I feel sorry for moms of only boys

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a mom of 2 boys and I feel sorry for me about it. I don't think so much about when I am older, though that is part of it. I took care of my mother while she was dying and my brothers were barely present. Moreover, I did things for my mother that she absolutely would not have wanted my brothers to do (nor would they have been willing). I mourn the daughter I never had. My boys are wonderful but they are so wild and crazy and loud and boisterous...girls can be like this too, but the chances are less and even when they are, it's usually not as crazy.

I've thought about this but but not really mourned it. I feel lucky to have had my two kids at the age I did so I don't think I can complain about what I got. One of each would have been nice but it's not like you can choose.

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Anonymous wrote:I have two boys and am fairly certain I'm not missing out on anything.

Mom of both here. Yes, you are, but it's okay.

Yes. I'm missing the kind of relationship my Mom and I have. I have a different kind of relationship with my boys, and there's nothing saying a daughter and I would be close. I wanted a girl the second time, but I'm glad I have my boys.

I am very close to my dad. I always have had way more in common with my dad. We are both scientists, worked in the same field and he was my travel soccer coach growing up.

I still talk to him first when I call. I love my mom but she's much more like my sister.

I am very close with my boys. My husband to his mom. I actually can be more simikar to my MIL in many ways. We have a great relationship.

Stereotypes are just that. They aren't real life.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I work in geriatrics. It's the daughters who are caring for the elderly parents. Rarely the son. I only have a boy. I still don't want a girl though.

As the mother of two boys, that's depressing. Not that I had them to care for me in my old age, but when my kids were only hypothetical I always hoped that they'd at least visit.

I agree with that sensible poster way up there - I don't think your child-parent relationship is predicated on sex and sex alone. We're not just the gender we identify as, we're all whole people.

It's also bullshit. Gay sons take the best care of their mothers according to my mom--an RN/Administrator of an assisted living facility.

My husband was cutting his father's toenails and sponge bathing him at the end--unlike his deadbeat sister.

My older brother dropped everything to be at my mother's hospital bed.

You have a great relationship with your kids and they will want to spend time with you later in life. All the kids (including the males) come for the Holidays with my parents because they are such fun, warm and great entertainers. Even my husbands cousin brings his wife.

If you are an ass or a deadbeat or uptight--yeah- they probably won't want to visit you.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I honestly thought every parent wants boys.

Are...are you Asian? Because no, many (most?) American women (and some men) want daughters.

No

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Anonymous wrote:I always wanted boys only, never wanted girls. I have two boys and stopped at that. Didn't want to risk having girls.

Me too!! Love my sweet adorable boys!!

misogyny. Why do so many women hate women?

My first was a girl.

Four years later, I got pregnant again. I kept quite a few of my daughter's clothes that were absolutely adorable. And I thought to myself, Because both kids are May babies, the clothes would fit the seasons for #2.

When the technician said she saw a penis, I was disappointed, and I made that clear to her. (silly, right?) She said I had the perfect family. But all I kept thinking about were my two "daughters" who would grow up as close siblings. And then I wondered what I'd do with her clothes!

so silly

I love them both! They're very different, of course, and while they fight like cats and dogs, they're perfect to me in every way.

Perfect family would be boy then girl.
Girl then a boy would be my last choice.
I would sooner have two boys or two girls.

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My two boys are kind and affectionate. As they've grown, it hasn't changed. My oldest is now 11. My daughter is 13 and she's been a lot more difficult. I love them all equally but the mother-daughter relationship is more distant than mother-son. I did worry about having boys but in the end, I feel that we ended up with exactly what we were meant to have.

My husband barely talks to his mother but she also never ever calls. When she lived locally, she rarely visited. My brother talks to my several times a week and has been at her bedside through a number of health issues.

I don't think gender predicts the quality of your relationships.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have two boys and am fairly certain I'm not missing out on anything.

Mom of both here. Yes, you are, but it's okay.

Go fuck yourself. Your kids won't be as close as same sex siblings, especially boys. Oh and go fuck yourself.[/quote
I agree, it's sad when kids don't have same sex siblings, that would suck.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I work in geriatrics. It's the daughters who are caring for the elderly parents. Rarely the son. I only have a boy. I still don't want a girl though.

