How many kids makes you a weirdo?

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Anonymous wrote:I’m pregnant with #4. DH and I were discussing how many kids you have to have before people think you’re a weirdo with a lot of kids. One of us says 4 does it, maybe even 3 in the DMV; the other one says you need to get to at least 5 before people think “whoa weird that’s a lot of kids.” What say you, DCUM?

Doing their part to overpopulate the earth.

[Anonymous]

Only child with an only - any more than one and you’re weird to me. We have more time with our kiddo, more money, easier to function at home.

[Anonymous]

It’s definitely a curious decision to have so many children on an overextended planet.

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Anonymous wrote:Only child with an only - any more than one and you’re weird to me. We have more time with our kiddo, more money, easier to function at home.

I'm an only and would never wish that on my children. I would never want to burden one with the responsibility of taking care of me when I'm older. Not that I'm not happy to do it for my parents, but it's daunting knowing I'll have to go it alone. Both of my parents are one of four and I saw how helpful that was when dealing with end of life stuff for my grandparents.

When my parents die I will be truly alone. I don't want that for my kids.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Only child with an only - any more than one and you’re weird to me. We have more time with our kiddo, more money, easier to function at home.

I'm an only and would never wish that on my children. I would never want to burden one with the responsibility of taking care of me when I'm older. Not that I'm not happy to do it for my parents, but it's daunting knowing I'll have to go it alone. Both of my parents are one of four and I saw how helpful that was when dealing with end of life stuff for my grandparents.

When my parents die I will be truly alone. I don't want that for my kids.

As a mom of an only, this thought keeps me up at night. She was not meant to be an only. We do what we can to foster relationships with cousins and elders outside the three of us.

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Anonymous wrote:Only child with an only - any more than one and you’re weird to me. We have more time with our kiddo, more money, easier to function at home.

I'm an only and would never wish that on my children. I would never want to burden one with the responsibility of taking care of me when I'm older. Not that I'm not happy to do it for my parents, but it's daunting knowing I'll have to go it alone. Both of my parents are one of four and I saw how helpful that was when dealing with end of life stuff for my grandparents.

When my parents die I will be truly alone. I don't want that for my kids.

As a mom of an only, this thought keeps me up at night. She was not meant to be an only. We do what we can to foster relationships with cousins and elders outside the three of us.

Don't torture yourself so, we all make our own communities. They don't have to be blood ties to be strong. If your only finds a good spouse/partner and has good friends, they will be fine.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Only child with an only - any more than one and you’re weird to me. We have more time with our kiddo, more money, easier to function at home.

I'm an only and would never wish that on my children. I would never want to burden one with the responsibility of taking care of me when I'm older. Not that I'm not happy to do it for my parents, but it's daunting knowing I'll have to go it alone. Both of my parents are one of four and I saw how helpful that was when dealing with end of life stuff for my grandparents.

When my parents die I will be truly alone. I don't want that for my kids.

My mom is one of 4 and still the only sibling who was there for her parents at the end. My dad is one of 3 and also was the only child who was there for his parents at the end of their lives—the only child who visited at the nursing home, accompanied on dr visits, took care of the paperwork and logistics of end of life care. Having siblings is no guarantee that you won’t be alone in caring for elderly or dying parents.

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Anonymous wrote:Only child with an only - any more than one and you’re weird to me. We have more time with our kiddo, more money, easier to function at home.

I'm an only and would never wish that on my children. I would never want to burden one with the responsibility of taking care of me when I'm older. Not that I'm not happy to do it for my parents, but it's daunting knowing I'll have to go it alone. Both of my parents are one of four and I saw how helpful that was when dealing with end of life stuff for my grandparents.

When my parents die I will be truly alone. I don't want that for my kids.

As a mom of an only, this thought keeps me up at night. She was not meant to be an only. We do what we can to foster relationships with cousins and elders outside the three of us.

Don't torture yourself so, we all make our own communities. They don't have to be blood ties to be strong. If your only finds a good spouse/partner and has good friends, they will be fine.

OR- I'm sorry, I didn't mean to stress you out. And honestly this is so true, as someone who didn't grow up with close family it was very important for me to get married and have kids of my own, maybe more so than people who have a lot of siblings. I have also made it a priority to maintain close female friendships throughout my life and can honestly say I have girlfriends who are sisters to me. Your child will be fine! My parents also didn't plan for an only.

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Anonymous wrote:Only child with an only - any more than one and you’re weird to me. We have more time with our kiddo, more money, easier to function at home.

I'm an only and would never wish that on my children. I would never want to burden one with the responsibility of taking care of me when I'm older. Not that I'm not happy to do it for my parents, but it's daunting knowing I'll have to go it alone. Both of my parents are one of four and I saw how helpful that was when dealing with end of life stuff for my grandparents.

When my parents die I will be truly alone. I don't want that for my kids.

As a mom of an only, this thought keeps me up at night. She was not meant to be an only. We do what we can to foster relationships with cousins and elders outside the three of us.

Don't torture yourself so, we all make our own communities. They don't have to be blood ties to be strong. If your only finds a good spouse/partner and has good friends, they will be fine.

OR- I'm sorry, I didn't mean to stress you out. And honestly this is so true, as someone who didn't grow up with close family it was very important for me to get married and have kids of my own, maybe more so than people who have a lot of siblings. I have also made it a priority to maintain close female friendships throughout my life and can honestly say I have girlfriends who are sisters to me. Your child will be fine! My parents also didn't plan for an only.

Thank you, Both. Helpful to hear. This was definitely on my radar. It’s all a good check in. No fresh hurt, good reflection. xo

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More than 3 is weirdo. And, unless adopted, you are destroying the earth at more than 2.

Privilege, privilege.

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7 effing *billion* people and you are pro-creating more than 2? Shame on you.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be advised that you're going to get a lot of answers here from people who are secretly envious of you. They wanted more kids but most likely waited too late and then couldn't have as many as they would have liked.

LOL keep dreaming

+1 not everyone wants your life. Some of us love our freedom (from kids).

I don’t know a single person who would be jealous of someone who had 3 or more kids. If you are wealthy enough to afford full-time housekeepers and/or nannies there might be jealousy of that, but the kids? No.

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Anonymous wrote:Only child with an only - any more than one and you’re weird to me. We have more time with our kiddo, more money, easier to function at home.

I'm an only and would never wish that on my children. I would never want to burden one with the responsibility of taking care of me when I'm older. Not that I'm not happy to do it for my parents, but it's daunting knowing I'll have to go it alone. Both of my parents are one of four and I saw how helpful that was when dealing with end of life stuff for my grandparents.

When my parents die I will be truly alone. I don't want that for my kids.

My sibling was and is terrible to me. Siblings can be great if they get along but we don't. I am alone except for my husband and kids. My parents always played favorites and sibling is the favorite and I have little relationship with any of them.

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Anonymous wrote:OP, just be advised that you're going to get a lot of answers here from people who are secretly envious of you. They wanted more kids but most likely waited too late and then couldn't have as many as they would have liked.

LOL keep dreaming

+1 not everyone wants your life. Some of us love our freedom (from kids).

I don’t know a single person who would be jealous of someone who had 3 or more kids. If you are wealthy enough to afford full-time housekeepers and/or nannies there might be jealousy of that, but the kids? No.

Hiring full-time help really means you are having the kids as status and show. Fine if you are working but kids need to be raised and have 1-1 time with their parents. Those relationships cannot be outsourced. Its impossible to give 3-4-5-6 kids 1-1 attention and meet all their needs.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:7 effing *billion* people and you are pro-creating more than 2? Shame on you.

We currently have some population control going on...