Parents who volunteer for everything

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Anybody else feel bad for the parents who feel the need to volunteer for everything their kid does-helps on the field for every football game, chaperones every field trip, flies to every school trip?
And they act like they know all the kids and the “kids just love” them.

It’s almost like they are reliving their youth

Are you insecure? Why do you have to put down other parents who help your kids as well as their own?

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:Anybody else feel bad for the parents who feel the need to volunteer for everything their kid does-helps on the field for every football game, chaperones every field trip, flies to every school trip?
And they act like they know all the kids and the “kids just love” them.

It’s almost like they are reliving their youth

No, you sound jealous. Sorry you don't have the emotional energy, free time, or bandwidth to give back to your community.

I'm sorry, but most people who volunteer don't have a ton of bandwidth or free time. We just prioritize it.

My mother always says that the busiest people are the first ones to volunteer.

I find this to be true at our school.

These people excel at being organized and efficient and can do it all. Not everyone can but good for them.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP. I have two friends who volunteer for everything their kids do. They do it because they know it gets their kids things that the other kids don't get. But these moms in general have no lives of their own. I feel bad for the kids, actually, because they have nothing for themselves. They also think that they earned these special extras because of their talent/hard work, they will end up being very disappointed later in life when they realize they have to so the work or that they weren't as talented as they thought.

None of this is true, but if it makes you feel better to think ill of those who help out in your community, not one can stop your bitterness.

It is 100% true. The parents are trying to get their kids more or better advantages than the other kids. When they are "helping" the person heading the event, sport, or whatever feels the need to let the volunteers kid more field time, the better position, stay longer, get more whatever. I have actually seen it done. It's very frustrating.

[Anonymous]

If you really wanted to help your community. Then you would volunteer at a place where your kids won't benefit from it. Don't hide behind - I do it for the community.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP. I have two friends who volunteer for everything their kids do. They do it because they know it gets their kids things that the other kids don't get. But these moms in general have no lives of their own. I feel bad for the kids, actually, because they have nothing for themselves. They also think that they earned these special extras because of their talent/hard work, they will end up being very disappointed later in life when they realize they have to so the work or that they weren't as talented as they thought.

None of this is true, but if it makes you feel better to think ill of those who help out in your community, not one can stop your bitterness.

It is 100% true. The parents are trying to get their kids more or better advantages than the other kids. When they are "helping" the person heading the event, sport, or whatever feels the need to let the volunteers kid more field time, the better position, stay longer, get more whatever. I have actually seen it done. It's very frustrating.

NP. This mainly just comes off as a cope from someone who refuses to help make any of the things their kid benefits from actually happen.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP. I have two friends who volunteer for everything their kids do. They do it because they know it gets their kids things that the other kids don't get. But these moms in general have no lives of their own. I feel bad for the kids, actually, because they have nothing for themselves. They also think that they earned these special extras because of their talent/hard work, they will end up being very disappointed later in life when they realize they have to so the work or that they weren't as talented as they thought.

None of this is true, but if it makes you feel better to think ill of those who help out in your community, not one can stop your bitterness.

It is 100% true. The parents are trying to get their kids more or better advantages than the other kids. When they are "helping" the person heading the event, sport, or whatever feels the need to let the volunteers kid more field time, the better position, stay longer, get more whatever. I have actually seen it done. It's very frustrating.

Like what? This isn’t remotely true at my school. The only ones getting the advantages are staff’s kids. Guess who won the art fair again! Guess who got the lead in the play? Guess who gets to sing the solo at the concert? It’s laughable and predictable. But I guess it’s a small perk for a job the rest of us don’t want to do. Maybe become a teacher at your kids school if you want all the advantages.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP. I have two friends who volunteer for everything their kids do. They do it because they know it gets their kids things that the other kids don't get. But these moms in general have no lives of their own. I feel bad for the kids, actually, because they have nothing for themselves. They also think that they earned these special extras because of their talent/hard work, they will end up being very disappointed later in life when they realize they have to so the work or that they weren't as talented as they thought.

None of this is true, but if it makes you feel better to think ill of those who help out in your community, not one can stop your bitterness.

It is 100% true. The parents are trying to get their kids more or better advantages than the other kids. When they are "helping" the person heading the event, sport, or whatever feels the need to let the volunteers kid more field time, the better position, stay longer, get more whatever. I have actually seen it done. It's very frustrating.

I’m very sorry you feel this way. It must be very difficult to live life like this and I hope you someday can find peace.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:If you really wanted to help your community. Then you would volunteer at a place where your kids won't benefit from it. Don't hide behind - I do it for the community.

This makes no sense

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If you really wanted to help your community. Then you would volunteer at a place where your kids won't benefit from it. Don't hide behind - I do it for the community.

This makes no sense

What don't you get? If you wanted to really donate your time and not do it for the benefits, you would work at a soup kitchen or collect goods for a women's shelter. These parents know that they volunteer so their kids can get the extras.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP. I have two friends who volunteer for everything their kids do. They do it because they know it gets their kids things that the other kids don't get. But these moms in general have no lives of their own. I feel bad for the kids, actually, because they have nothing for themselves. They also think that they earned these special extras because of their talent/hard work, they will end up being very disappointed later in life when they realize they have to so the work or that they weren't as talented as they thought.

None of this is true, but if it makes you feel better to think ill of those who help out in your community, not one can stop your bitterness.

It is 100% true. The parents are trying to get their kids more or better advantages than the other kids. When they are "helping" the person heading the event, sport, or whatever feels the need to let the volunteers kid more field time, the better position, stay longer, get more whatever. I have actually seen it done. It's very frustrating.

