s/o what counts as looking "put together"?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:The idea that you need to be stick thin or toned to be attractive or "put together" is complete b.s.

As I say this I am thinking of an acquaintance of mine who is quite large. Her weight goes from large to chubby and lets just say she is not the most svelte or lithe woman around. However, her personality is FABULOUS! She is loud, feminine and loving. Makes friends everywhere she goes and has a horde of male admirers. She is about 5'6 but probably a size 10-11.She ALWAYS looks put together and STANDS OUT in a crowd because:

- She obviously has weight issues due to some health problem and not lifestyle choices. Her arms and legs although chubby are always toned, tan and strong looking. She is an active yogi and cross-fitter
- She never leaves the house without looking done up.
- Her brown hair is dyed a bright blonde and is always perfectly cut and colored and styled. She is rich so she shells out on fancy salons
- Always has a bright orange/pink/red mani pedi
- Always has dark eyelinger to highlight her eyes, and a bright pink lipstick and clean white straight shiny teeth
- Her clothes are all J Crew or Kate Spade and she tailors each item to fit her chubby body perfectly.
- Has a large shoe collection; wears wedges to the mall but always looks put together

The way she carries herself you'd think she is Kate Upton. She also has this whole "blonde bombshell" persona going on that guys find very attractive. For women, she is the cute friendly friend and for guys she is the fun blonde bombshell.

Your friend sounds awesome. I keep picturing Donna from Parks and Rec - I love that character.

I'd love to know how to look more pulled together as someone who is not high maintenance - I don't have bright pedicures all the time (I get peds with no polish), I don't have hair that is always perfectly cut and styled. I'd like to know what the low maintenance version of pulled together would look like. I know it's not going to be AS pulled together, but there's got to be a lazy girl's guide to this as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The idea that you need to be stick thin or toned to be attractive or "put together" is complete b.s.

As I say this I am thinking of an acquaintance of mine who is quite large. Her weight goes from large to chubby and lets just say she is not the most svelte or lithe woman around. However, her personality is FABULOUS! She is loud, feminine and loving. Makes friends everywhere she goes and has a horde of male admirers. She is about 5'6 but probably a size 10-11.She ALWAYS looks put together and STANDS OUT in a crowd because:

- She obviously has weight issues due to some health problem and not lifestyle choices. Her arms and legs although chubby are always toned, tan and strong looking. She is an active yogi and cross-fitter
- She never leaves the house without looking done up.
- Her brown hair is dyed a bright blonde and is always perfectly cut and colored and styled. She is rich so she shells out on fancy salons
- Always has a bright orange/pink/red mani pedi
- Always has dark eyelinger to highlight her eyes, and a bright pink lipstick and clean white straight shiny teeth
- Her clothes are all J Crew or Kate Spade and she tailors each item to fit her chubby body perfectly.
- Has a large shoe collection; wears wedges to the mall but always looks put together

The way she carries herself you'd think she is Kate Upton. She also has this whole "blonde bombshell" persona going on that guys find very attractive. For women, she is the cute friendly friend and for guys she is the fun blonde bombshell.

Your friend sounds awesome. I keep picturing Donna from Parks and Rec - I love that character.

I'd love to know how to look more pulled together as someone who is not high maintenance - I don't have bright pedicures all the time (I get peds with no polish), I don't have hair that is always perfectly cut and styled. I'd like to know what the low maintenance version of pulled together would look like. I know it's not going to be AS pulled together, but there's got to be a lazy girl's guide to this as well.

I am pretty low maintenance, and I try for the following:

- Clothes clean, well fitting, not wrinkled, and flattering for your body type (know what looks good and dress for your shape)
- Hair blow dried straight (I let it almost air dry before blow drying it, and that saves a ton of time and is better for your hair) or in a sleek ponytail or updo (I do a gibson tuck often). When I'm overdue for a haircut, I wear it up more often so it doesn't look sloppy.
- Nails, brows, and any other body hair neat and groomed (nails even cut, filed, and clean, even if not painted)
- Real, well maintained shoes or sandals (no flip flops, scuffed, or athletic sandals)
- Basic makeup that takes less than three minutes and highlights your best features (bare minimum is mascara and blush for me)

I have a toddler just don't have the time or inclination to do a ton of maintenance. I've found that figuring out what makes YOU look best and streamlining your routine can make a big difference.

