I know many successful, beautiful women and we can't find men in DC!

[Anonymous]

To be fair, I know guys who have unrealistic standards, too. Either they're schlubs who are only attracted to, and feel entitled to nothing less than, beautiful girls half their age, or they're so self-absorbed that they can't maintain a relationship (and then they moan about why they can't find a nice girl, and why are all women so self-absorbed). So let's not blame it all on the ladies.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:This may be true. But I don't hear a lot of men in their 30s and 40s complaining that they can't find a woman. I hear a lot of women in that same age range complaining (such as in this thread).

Ahhh!! Very good point!!
Save for slovenly sociopaths most middle aged men who are, in fact, looking for a long-term relationship don't seem to have much difficulty in securing a significant other. I don't know if it's because there is a larger segment of single women in that middle-age range or if it's because men are less particular about prerequisites than women or what - but you're right...the complaints from men who are unable to find a woman are significantly fewer.

My guess is a mix between the amount of available women and the fact a lot of men are less particular when it comes to the pre-requisites.

Ya know, if you're dating in your 40s them most age-appropriate men will be balding! It drives me crazy when women say that's a deal-breaker. Though to be honest, I've only read about that on here, none of my friends IRL care about that. Most of our partners are balding!

I like when a heavy woman complains about a man's hair.
Hair loss is unstoppable, despite the meds and snake oils available.
Weight loss is achievable through actual work and putting the fork down, despite how only American women are fat due to "thyroid problems."

I'm not making fun of weight here, but pointing out that weight is controllable. I've gone from 250 to 175. My fault I was fat. My "fault" in thin. Not a damn thing I can do about my hair except shave that shit off.

[Anonymous]

If you have problems with women not liking you because you are balding, stop trolling for college freshmen.

Most women, mid-20s and up, are OK with it, as long as you're not doing some bizaaro combover and are otherwise in decent shape.

[Anonymous]

I'm a single guy and I've met women just like the OP are talking about.

The problem is they are so focused on 'who they are' or what I do that it turns me off. I don't care if you are a successful lawyer, a doctor, etc. That really doesn't mean much in my eyes. I'm focusing on who you are as a person. Are you loyal, are you fun, are you judgemental, are you materialistic, do you have a lot of friends from different social groups, do you come off as stuffy/boring, do you take yourself too seriously, are you good with kids, etc..

Then I make my decision about the kind of person you are. I don't give a shit about your income, social status, who you know, what school you went to (besides for sports team affiliations), what degree(s) you have, or what position you hold. So when you put all that out there, I just turn away. That shit should be left to the "just out of college with their first real job" people. I'm passed that.



Right. This is the standard male opinion. You "don't care" about who we are. You're focusing on us as a person. Person, meaning, you really better have a nice ass, be age-appropriate, have clear skin, an adorable, symmetrical face, long legs would be great, and excellent hair.

The other part of this is that we all want "nice" girls. That has repeatedly been mentioned here as a male criteria (because we all know that most men are "nice" people too, who never hurt women, disparage women, hurt other people, etc. Men are all really "nice.") By nice, men mean that they want a woman who will respect them as the man in the relationship, have no personal baggage or issues, few insecurities (or if you have them, they should be cute, like you blush), and an agreeable disposition.

The fact is, men are just as demanding, exacting, superficial, and vicious as women when it comes to dating.

You do not know what you are fucking taking about. If this is your experience dating men your need to really look at your self and the type of guys you are drawn to. I had a few guy friends- tall, good looking, cool jobs, made money, who would fuck anything. In the same group there were the same type of guys, but they were very picky about who they dated/slept with. Most of the women who sleep with the first type of guy always get burnt and end up complaining about men.

[Anonymous]

Okay y'all starting to reach a little bit with the whole back and forth crap about how women are and how men are...let's not go there.

Look, some people simply have more problems when it comes to dating than others and I'd say its more so an issue of objectivity vs. subjectivity as opposed to simply a matter of how men are vs. how women are. Perception and attitude are everything y'all. If you got an open mind and refrain from making snap judgements about people and are capable of seeing the value of others as individuals then you're gonna come across a lot of nice people, a lot of attractive people, a lot of potential friends and potential partners.