As the mother of two boys, that's depressing. Not that I had them to care for me in my old age, but when my kids were only hypothetical I always hoped that they'd at least visit.

I agree with that sensible poster way up there - I don't think your child-parent relationship is predicated on sex and sex alone. We're not just the gender we identify as, we're all whole people.

It's also bullshit. Gay sons take the best care of their mothers according to my mom--an RN/Administrator of an assisted living facility.

My husband was cutting his father's toenails and sponge bathing him at the end--unlike his deadbeat sister.

My older brother dropped everything to be at my mother's hospital bed.

You have a great relationship with your kids and they will want to spend time with you later in life. All the kids (including the males) come for the Holidays with my parents because they are such fun, warm and great entertainers. Even my husbands cousin brings his wife.

If you are an ass or a deadbeat or uptight--yeah- they probably won't want to visit you.

Not everyone is lucky enough to have a gay son.
Visiting is one thing. Making personal sacrifices to be a caregiver to your frail mom is another. It isn't so different from which parent is more likely to leave work to pick up sick kid.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought I'd want a girl. I have two boys and couldn't be happier.

+1

My boys are so sweet together. The oldest is sweeter and more loving than any girl could be. The youngest is every boy stereotype but he still loves his mom fiercely. They adore each other and my little one looks up to his brother and plays with him in a way that I couldn't imagine a girl doing. They are also absolutely beautiful. I always wanted a girl but I can't imagine it being any other way now.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I work in geriatrics. It's the daughters who are caring for the elderly parents. Rarely the son. I only have a boy. I still don't want a girl though.

As the mother of two boys, that's depressing. Not that I had them to care for me in my old age, but when my kids were only hypothetical I always hoped that they'd at least visit.

I agree with that sensible poster way up there - I don't think your child-parent relationship is predicated on sex and sex alone. We're not just the gender we identify as, we're all whole people.

It's also bullshit. Gay sons take the best care of their mothers according to my mom--an RN/Administrator of an assisted living facility.

My husband was cutting his father's toenails and sponge bathing him at the end--unlike his deadbeat sister.

My older brother dropped everything to be at my mother's hospital bed.

You have a great relationship with your kids and they will want to spend time with you later in life. All the kids (including the males) come for the Holidays with my parents because they are such fun, warm and great entertainers. Even my husbands cousin brings his wife.

If you are an ass or a deadbeat or uptight--yeah- they probably won't want to visit you.

Not everyone is lucky enough to have a gay son.
Visiting is one thing. Making personal sacrifices to be a caregiver to your frail mom is another. It isn't so different from which parent is more likely to leave work to pick up sick kid.

How long until someone starts a thread called "I feel sorry for Moms of Straight Sons"?

[Anonymous]

It takes a helluva lot for a son not to love his mother.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It takes a helluva lot for a son not to love his mother.

Who does every major male athlete, soldier, etc thank on live team? That's right: mom.

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Anonymous wrote:It takes a helluva lot for a son not to love his mother.

Who does every major male athlete, soldier, etc thank on live team? That's right: mom.

TV- not team

Boys are fiercely protective of their mothers.

My friend that had a firstborn daughter gave me shit about how I didn't know what I was missing since I have boys.

Well- her second is a boy that hams her wrapped around his finger. He's 3 now and I feel sorry for her 5-year old daughter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I have two boys and am fairly certain I'm not missing out on anything.

Mom of both here. Yes, you are, but it's okay.

Go fuck yourself. Your kids won't be as close as same sex siblings, especially boys. Oh and go fuck yourself.[/quote
I agree, it's sad when kids don't have same sex siblings, that would suck.

New poster here. I have one of each and I think I've learned from that. I think I (they) have missed out on the same sex sibling relationship but I think people who have all boys or all girls have also missed out. So basically you can't have everything if you only haw a coue of kids (you could also say I've missed out on having an only child, having three kids, etc).

[Anonymous]

So weird that women are bashing having girls.