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Anonymous
| Ok, but that doesntreally answer the question. Im sure the BIG THREE here are fine. But what im wondering is whether 11:46 is correct? Is Andover and Exeter really that much better? Because if they are and we dont have to deal with the whole Daughters of the Confederacy issue, Im game! Im sure that is why those 6 AA families hated your little Daughters of the Confederacy dinner party and ended up not coming to the school. Everytime I am at one of these things, I cant help but think this is why minority groups hate us. Im sick of the whole Daughters of the Confederacy tea party mnentality too. |
Anonymous
When I was a teen, part of me longed to go to Exeter. When I got to college, I was very glad I hadn't. The Exeter/Andover kids were generally smart but druggy and really screwed up. And these were the Exeter/Andover kids at Harvard! I was impressed that they had more advanced math classes in HS than my public school did (though that's true of GDS and Sidwell, maybe others, as well), but, outside of math, they were rarely the smartest or best-educated kids in class. Actually, academically, the Sidwell kids stood out more for me. And GDS also hit DH's radar back then, but not mine. |
Anonymous
(sigh) We all go through life thinking the grass is always greener on the other side. No such thing as a perfect school that outshines all the others. Not even TJ. 
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Anonymous
Nobody cares or knows about these schools until the offspring of A + E, Choate, St. Paul alum are turned down at the DC tier 1, 2, 3 schools. Then we hear a lot of whining. The new reality is that folks who were admitted to top tier boarding privates and colleges/universities in the '70s and '80s, even the early '90s, would not necessarily gain admission today. Ditto for what we see in DC. The admissions pools are a lot larger and these officials can choose to build a more geographically diverse class in addition to other attributes. Yes, legacies will have a leg up on folks, but the admission of offspring is not necessarily as certain as it was a decade or so ago. |
Anonymous
| I have to disagree. I didnt go to andover myself but know several people who did. I dont know if I agree with all that 11:46 said but I do agree that my classmates at Harvard who went to Andover were pretty frickin smart. There were nice ones and some were jerks, but all of them were scary bright and well-prepared for college. I got to know several of them in my house at Harvard and they are among the smartest people I still know. Also, in terms of drugs and alcohol, I thought they were more mature than us because they didnt go nuts at the first elixir of freedom the rest of us tasted as freshmen. They were old hands and had lived in dorms for 4 years. In contrast with the rest of the dorm, they did not seem to indulge in the drunken debauchery that non-boarding school kids like me sometimes joined in. |
Anonymous
| Anyone else suspect that the huge number of Exeter/Andover posts that mushroomed up in the 25 minutes between 11:35 and 12:00 might be a sock puppet? |
Anonymous
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Actually, kid for kid, based strictly on what I saw at college, I'd have give Bronx Sci (the TJ equivalent of my day) a solid victory over all the aforementioned privates. No contest, actually.
But I'm not willing to live in Fairfax (or the Bronx), so my poor child will have to pay the price, LOL! |
Anonymous
| Can someone enlighten me about this whole Daughters of the Confederacy Tea Party reference? Is this real? As a minority parent, I am a little concerned if this reference is an accurate depiction of what its like at these schools? In fact, that is why I was even a little anxious about agreeing to send my child to one of these schools in the first place. |
Anonymous
| My kid's been at GDS for 7 years now and I don't know WTF |
Anonymous
| this Daughters of the Confederacy Tea Party stuff is about. Not our experience at all. |
Anonymous
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12:33 - I'm wondering how welcoming you are of diversity when you make a snarky comment and assume that because our school is located here, and that we send our children to these schools, that we are pro-Confederacy? If you're going to talk the talk, you should then walk the walk.
As for the dinner, it was at a school with one of the largest diversity percentages in the region. A school known for its diversity and founded upon those principles. The dinner was a "get-to-know" at the beginning of the year complete with teachers and Head of School. These new families chose our school. As the AA AD told me, it was based upon practical and cultural beliefs and not at all because they didn't want to be with us. We need to stop thinking that we are the best and that everyone wants to be with us. You can lead a horse to water but you cannot make him drink. |
Anonymous
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The Daughters of the Confederacy Tea Party reference is most like a little tongue and cheek but its a humorus and somewhat satorical portryal of how people look and behave at the social functions at the BIG THREE. I hate to admit it, but it made me laugh as well. Its kind of funny. But not sure how serious we should take it. Just a joke...but a funny one because it does have an ounce or two of truth. Yucky!
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Anonymous
...and hopefully religious, physical ability, & socio-economic diversity... |
Anonymous
| Is 11:49 saying minorities are horses. Im sorry but that is pretty RACIST! shame on you and your little Daughters of the Confederacy dinner party. |
Anonymous
| Is there really an "ounce or two of truth" to the Daughters of the Confederacy Tea Party analogy? |