Your children's looks

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Anonymous wrote:Where I live blond and blue eyed is getting rare so I am happy my boy is fair. It will help him stand out and hopefully appeal to the most powerful people later in life

what does this even mean? what powerful people?

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Anonymous wrote:Wow! DCUM does not disappoint. It appears that not only are all DCUM children geniuses, they are also ALL physically beautiful!

+1 I wonder where they are since most of the children that I see are very normal looking.

I look around and don't see any ugly kids, truly. The only ones that may struggle are the ones with serious weight challenges.

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Anonymous wrote:I am cringing so hard at all the “my kid is so attractive, blonde hair blue eyes” comments. I feel like the aryan nation, white is best comments, are ones that should be kept to yourself, no?

I have twin girls - one has white blonde hair and blue eyes, the other has brown hair and green eyes. People fawn over the blonde one even though she's actually more average-looking and the brunette is prettier. I don't think PP meant anything racist by it, but people react positively towards blonde-haired blue-eyed kids. I don't think that means I'm racist because I had a blonde daughter, and I hate that people comment more on one twin than the other, but I do see it happen. That may make them racist, but not me. Or PP.

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Anonymous wrote:I am cringing so hard at all the “my kid is so attractive, blonde hair blue eyes” comments. I feel like the aryan nation, white is best comments, are ones that should be kept to yourself, no?

Uh, yes. They should absolutely keep that shit to themselves. It reinforces racial prejudice, and is especially dumb since we've seen half a dozen examples of quite unattractive blondes on this thread.

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My mixed kids are unique and that makes them beautiful!

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I’m an unattractive woman. Before anyone asks, yes, I’m a BMI normal weight and wear about a size 6 in clothes so it’s not a weight thing. I’m just not pretty and that is ok. I’m glad I had boys, because looks matter a lot less to males. I’d be sad if I had a daughter and she had to go through the same stuff that I did not looking like girls/women are “expected” to look.

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Many people love blond hair. it's weird. i have brown hair and had my third child is a girl who had blond ringlets from age 2 to about age 7/8. Strangers fawned over her. Now she's 10 and her hair has darkened like the vast majority of blond children's hair does. She no longer attracts crazy attention.

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Anonymous wrote:I think most people's children are average to ugly. Rarely see a truly stunning kid. Their parents always think they're handsome/pretty. I hope it's not something parents worry about.

Yes, I’m sitting here giggling at all the parents proclaiming their children are stunningly beautiful/handsome. Don’t parents know that they are the least objective judges of their children’s looks ever?

DH and I are average looking people with an average looking child. We have heard other people tell her she's pretty, but I don't see it (beyond that she has some beautiful features, which pretty much everyone else does, as well). DD and I give each other 'the look' when we hear that; we don't really place much emphasis on looks, and she knows that what will get her anywhere in life is her work ethic, and her heart.

DD's best friend is a pretty child, and will probably grow up to be a good looking girl. I have never heard her parents say boo about her looks, either. She's a nice kid, her personality is very compatible with DD's, and that's the important thing.

To the PP, please be careful. Your daughter will absolutely pick up and your opinion about her looks and it could definitely have an effect on her self esteem.

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Anonymous wrote:Many people love blond hair. it's weird. i have brown hair and had my third child is a girl who had blond ringlets from age 2 to about age 7/8. Strangers fawned over her. Now she's 10 and her hair has darkened like the vast majority of blond children's hair does. She no longer attracts crazy attention.

Exactly. I'm the PP who said my kid has blonde hair/blue eyes and so will likely be ok on this front. I don't think it's rational or reasonable at all, but it's the unfortunate reality.

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Anonymous wrote:Many people love blond hair. it's weird. i have brown hair and had my third child is a girl who had blond ringlets from age 2 to about age 7/8. Strangers fawned over her. Now she's 10 and her hair has darkened like the vast majority of blond children's hair does. She no longer attracts crazy attention.

Exactly. I'm the PP who said my kid has blonde hair/blue eyes and so will likely be ok on this front. I don't think it's rational or reasonable at all, but it's the unfortunate reality.

