Posters who cross your mind every once in awhile

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Lots of amazing, heart wrenching, funny, absurd posts.

The one I remember from time to time was from a woman who found out she had cancer. Brain tumor. She didn't know how to tell her husband. She was young (30s?) with a young child. She stopped posting. Every once in a while I would look for her, others too would bump the thread. Her situation is one that so many of us fear in a visceral way--not dying, but dying with very young children. Makes me cry thinking about her now. I hope that she just got busy getting better and is now too busy enjoying life to worry about DCUM. That's my hope.

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There is a kind poster, single mom, her DD should be 5 and she's probably 42 now. She had her at 36.5 and it ruined a budding relationship with the guy, though he is involved in his daughter's life. I think she's also posted that she hasn't dated much since DD's birth, though I'm not sure if its the same poster. She posts once in awhile, but I always wonder if she will find love. She sounds like a cool person.

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Anonymous wrote:I was reading something today and remembered a particular poster. This poster comes across my mind every now and then when I hear certain stories or read certain books. Does anyone remember the mom with the son who has been hospitalized multiple times for hurting himself, threatening to hurt himself, etc? I believe there was also a dad with two daughters, one of which had some problems and had to be kept away from her sister. Anyways, I think about these posters and wonder how they are and how things are going for them.

Are there any specific posters who you think about from time to time and wonder how they are doing?

Hi OP. That's me! (The lady with the mentally ill son.) It's so sweet that some of you think about me. We are hanging in there. DS is not currently suicidal but very depressed, and that is hard to watch. He hasn't been battling me too much to go to school lately, but when he is there, the minute someone looks at him the wrong way he goes back to his homeroom and sits in his cubicle for the rest of the day and does absolutely no schoolwork. I'm not sure how he's going to pass sixth grade if he keeps this up. He's so darn smart so it's really a shame.

The last time it snowed I convinced him to go sledding with me up at the local high school. Usually he loses his mind when he puts all of his snow gear on because of how it feels, but he held it together and we managed to go down the hill several times. That was a HUGE accomplishment for him. I look forward to taking him again this snowstorm. His docs say the more I can get him to do "normal" kid stuff, the better. So I keep trying but it often ends in disaster.

Again, thank you for thinking of me!

Hi PP, I too have thought of you. I did an "I work on a pediatric psych unit' AMA awhile back and I think you posted about your experience a few times on that thread. Congrats on the sledding achievement! I am wondering more out of curiosity than anything if you have tried any stimulation treatments for your son's illness. Due to his age, I was thinking non invasive - rTMS. I have seen some studies showing good responses with few side effects but I haven't met many parents who have actually tried it. Just wondering if it was something you had looked into at all as a treatment option?

Hi PP. I remember you. No, we have not tried rTMS. I honestly didn't know much about it but just googled it. I wonder if anyone in our area does it? We tried biofeedback a few years ago and that didn't work (and was expensive). Of course, none of these non-traditional things will be covered by insurance. We were referred to this one psychiatrist in our area from another psychiatrist who said he couldn't help us. When I called the new psychiatrist, all he did was ECT. I'm not sure why the referring doc thought that was the person to send us to. ECT can't be done on children while their brains are still developing. I know we have that option when he's an adult, but for now...no way.

Someone else asked if we had tried CBT, and yes, that is the first thing we tried at age 4. Thanks for thinking of me. It's nice to know others think I am doing a good job because some days it sure doesn't feel like it!

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Pathetic

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Posters who can't figure out what to do with their kid(s) on a snow day.

Posters who can't handle a newborn + 2 year old.

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I often think of the vintage poster that was taped to the back of my college advisor's office door. It was a picture of a pregnant girl scout and the two-word caption instructed the reader to "Be prepared".

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16:58 - I'm the poster you mentioned. (I think!) I really appreciate your kind words. Things are pretty much the same here - I still get along well with my daughter's dad and our daughter is doing well. Dating is still pretty much nonexistent, and most of the time I'm ok with that, but a lot of folks in my circle have found love lately and it's definitely making me feel a little wistful about my lack of love life! Oh well. Thanks for thinking of me!

Want to send my own shout-out to LIVID. You are incredibly brave, and your story makes me so hopeful that your life from this point on will be wonderful.

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Anonymous wrote:I was reading something today and remembered a particular poster. This poster comes across my mind every now and then when I hear certain stories or read certain books. Does anyone remember the mom with the son who has been hospitalized multiple times for hurting himself, threatening to hurt himself, etc? I believe there was also a dad with two daughters, one of which had some problems and had to be kept away from her sister. Anyways, I think about these posters and wonder how they are and how things are going for them.

Are there any specific posters who you think about from time to time and wonder how they are doing?

