Family wedding (no kids) - Should we both attend or just DH while I stay home with our kids?

[Anonymous]

How Tf is this thread still alive

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I’d still attend. Right now it seems all about your kids, but eventually it won’t be. It’s good to maintain relationships and be open to doing things without your kids unless it’s truly impossible. I’d be a good sport and go and enjoy a break from mothering.

Meh. These are her in-laws excluding her kids. I don’t think there is much of a relationship to maintain there. If she wants to go as a break, sure.

Obviously you view this in a very extreme way. First off, it’s not only her in-laws at the wedding.

It’s okay to exclude someone’s children. OP doesn’t OWN her children and is an independent person outside of her children. Just like sometimes a friend or person wants to hang with OP and not her husband, they also sometimes want an adults only event.

If you’re the type who gets super hung up and upset over a childfree wedding, you’ve likely lost yourself to having kids and it’s too much of your identity. Take a step back. They aren’t sharing they never ever want to hang with your kids. It’s just for one night they want an adults only event or for whatever reason couldn’t include your kids.

Sure. OP can take a break from her kids by going somewhere she wants to go. Not this wedding. Nobody is saying OP should be “super hung up” but that there is zero, less than zero, reason to expend resources on an event where she and her family are demonstrably not wanted.

[Anonymous]

OP: I spoke to DH about it, and he said that MIL isn't very happy about our girls not being invited. She's a very douting, loving, and involved grandma to my kids but a very headstrong and willful person so she most likely will try to fight it but I won't get involved and will let it just play out. Most of my kids cousins on DH's side are adults (in relationships or newly married with no kids) so my kids and two of my SIL's kids who are 6 & 9 and also aren't invited are the only young kids in the family.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: I spoke to DH about it, and he said that MIL isn't very happy about our girls not being invited. She's a very douting, loving, and involved grandma to my kids but a very headstrong and willful person so she most likely will try to fight it but I won't get involved and will let it just play out. Most of my kids cousins on DH's side are adults (in relationships or newly married with no kids) so my kids and two of my SIL's kids who are 6 & 9 and also aren't invited are the only young kids in the family.

It’s doting dummy

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:OP: I spoke to DH about it, and he said that MIL isn't very happy about our girls not being invited. She's a very douting, loving, and involved grandma to my kids but a very headstrong and willful person so she most likely will try to fight it but I won't get involved and will let it just play out. Most of my kids cousins on DH's side are adults (in relationships or newly married with no kids) so my kids and two of my SIL's kids who are 6 & 9 and also aren't invited are the only young kids in the family.

Well that’s a wonderful way to start your relationship with your DIL. She sounds like a peach.