NP. This mainly just comes off as a cope from someone who refuses to help make any of the things their kid benefits from actually happen.

So then you agree that parents are doing it to "make things happen" for their kids. Thank you for agreeing and seeing it for what it is.

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP. I have two friends who volunteer for everything their kids do. They do it because they know it gets their kids things that the other kids don't get. But these moms in general have no lives of their own. I feel bad for the kids, actually, because they have nothing for themselves. They also think that they earned these special extras because of their talent/hard work, they will end up being very disappointed later in life when they realize they have to so the work or that they weren't as talented as they thought.

None of this is true, but if it makes you feel better to think ill of those who help out in your community, not one can stop your bitterness.

It is 100% true. The parents are trying to get their kids more or better advantages than the other kids. When they are "helping" the person heading the event, sport, or whatever feels the need to let the volunteers kid more field time, the better position, stay longer, get more whatever. I have actually seen it done. It's very frustrating.

NP. This mainly just comes off as a cope from someone who refuses to help make any of the things their kid benefits from actually happen.

So then you agree that parents are doing it to "make things happen" for their kids. Thank you for agreeing and seeing it for what it is.

DP - you can’t be this dense. Make things happen means things like making the field trip or class party happen. Things your kid benefits from even though you’re too lazy to lift a finger but are happy to take advantage of. Put your money where your mouth is and opt out of the field trip and party next time.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP. I have two friends who volunteer for everything their kids do. They do it because they know it gets their kids things that the other kids don't get. But these moms in general have no lives of their own. I feel bad for the kids, actually, because they have nothing for themselves. They also think that they earned these special extras because of their talent/hard work, they will end up being very disappointed later in life when they realize they have to so the work or that they weren't as talented as they thought.

None of this is true, but if it makes you feel better to think ill of those who help out in your community, not one can stop your bitterness.

It is 100% true. The parents are trying to get their kids more or better advantages than the other kids. When they are "helping" the person heading the event, sport, or whatever feels the need to let the volunteers kid more field time, the better position, stay longer, get more whatever. I have actually seen it done. It's very frustrating.

NP. This mainly just comes off as a cope from someone who refuses to help make any of the things their kid benefits from actually happen.

So then you agree that parents are doing it to "make things happen" for their kids. Thank you for agreeing and seeing it for what it is.

No, dipshit, your kid benefits from having people volunteer to do all of these things for the class, or the team, or the community. Jesus Christ.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP. I have two friends who volunteer for everything their kids do. They do it because they know it gets their kids things that the other kids don't get. But these moms in general have no lives of their own. I feel bad for the kids, actually, because they have nothing for themselves. They also think that they earned these special extras because of their talent/hard work, they will end up being very disappointed later in life when they realize they have to so the work or that they weren't as talented as they thought.

None of this is true, but if it makes you feel better to think ill of those who help out in your community, not one can stop your bitterness.

It is 100% true. The parents are trying to get their kids more or better advantages than the other kids. When they are "helping" the person heading the event, sport, or whatever feels the need to let the volunteers kid more field time, the better position, stay longer, get more whatever. I have actually seen it done. It's very frustrating.

NP. This mainly just comes off as a cope from someone who refuses to help make any of the things their kid benefits from actually happen.

So then you agree that parents are doing it to "make things happen" for their kids. Thank you for agreeing and seeing it for what it is.

No, dipshit, your kid benefits from having people volunteer to do all of these things for the class, or the team, or the community. Jesus Christ.

Who else will coach your kid’s soccer or basketball team or be your scout den leader? These people are so rude and ungrateful. If this isn’t community building, don’t know what is.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I agree with you OP. I have two friends who volunteer for everything their kids do. They do it because they know it gets their kids things that the other kids don't get. But these moms in general have no lives of their own. I feel bad for the kids, actually, because they have nothing for themselves. They also think that they earned these special extras because of their talent/hard work, they will end up being very disappointed later in life when they realize they have to so the work or that they weren't as talented as they thought.

None of this is true, but if it makes you feel better to think ill of those who help out in your community, not one can stop your bitterness.

It is 100% true. The parents are trying to get their kids more or better advantages than the other kids. When they are "helping" the person heading the event, sport, or whatever feels the need to let the volunteers kid more field time, the better position, stay longer, get more whatever. I have actually seen it done. It's very frustrating.

NP. This mainly just comes off as a cope from someone who refuses to help make any of the things their kid benefits from actually happen.

So then you agree that parents are doing it to "make things happen" for their kids. Thank you for agreeing and seeing it for what it is.

No, dipshit, your kid benefits from having people volunteer to do all of these things for the class, or the team, or the community. Jesus Christ.

Who else will coach your kid’s soccer or basketball team or be your scout den leader? These people are so rude and ungrateful. If this isn’t community building, don’t know what is.

Right? I’m so thankful for my kids’ coaches, room parents, etc because I’m not able to put in the time. It would never occur to me to complain about the fact that other people are willing to give up their time to do this stuff.

[Anonymous]

I’m thankful for kids’ sports coaches if they are volunteer, or the parent that volunteers to run an after school math club, or chess club, or be the Science Olympiad leader/coach.

I’m not thankful for the “room parents” that keep distracting education with too many dumb class parties or the parties that do school carnival or whatever. I don’t need other parents to “make things fun” at school. School is for education and schools are doing a pretty bad job at it- and it isn’t because of lack of parent volunteers to throwing parties or lack of snacks in the teachers’ break room