in a really good mood.