I mean if I could pick I would probably want to have blue eyes and blonde hair (everything else being equal). However fair skin usually ages much faster so by the time my kids are 30-35 I would prefer if they had darker skin.
My girls have blonde hair and brown and hazel eyes. Their eyes are beautiful because very big and tending upward like a cat.... just like mine. They get compliments on them ALL THE TIME! I would never trade them for small, blue, green eyes

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The world over people react positively to attractive blonde women/children/babies. It's universal.

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Anonymous wrote:I think most people's children are average to ugly. Rarely see a truly stunning kid. Their parents always think they're handsome/pretty. I hope it's not something parents worry about.

Yes, I’m sitting here giggling at all the parents proclaiming their children are stunningly beautiful/handsome. Don’t parents know that they are the least objective judges of their children’s looks ever?

DH and I are average looking people with an average looking child. We have heard other people tell her she's pretty, but I don't see it (beyond that she has some beautiful features, which pretty much everyone else does, as well). DD and I give each other 'the look' when we hear that; we don't really place much emphasis on looks, and she knows that what will get her anywhere in life is her work ethic, and her heart.

DD's best friend is a pretty child, and will probably grow up to be a good looking girl. I have never heard her parents say boo about her looks, either. She's a nice kid, her personality is very compatible with DD's, and that's the important thing.

To the PP, please be careful. Your daughter will absolutely pick up and your opinion about her looks and it could definitely have an effect on her self esteem.

Well aware of it, since I grew up being told by some members of the family that I looked like a scarecrow. DD is old enough to know what 'average' means. She knows that we're all basically average looking people, and is okay with it. We have talked about it, but not reveled in it. What she finds strange (as do I), is complimenting children on something they have absolutely no control over, like their looks.

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Anonymous wrote:Where I live blond and blue eyed is getting rare so I am happy my boy is fair. It will help him stand out and hopefully appeal to the most powerful people later in life

what does this even mean? what powerful people?

Hitler

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Anonymous wrote:I am cringing so hard at all the “my kid is so attractive, blonde hair blue eyes” comments. I feel like the aryan nation, white is best comments, are ones that should be kept to yourself, no?

I have twin girls - one has white blonde hair and blue eyes, the other has brown hair and green eyes. People fawn over the blonde one even though she's actually more average-looking and the brunette is prettier. I don't think PP meant anything racist by it, but people react positively towards blonde-haired blue-eyed kids. I don't think that means I'm racist because I had a blonde daughter, and I hate that people comment more on one twin than the other, but I do see it happen. That may make them racist, but not me. Or PP.

Please, Nobody said you were racist because your kid was blonde.

The general “you” here is acting like because they don’t attend KKK rallies they can’t possibly be racist.

Hitler referred to Aryan as fair skin, blonde hair and blue eyes. It was propaganda used to push the agenda that Aryan is a supreme form of human (or a “master race”)

Like I said before, you can see a hitler quote on your throw pillow if you want, I’m just shocked people are so willing to publicize it.

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Anonymous wrote:I am cringing so hard at all the “my kid is so attractive, blonde hair blue eyes” comments. I feel like the aryan nation, white is best comments, are ones that should be kept to yourself, no?

I have twin girls - one has white blonde hair and blue eyes, the other has brown hair and green eyes. People fawn over the blonde one even though she's actually more average-looking and the brunette is prettier. I don't think PP meant anything racist by it, but people react positively towards blonde-haired blue-eyed kids. I don't think that means I'm racist because I had a blonde daughter, and I hate that people comment more on one twin than the other, but I do see it happen. That may make them racist, but not me. Or PP.

Please, Nobody said you were racist because your kid was blonde.

The general “you” here is acting like because they don’t attend KKK rallies they can’t possibly be racist.

Hitler referred to Aryan as fair skin, blonde hair and blue eyes. It was propaganda used to push the agenda that Aryan is a supreme form of human (or a “master race”)

Like I said before, you can see a hitler quote on your throw pillow if you want, I’m just shocked people are so willing to publicize it.

NP here. I actually think PP can see blonde/blue eye privilege and understands it for what it is. I'm not white, FWIW.