[Anonymous]

Hair that is clean and trimmed (no scrunchies or clips), good posture, clothes that fit well and flatter your body type, clean groomed nails (no chipped polish or gaudy talons), understated makeup, and no fake hair, nails, or eyelashes.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Gwenyth and Olivia P. look so good in super casual jeans and a plain shirt because they are THIN. That's what makes it chic.

You get this right?

You're long overdue for a therapy session to discuss your brainwashed perceptions of thin =chic and/or perfect.
You know that, right?

[Anonymous]

I agree with one of the PP. I've known larger figured women/children who put a lot more effort into their appearance.

I had a heavy-set co-worker who always had a very nice, professional, classic look not over or under done.

I also admired some bigger classmates in my childhood who always had their hair done very nicely, nice earrings, shoes, very clean looking, etc. I think with all of the discrimination larger people face, they make the most of what they have, which is very smart. I also notice a certain level of confidence.

[Anonymous]

This is like an episode of "What Not To Wear".

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gwenyth and Olivia P. look so good in super casual jeans and a plain shirt because they are THIN. That's what makes it chic.

You get this right?

You're long overdue for a therapy session to discuss your brainwashed perceptions of thin =chic and/or perfect.
You know that, right?

+1

I have to agree. I see waif like grown women and wondering what they are trying so desperately to hold on to. The boney look is not flattering on anyone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gwenyth and Olivia P. look so good in super casual jeans and a plain shirt because they are THIN. That's what makes it chic.

You get this right?

You're long overdue for a therapy session to discuss your brainwashed perceptions of thin =chic and/or perfect.
You know that, right?

+1

I have to agree. I see waif like grown women and wondering what they are trying so desperately to hold on to. The boney look is not flattering on anyone.

The super thin look looks wonderful for a teen or twentysomething.

Once in your 30s its hard to pull it off without looking too rough.

Think Kate Middleton.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gwenyth and Olivia P. look so good in super casual jeans and a plain shirt because they are THIN. That's what makes it chic.

You get this right?

You're long overdue for a therapy session to discuss your brainwashed perceptions of thin =chic and/or perfect.
You know that, right?

+1

I have to agree. I see waif like grown women and wondering what they are trying so desperately to hold on to. The boney look is not flattering on anyone.

The super thin look looks wonderful for a teen or twentysomething.

Once in your 30s its hard to pull it off without looking too rough.

Think Kate Middleton.

I am ambivalent about Kate Middleton but boy you find a way to shoehorn an insult into every post about her no matter if it is related or not.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Gwenyth and Olivia P. look so good in super casual jeans and a plain shirt because they are THIN. That's what makes it chic.

You get this right?

You're long overdue for a therapy session to discuss your brainwashed perceptions of thin =chic and/or perfect.
You know that, right?

+1

I have to agree. I see waif like grown women and wondering what they are trying so desperately to hold on to. The boney look is not flattering on anyone.

The super thin look looks wonderful for a teen or twentysomething.

Once in your 30s its hard to pull it off without looking too rough.

Think Kate Middleton.

But bone thin is more natural, when one's metabolism and hormones play that part. But after a certain age (agree with 30-something) it tends to look sickly. Tone (with a little meat) is fine, boney (quite obviously starving yourself) is not.

[Anonymous]

Look I am a fatty but some women are naturally tiny and to say they look haggard over something they can't change is just rude.

[Anonymous]

"But" in error above. My apologies.

