s/o what counts as looking "put together"?

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Anonymous wrote:I think the bikini pic women all look slim and healthy vs. just thin. I prefer more curves but if I had their bodies I wouldn't complain.

I think they look healthy but masculine. The average man would not prefer that in bed.

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They're fit but...not feminine

I respectfully disagree. They are all quite lean & athletic, so presumably in this poster's eyes fewer curves means less "feminine" (or something along those lines). To me, femininity has less to do with the features of a body & more to do with a person's disposition, her qualities, her grace, & her ideas about what makes one feminine. After all, I'm sure many of us have observed young girls whose bodies have not yet fully developed that we would describe as feminine.

Plus, as a petite, small boned woman there's nothing I can do naturally to make myself more curvy. There are many women out there with a body type like mine: sort of a "mini Cameron Diaz" body type- around 5'5, lean, & small breasts. If I put on weight, of course it doesn't go where I want it to go. So my choices are emphasize what I have - the athletic & lean look - by exercising & eating right, or let it go & look like a fire hydrant. And even if my body type isn't the most popular or most desirable, I like it, & I feel womanly in it. I think that's the most important thing when it comes to what is feminine.

Thank you for this. I have the same body type as well, and I feel plenty feminine, and men have always seemed to find me very feminine as well. I get tired of hearing that you have to be super curvy to be feminine (the whole "real women have curves" thing). I'm not curvy, but I'm certainly a real woman.

A second thank you as well. I too have a petite, not very curvy frame. It's what DCUM likes to call looking like a "teenage boy".

I've never had an issue attracting men, my breasts are small but lovely, my hips are not very wide but I have nicely shaped (though not large) backside. These are my genetics, this is my shape. I have no desire for implants or injections to give myself a more curvy figure.

I'm every bit as much woman as a curvier woman is. Women need to just stop putting down other women.

Prime example of a humble brag

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Anonymous wrote:Cameran Diaz, Gwenyth Paltrow, Naomi Watts, Kristen Stewart, the Middleton sisters...yeah none of those women are considered attractive in the wider world Give me a break. Only bitter DCUM fatties would say they are unattractive and unfeminine.

Hello, they're *famous* for being beautiful! They're literally held up as the ideal female body.

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Kirsten Stewart is a fabulous actress but she's not famous for being beautiful.

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Anonymous wrote:Cameran Diaz, Gwenyth Paltrow, Naomi Watts, Kristen Stewart, the Middleton sisters...yeah none of those women are considered attractive in the wider world Give me a break. Only bitter DCUM fatties would say they are unattractive and unfeminine.

Hello, they're *famous* for being beautiful! They're literally held up as the ideal female body.

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Kirsten Stewart is a fabulous actress but she's not famous for being beautiful.

Kristen Steward of the Twilight movies? LOL. What do you think she was cast for? Def not her acting ability. She's naturally a beautiful girl when she's not trying to make herself look ugly and butch.

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Anonymous wrote:NP. Can we please stop with the skinny shaming? Some (many?) people naturally have fast metabolisms.

You can be skinny and not have an eating disorder.

having read the past 3.5 pages, you think it's the skinny people who need folks to get more woke about how badly they are treated in society?

All three of those skinny women have absolutely no boobs! My husband loves my 36Cs!

Prime example of a not so humble brag.

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Anonymous wrote:Also ladies:

Get your roots done as often as necessary! Nothing worse than grey roots coming in. Sorry if your hair grows fast, you still need to get it colored every 2-3 weeks.

Ugh. You're talking to me. I seriously need color every 3-4 weeks but always try to stretch it to at least 6. Bad idea, right?

Yes. I have a standing every 5 week appointment.

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Anonymous wrote:Cameran Diaz, Gwenyth Paltrow, Naomi Watts, Kristen Stewart, the Middleton sisters...yeah none of those women are considered attractive in the wider world Give me a break. Only bitter DCUM fatties would say they are unattractive and unfeminine.

Hello, they're *famous* for being beautiful! They're literally held up as the ideal female body.

None of them have good breasts. I hear some men like full breasts.

Then why are these women all celebrated beauties who are paid millions of dollars to appear in movies (Hint: Naomi Watts aside, it's not their acting abilities?)

This is a small list of women who are paid to appear in movies.

They are built like sticks. Only women with eating disorders think those are "perfect" or "ideal" bodies. They are just one type of woman. Nobody is perfect.

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I will say this...
I don't think that you can only look "put together" if you are thin. I am definitely not thin (size 14/Large), and I generally look put together. However, I will admit that I probably have to put more thought/effort into it than a thinner person. My younger sister is small (probably a size 4/6), and is able to throw on an outfit and look put together.

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Put together for me is when woman or man actually took some time to look in the mirror before leaving the house.
Hair brushed and clean with good haircut.
Lips not chopped, maybe lipgloss on.
Skin with moisturizer. Some quality foundation if skin not perfect. Eyebrows groomed.
Clean, ironed t-shirt or cute top. For a woman right size bra under.
Clean jeans or pants or skirt.
Nice sandals or sneakers or flats. No running shoes.
Maybe some jewelry and some perfume.

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You can look faboulous in any weight. Just look at Adele's street style photos.

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Anonymous wrote:Cameran Diaz, Gwenyth Paltrow, Naomi Watts, Kristen Stewart, the Middleton sisters...yeah none of those women are considered attractive in the wider world Give me a break. Only bitter DCUM fatties would say they are unattractive and unfeminine.

Hello, they're *famous* for being beautiful! They're literally held up as the ideal female body.

None of them have good breasts. I hear some men like full breasts.

