Friend completely shunned me

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP said that her friend was already married in California before Prop 8. The state supreme Court ruled in 2009 that Prop 8 did not invalidate existing marriages. Thus the bride was already legally married when the decision came down.

This adds a second reason your story is confusing or possibly untrue: you say they were marrying because of the Supreme Court decision and kept it small because they already had a wedding, which implies they were doing this as a legal formality or slightly more. But it wasn't legally necessary.

If, on the other hand, they were reaffirming their marriage because for the first time it is fully recognized as equal everywhere, then your small wedding theory makes no sense.

Also OP, if she dislikes you so much she doesn't want you there, why did she go to dinner with you?

I'm thinking troll who was hoping to spin a tale about the Mean Gays excluding the Oppressed God -fearing Lady.

This.

[Anonymous]

OP please come back and tell us what your friend said after you called her to make sure everything is still cool with you and confirm that she was just joking in her email. Thanks!

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:So you think that, what, six months to a year ago when she set the date and started planning this wedding, your friend anticipated you would be on a business trip over those days and would be unable to change your flight so that you flew directly to Miami rather than back to DC first, scheduled the wedding to conflict with that trip, sent you an invitation, and then when you told her you couldn't make, decided to tell you that she'd gone through all those machinations to make sure you couldn't be there, rather than just deciding not to invite you at all? Do you realize how insane that sounds? Even if she's not usually the joking type, it is far more likely that she was joking than that she actually planned her whole wedding around excluding you.

She didn't plan her wedding until the Supreme Court Decision at the end of June. A few weeks later we had dinner and I told her about my trip. A week later, the invitations came out.

I'm not saying she planned for me not to be able to come, but the date was not set six months to a year ago. And I'm willing to entertain thoughts that she was joking, but not based on the how long she's had it scheduled.

Actually when you put it like that OP, it sounds like she did schedule it when you couldn't make it.

But if that were the case why didn't the bride say right then and there that OP's business trip overlapped with her wedding ask her if there was any way for her to change the return to arrive in Miami rather than DC.
It probbaly would have been easier a few weeks ago.



Although--how big is the wedding? It took me more than a week to book a venue, get an officiant, and address and mail out my invitations. I would assume all that stuff was already in the works.

[Anonymous]

Ummm... her comment was obviously a sarcastic jab at your dumb message. If she's not the joking type and stressed from wedding, she obviously didn't think your comment was cute and responded in a way to let you know how ridiculous it was.

[Anonymous]

OP, just write her off. She sounds like an inconsiderate byotch.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Ummm... her comment was obviously a sarcastic jab at your dumb message. If she's not the joking type and stressed from wedding, she obviously didn't think your comment was cute and responded in a way to let you know how ridiculous it was.

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