[Anonymous]

>>>I'd love to know how to look more pulled together as someone who is not high maintenance - I don't have bright pedicures all the time (I get peds with no polish), I don't have hair that is always perfectly cut and styled. I'd like to know what the low maintenance version of pulled together would look like. I know it's not going to be AS pulled together, but there's got to be a lazy girl's guide to this as well<<<

Men do not wear makeup or have pedicures. Some look more put together than others. How? Clothes that fit and look good, appropriate for the occasion, groomed well and good hygiene. I think it also helps to have nice accessories, like good shoes and bag, even if casual.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The idea that you need to be stick thin or toned to be attractive or "put together" is complete b.s.

As I say this I am thinking of an acquaintance of mine who is quite large. Her weight goes from large to chubby and lets just say she is not the most svelte or lithe woman around. However, her personality is FABULOUS! She is loud, feminine and loving. Makes friends everywhere she goes and has a horde of male admirers. She is about 5'6 but probably a size 10-11.She ALWAYS looks put together and STANDS OUT in a crowd because:

- She obviously has weight issues due to some health problem and not lifestyle choices. Her arms and legs although chubby are always toned, tan and strong looking. She is an active yogi and cross-fitter
- She never leaves the house without looking done up.
- Her brown hair is dyed a bright blonde and is always perfectly cut and colored and styled. She is rich so she shells out on fancy salons
- Always has a bright orange/pink/red mani pedi
- Always has dark eyelinger to highlight her eyes, and a bright pink lipstick and clean white straight shiny teeth
- Her clothes are all J Crew or Kate Spade and she tailors each item to fit her chubby body perfectly.
- Has a large shoe collection; wears wedges to the mall but always looks put together

The way she carries herself you'd think she is Kate Upton. She also has this whole "blonde bombshell" persona going on that guys find very attractive. For women, she is the cute friendly friend and for guys she is the fun blonde bombshell.

Your friend sounds awesome. I keep picturing Donna from Parks and Rec - I love that character.

I'd love to know how to look more pulled together as someone who is not high maintenance - I don't have bright pedicures all the time (I get peds with no polish), I don't have hair that is always perfectly cut and styled. I'd like to know what the low maintenance version of pulled together would look like. I know it's not going to be AS pulled together, but there's got to be a lazy girl's guide to this as well.

Really? A loud, overweight, fake-tanned bleached blonde? She sounds wretched to me.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:The idea that you need to be stick thin or toned to be attractive or "put together" is complete b.s.

As I say this I am thinking of an acquaintance of mine who is quite large. Her weight goes from large to chubby and lets just say she is not the most svelte or lithe woman around. However, her personality is FABULOUS! She is loud, feminine and loving. Makes friends everywhere she goes and has a horde of male admirers. She is about 5'6 but probably a size 10-11.She ALWAYS looks put together and STANDS OUT in a crowd because:

- She obviously has weight issues due to some health problem and not lifestyle choices. Her arms and legs although chubby are always toned, tan and strong looking. She is an active yogi and cross-fitter
- She never leaves the house without looking done up.
- Her brown hair is dyed a bright blonde and is always perfectly cut and colored and styled. She is rich so she shells out on fancy salons
- Always has a bright orange/pink/red mani pedi
- Always has dark eyelinger to highlight her eyes, and a bright pink lipstick and clean white straight shiny teeth
- Her clothes are all J Crew or Kate Spade and she tailors each item to fit her chubby body perfectly.
- Has a large shoe collection; wears wedges to the mall but always looks put together

The way she carries herself you'd think she is Kate Upton. She also has this whole "blonde bombshell" persona going on that guys find very attractive. For women, she is the cute friendly friend and for guys she is the fun blonde bombshell.

Your friend sounds awesome. I keep picturing Donna from Parks and Rec - I love that character.

I'd love to know how to look more pulled together as someone who is not high maintenance - I don't have bright pedicures all the time (I get peds with no polish), I don't have hair that is always perfectly cut and styled. I'd like to know what the low maintenance version of pulled together would look like. I know it's not going to be AS pulled together, but there's got to be a lazy girl's guide to this as well.

Really? A loud, overweight, fake-tanned bleached blonde? She sounds wretched to me.

To each her own!