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Kids on a leash in public
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Anonymous
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Having a harness on does not equal in any way treating a kid like a dog.
They are not being scratched behind the ears, fed from a bowl on the floor, made to poop in the grass, locked in a crate when Mommy and Daddy go out, told to sleep on a pillow on the floor or the foot of the bed, swatted with a rolled up newspaper when they misbehave nor are they getting flea dipped. They are being kept safe from darting out into traffic, getting lost in a crowd or taken by a stranger. And any Mother or Father who uses a harness does not have it in their mind to be cruel or inhumane to their child. In fact it's completely the opposite. We will never agree on using harnesses, but can we at least agree that the harness is not used because we don't love our kids very, very much. |
Anonymous
| To the PP, well said. I just drank a beer reading this and drove my husband out of the room laughing. Are people so sad and lonely that they have to anonymously post mean, hateful, rude, judgemental and absurd emails to feel somehow validated or important? Like anything else, parenting is up to the parents and if is not harming their children or YOU, mind your own business. Maybe get a hobby (other than posting mean, snarky emails) or get a life. When in potentially dangerous situations, we use a monkey. I hated leashes but losing my son in Macys while I was 8 months pregnant did it for me. He was 17 months, wanted out of his stroller and thought going inside the clothes rack was an awesome and fun idea. Almost 2 years later, I vividly still recall how I felt at the exact moment I couldn't find him and I thank God for him only being in a rack amusing himself with dust bunnies. If a monkey could keep just one child from being abducted, it would be well worth it. |
Anonymous
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PP- Twin mom here that uses the ones that wrap around the wrist - certainly with a lot of force this could be dangerous - as much as grabbing wrist - but the few times one of them forces the issue of going in the wrong direction I can pick them up quickly. The idea is to minimize any risk of danger and these work for that purpose.
To each their own (except on DCUM) but again - I love to take the kids out and have a little bit of mobility and get some sense of investigating their surroundings that a Bjorn/stoller does not provide.....but you cannot do this safely with one adult to 3 toddlers. So for our walks to the park / playground they wear these wrist bands. |
Anonymous
If chaining all children to their parents for the first 20 years of their lives could keep just one child in a billion from being abducted, would it be worth it? |
Anonymous
uuhhh....what? they make them for teenagers, sweet! |
Anonymous
or keep them from being killed by a car |
Anonymous
If that child were my child that was the one kept from being abducted, FUCK YEAH. |
Anonymous
| Why is everyone even engaging with the silly anti-leash poster? Sounds like she's the one who needs a leash. |
Anonymous
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Anonymous
Agreed. And I doubt anyone would consider it 'abusive' if we threw in a muzzle for her too! |
Anonymous
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If you're all so certain that you're doing the right thing when you leash your child why you're all being so defensive and attacking back?
I smell some insecurity in the air... |
Anonymous
| I have a 4 yr. old son with autism who has terrible impulse control and will run from me in crowds. Do I like leashing him sometimes? No. but if it keeps him safe I'll just continue to ignore the stares and dirty looks I get from ignorant people who have the luxury of not knowing what it's like to walk in the shoes of a parent with a special needs child. |
Anonymous
| I'd like to keep my wife on a leash. |
Anonymous
Yep! We have the monkey backpack with a tail and my son loves his "monkey". Unless he is very tired he gets very upset being in the stroller because he wants to walk and check things out. When he is in the car after we take it off he asks for it and hugs it. Sometimes when we are walking (and we live on a busy road) he does not want to hold my hand and I need him to stop at cross walks, etc. If he is wearing his monkey he feels independent and I feel like he is not going to get hit by a car. I really don't care what strangers think when they see it (although most people think it is cute) because it allows him controlled independence and he seems perfectly happy with it. |
Anonymous
| never gotten anything but compliments on the monkey back pack (plus the irony is delicious). Will continue to use it so i don't dislocate DS's shoulder trying to hold onto him. Which, btw, is a very common injury in children. problems? sure, you watch him while i shop! enjoy the workout! |