Why are men so angry?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have seen men rage at others in public, usually strangers, mostly women. Why you so mad bro?

It’s the only emotion they know or can identity. So it’s all the time or every emotion builds up, and comes out later as an angry temper tantrum. Rinse and repeat

You described my STBX. When I finally addressed the role of his constant anger as his sole emotion and its impact on our family, he panicked and filed for divorce rather than identify any other emotions or think about why he was so angry in the first place.

Getting divorced by an angry husband is not a fun experience. Every aspect of this process translates to him feeling anger. Impatient? Frustrated? Overwhelmed? Ashamed? Embarrassed? Confused? Doesn’t matter. It’s all expressed as anger.

My DD says they have an emotion chart at her elementary school that includes “hungry”. We debated if that’s an emotion or a physical state. She said they probably included it because it was the only feeling other than anger that boys could accurately identify.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have seen men rage at others in public, usually strangers, mostly women. Why you so mad bro?

It’s the only emotion they know or can identity. So it’s all the time or every emotion builds up, and comes out later as an angry temper tantrum. Rinse and repeat

You described my STBX. When I finally addressed the role of his constant anger as his sole emotion and its impact on our family, he panicked and filed for divorce rather than identify any other emotions or think about why he was so angry in the first place.

Getting divorced by an angry husband is not a fun experience. Every aspect of this process translates to him feeling anger. Impatient? Frustrated? Overwhelmed? Ashamed? Embarrassed? Confused? Doesn’t matter. It’s all expressed as anger.

My DD says they have an emotion chart at her elementary school that includes “hungry”. We debated if that’s an emotion or a physical state. She said they probably included it because it was the only feeling other than anger that boys could accurately identify.

As lies go, your “DD” could probably do better.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think men are clueless, they deep down know it, and don't know what to do about it so they control.
Case in point - men send women dick pics. They think it turns us on, we think it's ridiculous and it's a very ugly organ, in general. They don't understand why we're not fawning over them/it.

Yeah, what is UP with that??

We have a lot of women here. Probably many who have done the online dating scene. Have you ever requested a dick pic? Have you ever been happy to receive one?

What is it that makes men think this is something that will improve their chances, for whatever their goal is, be it hookup or companionship or a relationship... I sincerely do not get it, and the fact that it keeps happening gives some credence to the men are from mars/ women are from venus thing. Like we are just totally different, and some divides cannot be bridged.

I used to ask for an occasional dp from my H to show my friends/lol at what I had to put up with (really small). Obviously that ended when I left him. Much better now.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have seen men rage at others in public, usually strangers, mostly women. Why you so mad bro?

It’s the only emotion they know or can identity. So it’s all the time or every emotion builds up, and comes out later as an angry temper tantrum. Rinse and repeat

You described my STBX. When I finally addressed the role of his constant anger as his sole emotion and its impact on our family, he panicked and filed for divorce rather than identify any other emotions or think about why he was so angry in the first place.

Getting divorced by an angry husband is not a fun experience. Every aspect of this process translates to him feeling anger. Impatient? Frustrated? Overwhelmed? Ashamed? Embarrassed? Confused? Doesn’t matter. It’s all expressed as anger.

My DD says they have an emotion chart at her elementary school that includes “hungry”. We debated if that’s an emotion or a physical state. She said they probably included it because it was the only feeling other than anger that boys could accurately identify.

I disagree completely. My divorce was a breeze specifically because he was so angry. I never needed to have any contact with him. Everything was through the lawyer. And he was constantly reminded that I could get a peace order at any time, which would mean not only sole custody but also the end of his career. Now he gets our DS on the weekends, pays child support, walks on eggshells around me, and I have my weekends free to enjoy. Don’t stay in a marriage if it isn’t working for you.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think men are clueless, they deep down know it, and don't know what to do about it so they control.
Case in point - men send women dick pics. They think it turns us on, we think it's ridiculous and it's a very ugly organ, in general. They don't understand why we're not fawning over them/it.

Yeah, what is UP with that??

We have a lot of women here. Probably many who have done the online dating scene. Have you ever requested a dick pic? Have you ever been happy to receive one?

What is it that makes men think this is something that will improve their chances, for whatever their goal is, be it hookup or companionship or a relationship... I sincerely do not get it, and the fact that it keeps happening gives some credence to the men are from mars/ women are from venus thing. Like we are just totally different, and some divides cannot be bridged.

I used to ask for an occasional dp from my H to show my friends/lol at what I had to put up with (really small). Obviously that ended when I left him. Much better now.

How small was he?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I think men are clueless, they deep down know it, and don't know what to do about it so they control.
Case in point - men send women dick pics. They think it turns us on, we think it's ridiculous and it's a very ugly organ, in general. They don't understand why we're not fawning over them/it.

Yeah, what is UP with that??

We have a lot of women here. Probably many who have done the online dating scene. Have you ever requested a dick pic? Have you ever been happy to receive one?

What is it that makes men think this is something that will improve their chances, for whatever their goal is, be it hookup or companionship or a relationship... I sincerely do not get it, and the fact that it keeps happening gives some credence to the men are from mars/ women are from venus thing. Like we are just totally different, and some divides cannot be bridged.

I used to ask for an occasional dp from my H to show my friends/lol at what I had to put up with (really small). Obviously that ended when I left him. Much better now.

How small was he?

Like 5? Maybe less? And I swear it actually got smaller the entire time we were married. Like one day I looked at it and literally thought to myself “that’s smaller than I remember it”. He was always angry.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I have seen men rage at others in public, usually strangers, mostly women. Why you so mad bro?

It’s the only emotion they know or can identity. So it’s all the time or every emotion builds up, and comes out later as an angry temper tantrum. Rinse and repeat

You described my STBX. When I finally addressed the role of his constant anger as his sole emotion and its impact on our family, he panicked and filed for divorce rather than identify any other emotions or think about why he was so angry in the first place.

Getting divorced by an angry husband is not a fun experience. Every aspect of this process translates to him feeling anger. Impatient? Frustrated? Overwhelmed? Ashamed? Embarrassed? Confused? Doesn’t matter. It’s all expressed as anger.

My DD says they have an emotion chart at her elementary school that includes “hungry”. We debated if that’s an emotion or a physical state. She said they probably included it because it was the only feeling other than anger that boys could accurately identify.

I disagree completely. My divorce was a breeze specifically because he was so angry. I never needed to have any contact with him. Everything was through the lawyer. And he was constantly reminded that I could get a peace order at any time, which would mean not only sole custody but also the end of his career. Now he gets our DS on the weekends, pays child support, walks on eggshells around me, and I have my weekends free to enjoy. Don’t stay in a marriage if it isn’t working for you.

PP you’re replying to and I’m glad it worked well for you. I stayed in my marriage only to run interference and protect my kids from the anger. I’ve been surprised by how willing STBX is to expose his anger in writing, in front of attorneys, mediators, etc. He is blind to how he appears to others and sees his anger as perfectly rational in this situation, which is pretty scary. I wish he was worried about appearances!