Do you think you might get divorced once the kids are grown?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I honestly can't understand "waiting until the kids grow up."

Don't you think it hurts kids to have them grow up thinking marriage is a loveless exercise in endurance and having children means postponing your own happiness for decades?

You know one of the main reason is that child support is way too much right?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Don't you think it hurts kids to have them grow up thinking marriage is a loveless exercise in endurance and having children means postponing your own happiness for decades?

No, I think it hurts kids more to shuttle between homes, have their HHI income drop precipitously, spend their holidays wishing the other parent was around, let's see, what else? Oh, pretending to "love" the new step siblings, wondering if the infant half-sibling is more cherished than they are, STILL listening to their parents bicker on the phone because that never actually stops, trying to be impossibly "good" so as not to upset the apple cart even further, wondering where the hell that Dad went ....

It's not a dumb fluke that the couples with the highest amount of education -- meaning, among other things, they read a lot and follow current research -- are the least likely to divorce and presumably therefore, the most likely to tough it out for the sake of their children.

No 8 year old wants his Mommy to Just Be Happy and Find Excitement Again with some new guy named Tim, if it means exploding a non-abusive family dynamic.

So uh, yeah, I'm trying to gut it out for my kids.

+ 1. From someone divorced with small kits.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Selfish and lazy DH. Started my Divorce War Chest when DD was 1 year old. Planned to stay until DD when to college. One of the Living Dead.

Fortune smiled on me and DH dropped dead at age 40.
Free at last, Lordy, I'm free at last.

Jeez lady you have posted this a number of times.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Selfish and lazy DH. Started my Divorce War Chest when DD was 1 year old. Planned to stay until DD when to college. One of the Living Dead.

Fortune smiled on me and DH dropped dead at age 40.
Free at last, Lordy, I'm free at last.

Jeez lady you have posted this a number of times.

Yeah, but she's still happy about it.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Selfish and lazy DH. Started my Divorce War Chest when DD was 1 year old. Planned to stay until DD when to college. One of the Living Dead.

Fortune smiled on me and DH dropped dead at age 40.
Free at last, Lordy, I'm free at last.

Jeez lady you have posted this a number of times.

Yeah, but she's still happy about it.

It is still sick and evil.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I've known since my kids were young that I would divorce my husband one day and I have been unwavering in that notion, but I actually don't know if I can wait that long. He's not a bad person (although he is somewhat immature), it's just that I married the wrong person and I feel horrible for not loving him the was he loves me. We don't fight and are not abusive to each other, but I feel more like his sister or good friend. I am not interested in sex or any kind of intimacy with him and I wish that he woud lcome home one day and tell me he's found someone else, but he's not that type. I am now at the point that I feel like although it would hurt him terribly, it would be better for him if we divorced sooner rather than later because he's still young enough to find someone to love him the way he deserves to be loved.

It's seldom greener on the other side, just another different set of problems. You will have grand kids someday, much easier to stay with your partner instead both of you bringing different people into their lives they do not want. Second marriages seldom work out, look at that. If he's a good friend you're doing better then most.....

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Selfish and lazy DH. Started my Divorce War Chest when DD was 1 year old. Planned to stay until DD when to college. One of the Living Dead.

Fortune smiled on me and DH dropped dead at age 40.
Free at last, Lordy, I'm free at last.

Jeez lady you have posted this a number of times.

Yeah, but she's still happy about it.

Hahaha...I just saw this. I don't know I have two friends who are widows and they were happier then can be. Horrible husbands, and it's that saying; better to be a widow then a divorcee. These guys were in their 40's. Life.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Selfish and lazy DH. Started my Divorce War Chest when DD was 1 year old. Planned to stay until DD when to college. One of the Living Dead.

Fortune smiled on me and DH dropped dead at age 40.
Free at last, Lordy, I'm free at last.

Jeez lady you have posted this a number of times.

Yeah, but she's still happy about it.

It is still sick and evil.

You mean funnier then shit, LOL

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:That or do it now while the kids are too young to remember? They are 2 years and 6 weeks. My husband hasn't grown up. It has been days since he even held the baby. It just makes me sad that he's such a horrible father.

Clearly, do it now. But get some counseling first. Maybe he doesn't know how to be a good father? Sometimes people do have to learn.

[Anonymous]

This thread is two years old

[Anonymous]

Among my close friends, about half saw their parents divorce when we were in college. I grew up in a pretty affluent, politically conservative town (not around the dc area).

[Anonymous]

Let's see, three months to go and done. I have told DW of my plan for years but she refused to get her degree and have a life plan. We live in the city where she grew up and can't wait to live in an area with fewer close minded people. My kid knows about this and she said that she honestly can't understand why I waited so long to leave.

[Anonymous]

Staying married for the kids sake specially if both or even one is unhappy is moronic. I learned the hard way so yeah I was a moron lol