But if don't have an open mind and you only selfishly see the value of others based solely on your personal wants/needs and totally disregard their individual beauty and talents and potential simply because their strengths aren't at the top of your list of prerequisites then you're gonna come across the same tired people and find yourself in the same tired situations again and again - you're gonna find yourself alone.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:48 year old dual degree professional WM here, polyglot, well traveled, great sense of humor, fit enough just re-entering the dating pool. Any takers?

This made me cringe

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Help!

Seriously, I'm in a group of 12 women - doctors, pharmacists, lawyers, etc. and we can't find any men! We get hit on by married men all the time. Where do we find good men?

You are a dime a dozen in a city crawling with attractive, educated, funny single women. What else do you have to offer?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Help!

Seriously, I'm in a group of 12 women - doctors, pharmacists, lawyers, etc. and we can't find any men! We get hit on by married men all the time. Where do we find good men?

You are a dime a dozen in a city crawling with attractive, educated, funny single women. What else do you have to offer?

ZING!!!

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Okay y'all starting to reach a little bit with the whole back and forth crap about how women are and how men are...let's not go there.

Look, some people simply have more problems when it comes to dating than others and I'd say its more so an issue of objectivity vs. subjectivity as opposed to simply a matter of how men are vs. how women are. Perception and attitude are everything y'all. If you got an open mind and refrain from making snap judgements about people and are capable of seeing the value of others as individuals then you're gonna come across a lot of nice people, a lot of attractive people, a lot of potential friends and potential partners.

But if don't have an open mind and you only selfishly see the value of others based solely on your personal wants/needs and totally disregard their individual beauty and talents and potential simply because their strengths aren't at the top of your list of prerequisites then you're gonna come across the same tired people and find yourself in the same tired situations again and again - you're gonna find yourself alone.

+1

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:48 year old dual degree professional WM here, polyglot, well traveled, great sense of humor, fit enough just re-entering the dating pool. Any takers?

This made me cringe

Why? Maybe he is a nice guy! Maybe someone you could click with. What about him - or his statement - makes your cringe? And maybe he was being tongue-in-check, ref. "sense of humor?"

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:48 year old dual degree professional WM here, polyglot, well traveled, great sense of humor, fit enough just re-entering the dating pool. Any takers?

This made me cringe

Why? Maybe he is a nice guy! Maybe someone you could click with. What about him - or his statement - makes your cringe? And maybe he was being tongue-in-check, ref. "sense of humor?"

Why? Because it comes off as very desperate and like he is providing his resume thinking he is hot shit.

Someone I could click with? I'm a guy. No thanks.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:* professional women's love lives go to die...

I don't think this is true so much of non professional women.

What is a 'professional' woman? I feel they women who don't have fulfilling relationships jump into their 'professions' then cite their job for bring single. Meanwhile there coworker is married with kids and just as much a 'professional woman'.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:48 year old dual degree professional WM here, polyglot, well traveled, great sense of humor, fit enough just re-entering the dating pool. Any takers?

This made me cringe

Why? Maybe he is a nice guy! Maybe someone you could click with. What about him - or his statement - makes your cringe? And maybe he was being tongue-in-check, ref. "sense of humor?"

Why? Because it comes off as very desperate and like he is providing his resume thinking he is hot shit.

Someone I could click with? I'm a guy. No thanks.

Resume? Where?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Right here. You can email me at [e-mail].

Did OP and her crew email you yet man?

There usually is a thread like this once every month or two and guys leave an email or contact info to the OP - i am curious is all of these OP's and their friends have ever taken up a contact on DCUM.

No one has emailed me yet, I just checked 10 min ago.

Again, ladies: Eligible single man here. Email me at LD_fan82 at yahoo dot com and I'll meet you for a date.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

If it's only successful single alpha males you're after (understandable)

I laughed.