Hi OP. That's me! (The lady with the mentally ill son.) It's so sweet that some of you think about me. We are hanging in there. DS is not currently suicidal but very depressed, and that is hard to watch. He hasn't been battling me too much to go to school lately, but when he is there, the minute someone looks at him the wrong way he goes back to his homeroom and sits in his cubicle for the rest of the day and does absolutely no schoolwork. I'm not sure how he's going to pass sixth grade if he keeps this up. He's so darn smart so it's really a shame.

The last time it snowed I convinced him to go sledding with me up at the local high school. Usually he loses his mind when he puts all of his snow gear on because of how it feels, but he held it together and we managed to go down the hill several times. That was a HUGE accomplishment for him. I look forward to taking him again this snowstorm. His docs say the more I can get him to do "normal" kid stuff, the better. So I keep trying but it often ends in disaster.

Again, thank you for thinking of me!

Hi PP, I too have thought of you. I did an "I work on a pediatric psych unit' AMA awhile back and I think you posted about your experience a few times on that thread. Congrats on the sledding achievement! I am wondering more out of curiosity than anything if you have tried any stimulation treatments for your son's illness. Due to his age, I was thinking non invasive - rTMS. I have seen some studies showing good responses with few side effects but I haven't met many parents who have actually tried it. Just wondering if it was something you had looked into at all as a treatment option?

Hi PP. I remember you. No, we have not tried rTMS. I honestly didn't know much about it but just googled it. I wonder if anyone in our area does it? We tried biofeedback a few years ago and that didn't work (and was expensive). Of course, none of these non-traditional things will be covered by insurance. We were referred to this one psychiatrist in our area from another psychiatrist who said he couldn't help us. When I called the new psychiatrist, all he did was ECT. I'm not sure why the referring doc thought that was the person to send us to. ECT can't be done on children while their brains are still developing. I know we have that option when he's an adult, but for now...no way.

Someone else asked if we had tried CBT, and yes, that is the first thing we tried at age 4. Thanks for thinking of me. It's nice to know others think I am doing a good job because some days it sure doesn't feel like it!

I just saw this - where I work TMS is becoming less of an alternative treatment and more mainstream. There are TMS units in hospitals now and many psychiatrists consider it a medical option, at least for adults. It certainly doesn't have the same research behind it as other long standing treatments but it seems to be one that is picking up steam and becoming a more common option. Being non invasive makes it a promising and preferable option. I know it has been used in kids for a number of neurologically based illnesses. As for ECT, we had many older adolescents receiving ECT - most in the 16-18 range. That definitely is not an easy decision given the potential risks to teen brains but for chronic or treatment resistant depression, it was an option (more or less of an option depending on the psychiatrist). I saw mixed results.

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^^
http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pubmed/22200134

http://www.sciencedirect.com/science/article/pii/S1935861X13002945

A couple articles on TMS for depression in youth.

And certainly where I work(ed) - I have since left to go back to school, there was great respect for many of the parents who were raising children with chronic mental illness.

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Tiny poster

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Anonymous wrote:Posters who can't figure out what to do with their kid(s) on a snow day.

Posters who can't handle a newborn + 2 year old.

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Anonymous wrote:Totally randomly the thought popped into my head of the young woman who couldn't sit through a multi-hour meeting at work without stepping out to go pee. She carried her big water bottle with her everywhere because she had to "stay hydrated," you know. A bunch of people told her to grow up, essentially.

link?

People who write "link?" and nothing else annoy me. But I was able to find it:

http://www.dcurbanmom.com/jforum/posts/list/338366.page

I had forgotten the details.

Seems to me that any time anyone with a username says *anything* it is "annoying". What do you want PP, a formally drafted proposal for you to post the link if you remember enough to search it.

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Anonymous wrote:The poster who trained her inner thought to sound like Morgan Freeman.

lmao

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Anonymous wrote:CL. A bit crazy posts but very funny. Sometimes I wonder what she is like IRL.

She has to be horrible. I really lost my patience with her after she basically convinced her 3 year old daughter she had been sexually molested when, based on her account of the whole thing, there was NOTHING to suggest that happened. Based on what she has written about her kids' behavior she's a drama queen who is raising her kids to be ill behaved drama queens too.

Missed that one. Are you sure it was CL? She usually sticks to somewhat inane harmless stuff. Link?

It was never confirmed nor denied, but we are all pretty sure it was. Jeff identified her as a chronic poster but wouldn't say either way if it was CL.

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Anonymous wrote:The crazy lady from the exurbs who complained that her husband almost hit 7 bicyclists in one day -- and then blamed the fact that those bicyclists weren't wearing helmets.

That was me. However your exagerration of the situation is chuckle worthy.