Teen daughter wants her rhinoplasty soon. How young is too young?

[Anonymous]

Not in high school. Not sorry. That is prime age for wanting to fit in and confirm to what you think is the top beauty standard.

I have a big nose. I probably would have got plastic surgery if it was an option in my late teens. In college, an acquaintance one day told me she loved my nose and that I looked like a Roman goddess. Best compliment ever and totally reframed how I thought of myself. 20 yrs later and I am very content with myself and my appearance. Dating, men, friends were never an issue. I’ve been told I’m beautiful countless times my strangers- big nose and all.

[Anonymous]

The last time I was on Tinder, I was shocked by how many men’s profiles said some version of “I just want to see a woman who looks like a real person”.

Even the shallowest f—kboys think enough is enough. Every Instagram babe looks exactly the same.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The last time I was on Tinder, I was shocked by how many men’s profiles said some version of “I just want to see a woman who looks like a real person”.

Even the shallowest f—kboys think enough is enough. Every Instagram babe looks exactly the same.

But that is what teen girls are aspiring to look like, even if they would never say so. OP you have to be honest with yourself. If she has truly a very ugly nose that disfigures her face and scares children, let her get surgery. If it is just “big” but still looks like a normal person and is capable of being attractive, then no wait until she is older and she may decide it suits her after all.

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Anonymous wrote:The idea that there are large groups of young women surgically altering their faces is horrible. If everyone just kept their noses it would be normal.

No, you should see some of these noses. I know one girl who got a nose job, and it’s still really long. Can’t imagine what it was like before.

[Anonymous]

Christ. How common is this?

I know only 1 girl in my high school class who had it done. Then, one in college.

Is this a certain ethnicity to this? A rite of passage? Strange.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Not in high school. Not sorry. That is prime age for wanting to fit in and confirm to what you think is the top beauty standard.

I have a big nose. I probably would have got plastic surgery if it was an option in my late teens. In college, an acquaintance one day told me she loved my nose and that I looked like a Roman goddess. Best compliment ever and totally reframed how I thought of myself. 20 yrs later and I am very content with myself and my appearance. Dating, men, friends were never an issue. I’ve been told I’m beautiful countless times my strangers- big nose and all.

I hated my nose growing up. It is small, narrow, straight Roman nose. Slight dip from the profile.

I also have been complimented it on it my entire life. At 51, I was in a well-known plastic surgeon's office (who does a ton of rhinoplasty) to have a mole on my removed and he commented on what a great/beautiful nose I have. He didn't upsell me anything--told me I had good skin/no wrinkles.

By college, I really grew to love my nose. My sons got my husband's perfect nose.

I really wonder about the false pretense of women that get rhinoplasty young, don't tell husband and then their kid is born with a huge nose. Does that happen ?

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Anonymous wrote:Question for those who did get rhinoplasty, or had friends who did, in HS-

Was it not weird coming back to school obviously having had plastic surgery? I don't know anyone who did this (that I'm aware of) and I feel like it would have been obvious.

One of my friends had it done in college, freshman year. She looked much better but it was not obvious and I couldn't tell what was changed until she told me. IMO, the trick is to keep the same shape. I think these are great examples

I honestly think they all look beautiful and perfectly fine in the before pics. I even think it looks better than the after. Those all
Look like plastic made noses.
Sorry

I agree. The bottom one now looks so generic. I think a lot of what makes someone beautiful is not looking like everyone else. What some see as 'imperfections' in themselves are often what makes them bewitching and beautiful.

[Anonymous]

I had a college roommate who loved hers. She got it as a high school graduation present.

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Anonymous wrote:Question for those who did get rhinoplasty, or had friends who did, in HS-

Was it not weird coming back to school obviously having had plastic surgery? I don't know anyone who did this (that I'm aware of) and I feel like it would have been obvious.

One of my friends had it done in college, freshman year. She looked much better but it was not obvious and I couldn't tell what was changed until she told me. IMO, the trick is to keep the same shape. I think these are great examples

I honestly think they all look beautiful and perfectly fine in the before pics. I even think it looks better than the after. Those all
Look like plastic made noses.
Sorry

I agree. The bottom one now looks so generic. I think a lot of what makes someone beautiful is not looking like everyone else. What some see as 'imperfections' in themselves are often what makes them bewitching and beautiful.

I also agree. My nose looks like the before pictures (wider Polish nose from the front, with a bump from the side profile). I'm glad my DD doesn't have the bump (though has a smaller version of my nose shape), but I'd never get a nose job to change my profile. I do know two women that had very disproportionately large noses for their faces that got very natural nose jobs after college and think they look great. But both women had noses that really changed the shape of their face and were distracting to the rest of their features. Both "new" noses still look big, but are a less distracting/overpowering version of their old noses.

And I'd wait until she's finished growing. 14 feels much too young, maybe 17 or 18 depending on maturity.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I used to be in the "wait until 18" camp but I'm watching my really well endowed daughter struggle with how well endowed she is, and I'm finding myself thinking that if she asked for a reduction at 16 or so, I'd probably take her to talk to a doctor.

Find a doctor you trust. Talk to the doctor.

Reputable plastic surgeons won't do the surgery that young. She isn't done developing. Also hat to say that if she ever has kids it'll likely get worst. My friend went from DD to H during pregnancy.

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Anonymous wrote:The internalized misogyny is astounding. The number of women who believe they look “wrong” and are willing to do horrible things to their perfectly healthy bodies is sickening. Meanwhile men just shrug, shave and go on with their lives.

Males get nose jobs too. All the time.

What is interesting to me is the idea that it's a rite of passage or something - maybe it is in certain communities. But I find the phrasing of the title "her" rhinoplasty fascinating.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:The internalized misogyny is astounding. The number of women who believe they look “wrong” and are willing to do horrible things to their perfectly healthy bodies is sickening. Meanwhile men just shrug, shave and go on with their lives.

Males get nose jobs too. All the time.

What is interesting to me is the idea that it's a rite of passage or something - maybe it is in certain communities. But I find the phrasing of the title "her" rhinoplasty fascinating.

Teen girls don't want to look "ethnic." They want to look like Bella Hadid, Rosie Huntington, and all the other $$$$ instagram models that fill their lives.

[Anonymous]

My friend had a nose job at 14. Wasn't weird, at all. We still went out with bandages around her nose.

[Anonymous]

I had mine done at 19. I'm 32 now and have no regrets. To me, it was the nose I should have been born with. My old nose did not look like my moms or my dads, or any other recent ancestors. I haven't had any other work done, but at 19, my new nose did wonders for my self confidence. I was always made fun of because of my nose, even family members made comments about it, and didnt realize how much it affected me.

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Anonymous wrote:The internalized misogyny is astounding. The number of women who believe they look “wrong” and are willing to do horrible things to their perfectly healthy bodies is sickening. Meanwhile men just shrug, shave and go on with their lives.

Males get nose jobs too. All the time.

Like 90 some percent of nose jobs are women.

~78%