Reasonable to Ask 19YO to Cover Childcare for 5 Days?

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Anonymous wrote:Sure, but this is a recipe to have many of your children choose to never have children because of your selfish choices.

I really think a lot of people don’t get big families. I posted previously that my parents did this once with our big family. Amongst us, we have 24 kids. And those 24 kids already have like another dozen. So no, none of us were so traumatized that we chose not to have children. All of us had at least 2.

[Anonymous]

This may not even be legal in your jurisdiction, OP. I just googled what you are suggesting and it runs afoul of most care rules. Even licensed day cares can’t have one person supervise more than three under age 12 and you have four. Are you not aware of the local family of 12 kids whose infant died because the father thought the eldest daughter was taking care of it and vice versa? It was left in the car after church and died. Father went to
Prison. Mother was in Europe. I would call social services on this in my neighborhood and I’m not even a Karen.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This may not even be legal in your jurisdiction, OP. I just googled what you are suggesting and it runs afoul of most care rules. Even licensed day cares can’t have one person supervise more than three under age 12 and you have four. Are you not aware of the local family of 12 kids whose infant died because the father thought the eldest daughter was taking care of it and vice versa? It was left in the car after church and died. Father went to
Prison. Mother was in Europe. I would call social services on this in my neighborhood and I’m not even a Karen.

Laws about how many children someone can watch don’t apply to nuclear families.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I assume this is a troll.

But in case it is not- NO it is not reasonable. Are you crazy?!

Why not? When I was 16 I took care of my 18 month old niece while my sister and BIL spent a weekend in NY city. Of course, that was 40 years ago and I was a very responsible 16 yr. old.

Because there’s a difference between taking care of one toddler for a weekend and taking care of 6 siblings for over a week. That’s why.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:OP is a troll.

I hope so. If not, can you imagine growing up in such a family where the parents would do such a thing?

I grew up in a large family as the eldest of 7 and babysit for weeks at a time, at 15-17. This was in the 80s, so a different time but If OP knows her daughter is capable then I wouldn’t say it’s that horrible.

“Weeks at a time” isn’t babysitting, it’s parenting. And if you were parenting 6 kids on your own, for weeks at a time, as a 15 year old, then many — including CPS — would view it as horrible. I hope you had some serious backups planned.

[Anonymous]

This has to be a troll or a joke. If not, f no. Are you insane? You are terrible parents to ask this of your daughter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:How is this trip only five days? It’s a minimum 23 hours from your house if you live in DC to the capital of the Maldives. You still then have to get to the resort.

The actual vacation is five days, not including flights.

Ok this is definitely a troll. You said you’d be away for 5 days. I’ve been to the Maldives and I know it can take more than a day just to get to your resort (not counting the return trip).

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Don’t most people fly through the Middle East to get to the Maldives?

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I think so. 19 is an adult. I would pay them, naturally.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I assume this is a troll.

But in case it is not- NO it is not reasonable. Are you crazy?!

Why not? When I was 16 I took care of my 18 month old niece while my sister and BIL spent a weekend in NY city. Of course, that was 40 years ago and I was a very responsible 16 yr. old.

You had one toddler to care for not 6 kids. Her parents were in NY not 2-days travel away. And presumably your parents were close by to help if needed.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Sure, but this is a recipe to have many of your children choose to never have children because of your selfish choices.

I really think a lot of people don’t get big families. I posted previously that my parents did this once with our big family. Amongst us, we have 24 kids. And those 24 kids already have like another dozen. So no, none of us were so traumatized that we chose not to have children. All of us had at least 2.

Also from a big family and the key is that none of us had more than 2 … none of us wanted to repeat the chaos and borderline negligence.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:F no. please parent the numerous children you chose to have. I am from a similar sized family and while I did help out while I was home for college my parents never left without an older adult to care for the younger ones.

This. It stinks having to raise your younger siblings. All while your parents get to gallivant and talk about how “we’re all a big family,” “our kids are so close,” and “we wouldn’t have it any other way!”

[Anonymous]

Solid troll post. She’s a troll. Well done.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Don’t most people fly through the Middle East to get to the Maldives?

Yep, through Dubai.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:Sure, but this is a recipe to have many of your children choose to never have children because of your selfish choices.

I really think a lot of people don’t get big families. I posted previously that my parents did this once with our big family. Amongst us, we have 24 kids. And those 24 kids already have like another dozen. So no, none of us were so traumatized that we chose not to have children. All of us had at least 2.

Did any of you have as many as your parents?