I feel sorry for moms of only boys

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Anonymous wrote:I honestly thought every parent wants boys.

Are...are you Asian? Because no, many (most?) American women (and some men) want daughters.

Of course the bigoted troll comes out. Has to. Every post.

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Anonymous wrote:I feel blessed not to have girls. They are Tasmanian Devils when puberty hits.

Exactly. I was the only girl in a family of boys including all boy cousins. Caused more trouble than all the boys combined so I am happy (and relieved) having only boys.

If you are a troublemaker then it's likely your sons will be also because well they're being raised by someone who is one, being a troublemaker has nothing to do with gender.

I was a troublemaker. All after puberty hit. My sons are in high school and college and they are both responsible young adults. Neither have run off to Europe with a "friend" old enough to be their parent. Must take after their dad...

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We have 3 boys and 2 daughters. Of all of my children, ?i'm closest to my oldest son who is the most like me in terms of oersonality.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I honestly thought every parent wants boys.

Are...are you Asian? Because no, many (most?) American women (and some men) want daughters.

I know, a big surprise for 1st gen. Asians when their 2nd gen. sons marry American wives and not honor parents.

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Anonymous wrote:I'm a mom of 2 boys and I feel sorry for me about it. I don't think so much about when I am older, though that is part of it. I took care of my mother while she was dying and my brothers were barely present. Moreover, I did things for my mother that she absolutely would not have wanted my brothers to do (nor would they have been willing). I mourn the daughter I never had. My boys are wonderful but they are so wild and crazy and loud and boisterous...girls can be like this too, but the chances are less and even when they are, it's usually not as crazy.

Yeah. You say that now. Just remember, if you had had a daughter, she would have ended up in therapy talking about you.

There's something to be said about having daughter(s). My brother and I are equally close to my parents and my brother is very good to them materially. Nevertheless, it is me that call them daily and check up on their health. It is me who makes the doctor appointment and assess their financial situation. My brother adores them but in a very different way--he would not think twice about taking care of them should they need him financially-buy them expensive gifts and tend to their material needs. However, there's no emotional nurturing. He could go for months without checking on them. My mother bemoans how short their conversations are and yearn for him to be more in touch with them.

My husband is devoted to his parents, but it is me who reminds him to call them. His phone conversation with them lasts at most 10 minutes. When he visits them, he eats and watches TV.

I have 2 boys and they adore me. Nevertheless, I don't expect them to have the kind of relationship that my mother and I or my father and I have. Most men do not communicate that way. I think I will have to develop a good circle of women to grow old with (in addition to my husband of course!).

[Anonymous]

I work in geriatrics. It's the daughters who are caring for the elderly parents. Rarely the son. I only have a boy. I still don't want a girl though.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:It really depends on the child, not gender. My MIL and I have a good relationship. Her other son, who lived near her, basically abandoned her when she was starting to get dementia. My husband was supportive, but I am the one who choose to move her here and be her caretaker for 9 months in our home prior to getting her into a nursing home. I do all her shopping, manage her finances, visit weekly and make sure everything is kept up at the nursing home. The bigger issue is who they marry to me.

Oh goodness I hope I get someone like you as a DIL! You are doing a wonderful job!

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Anonymous wrote:I overheard two women talking about how they were so glad that they had at least one girl and that they felt sorry for women who only had sons. They went on to talk about how lonely it would be to not have daughters when you are old. I have 2 boys and I keep thinking about these women and their comments.

I've heard this, too, and to be honest, as a woman with plenty of female pals, we are all close to our mothers and take on the bulk of their care.

I have a son and a daughter. I'm hoping we'll all be close as they age, but you never know.

Maybe I'll die young like my mom, so no one will have to care for me.

sorry for your loss

But I'm confused as to why you'd post that under my response.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:It really depends on the child, not gender. My MIL and I have a good relationship. Her other son, who lived near her, basically abandoned her when she was starting to get dementia. My husband was supportive, but I am the one who choose to move her here and be her caretaker for 9 months in our home prior to getting her into a nursing home. I do all her shopping, manage her finances, visit weekly and make sure everything is kept up at the nursing home. The bigger issue is who they marry to me.

Oh goodness I hope I get someone like you as a DIL! You are doing a wonderful job!

I want you as a DIL too! Mom with two boys here.

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Anonymous wrote:Nobody is Goin to have to care for.me. I'm only 25yrs older than my youngest child. No sandwich generation here.

That's dumb. Just because you had your kids young doesn't mean you're not going to age to the point of needing care and assistance.

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Anonymous wrote:I always wanted boys only, never wanted girls. I have two boys and stopped at that. Didn't want to risk having girls.

Me too!! Love my sweet adorable boys!!

misogyny. Why do so many women hate women?

My first was a girl.

Four years later, I got pregnant again. I kept quite a few of my daughter's clothes that were absolutely adorable. And I thought to myself, Because both kids are May babies, the clothes would fit the seasons for #2.

When the technician said she saw a penis, I was disappointed, and I made that clear to her. (silly, right?) She said I had the perfect family. But all I kept thinking about were my two "daughters" who would grow up as close siblings. And then I wondered what I'd do with her clothes!

so silly

I love them both! They're very different, of course, and while they fight like cats and dogs, they're perfect to me in every way.

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Anonymous wrote:I work in geriatrics. It's the daughters who are caring for the elderly parents. Rarely the son. I only have a boy. I still don't want a girl though.

As the mother of two boys, that's depressing. Not that I had them to care for me in my old age, but when my kids were only hypothetical I always hoped that they'd at least visit.

I agree with that sensible poster way up there - I don't think your child-parent relationship is predicated on sex and sex alone. We're not just the gender we identify as, we're all whole people.

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Anonymous wrote:I have two boys and am fairly certain I'm not missing out on anything.

Mom of both here. Yes, you are, but it's okay.

Go fuck yourself. Your kids won't be as close as same sex siblings, especially boys. Oh and go fuck yourself.

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Anonymous wrote:I have four wild and crazy boys, and my house is like a frat house...I am blessed.

Blessed, right... wait until they get married and only listen to their wives.

as it should be. Who wants to be married to a man child? And who wants to be babying their grown children?

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Anonymous wrote:I have four wild and crazy boys, and my house is like a frat house...I am blessed.

Blessed, right... wait until they get married and only listen to their wives.

as it should be. Who wants to be married to a man child? And who wants to be babying their grown children?

More they could just be independent adults who adore their mom and their wives, like my husband.

If you're a good mom to good kids, you're ok. Gender is irrelevant.