Then why are these women all celebrated beauties who are paid millions of dollars to appear in movies (Hint: Naomi Watts aside, it's not their acting abilities?)

This is a small list of women who are paid to appear in movies.

They are built like sticks. Only women with eating disorders think those are "perfect" or "ideal" bodies. They are just one type of woman. Nobody is perfect.

Yeah but think of all the A list actresses, of which these women feature among: you could add to this list Nicole Kidman (stick skinny), Natalie Portman (stick), Emma Watson (stick), Emma Stone (stick), Charlize Theron (stick), JLaw (stick), Angelina Jolie (stick), Kiera Knightly (stick), Mila Kunis (stick), Anne Hathaway (skinny before she had a baby), Penelope Cruz

Are you noticing a pattern here? Are ANY of these women larger than a size 2 or 4? Serious question, I don't mean that snarkily. There's only a handful of top actresses who are larger than a size six.

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Anonymous wrote:Cameran Diaz, Gwenyth Paltrow, Naomi Watts, Kristen Stewart, the Middleton sisters...yeah none of those women are considered attractive in the wider world Give me a break. Only bitter DCUM fatties would say they are unattractive and unfeminine.

Hello, they're *famous* for being beautiful! They're literally held up as the ideal female body.

None of them have good breasts. I hear some men like full breasts.

Then why are these women all celebrated beauties who are paid millions of dollars to appear in movies (Hint: Naomi Watts aside, it's not their acting abilities?)

This is a small list of women who are paid to appear in movies.

They are built like sticks. Only women with eating disorders think those are "perfect" or "ideal" bodies. They are just one type of woman. Nobody is perfect.

Yeah but think of all the A list actresses, of which these women feature among: you could add to this list Nicole Kidman (stick skinny), Natalie Portman (stick), Emma Watson (stick), Emma Stone (stick), Charlize Theron (stick), JLaw (stick), Angelina Jolie (stick), Kiera Knightly (stick), Mila Kunis (stick), Anne Hathaway (skinny before she had a baby), Penelope Cruz

Are you noticing a pattern here? Are ANY of these women larger than a size 2 or 4? Serious question, I don't mean that snarkily. There's only a handful of top actresses who are larger than a size six.

Not only are they sticks they are also white. They also probably are genetically very skinny and with diets and workouts maintain their trim frame. It isn't exactly a healthy frame.

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Anonymous wrote:Cameran Diaz, Gwenyth Paltrow, Naomi Watts, Kristen Stewart, the Middleton sisters...yeah none of those women are considered attractive in the wider world Give me a break. Only bitter DCUM fatties would say they are unattractive and unfeminine.

Hello, they're *famous* for being beautiful! They're literally held up as the ideal female body.

None of them have good breasts. I hear some men like full breasts.

Then why are these women all celebrated beauties who are paid millions of dollars to appear in movies (Hint: Naomi Watts aside, it's not their acting abilities?)

This is a small list of women who are paid to appear in movies.

They are built like sticks. Only women with eating disorders think those are "perfect" or "ideal" bodies. They are just one type of woman. Nobody is perfect.

Yeah but think of all the A list actresses, of which these women feature among: you could add to this list Nicole Kidman (stick skinny), Natalie Portman (stick), Emma Watson (stick), Emma Stone (stick), Charlize Theron (stick), JLaw (stick), Angelina Jolie (stick), Kiera Knightly (stick), Mila Kunis (stick), Anne Hathaway (skinny before she had a baby), Penelope Cruz

Are you noticing a pattern here? Are ANY of these women larger than a size 2 or 4? Serious question, I don't mean that snarkily. There's only a handful of top actresses who are larger than a size six.

Not only are they sticks they are also white. They also probably are genetically very skinny and with diets and workouts maintain their trim frame. It isn't exactly a healthy frame.

The point is, you're not going to get anywhere by arguing that our society does not highly prize thinness. Look at who we hold up as the ideal female bodies. These women get paid MILLIONS of dollars to take their clothes off in movies because people think they look good.

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Anonymous wrote:Put together for me is when woman or man actually took some time to look in the mirror before leaving the house.
Hair brushed and clean with good haircut.
Lips not chopped, maybe lipgloss on.
Skin with moisturizer. Some quality foundation if skin not perfect. Eyebrows groomed.
Clean, ironed t-shirt or cute top. For a woman right size bra under.
Clean jeans or pants or skirt.
Nice sandals or sneakers or flats. No running shoes.
Maybe some jewelry and some perfume.

Ironed t-shirt? Who are you?

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Anonymous wrote:I will say this...
I don't think that you can only look "put together" if you are thin. I am definitely not thin (size 14/Large), and I generally look put together. However, I will admit that I probably have to put more thought/effort into it than a thinner person. My younger sister is small (probably a size 4/6), and is able to throw on an outfit and look put together.

Agree. I think it is easier to look sloppy if you are heavy. Sometimes I think I look "put together" when I leave the house and before I realize it, it is 45 minutes later and my rolls of fat are bursting through my waistband, my hair gets uber frizzy, and whatever scarf or chunky bracelets I put on to "look good" are just irritating the hell out of me.

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Anonymous wrote:Put together for me is when woman or man actually took some time to look in the mirror before leaving the house.
Hair brushed and clean with good haircut.
Lips not chopped, maybe lipgloss on.
Skin with moisturizer. Some quality foundation if skin not perfect. Eyebrows groomed.
Clean, ironed t-shirt or cute top. For a woman right size bra under.
Clean jeans or pants or skirt.
Nice sandals or sneakers or flats. No running shoes.
Maybe some jewelry and some perfume.

Ironed t-shirt? Who are you?

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