Activities you would never do...

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Ballet (toxic culture and so so bad for your feet)
Football (injury)

Also as an aside-not like many kids do it but for a graduation gift someone I graduated high school with went sky diving. He died. Both his reg parachute and second parachute didn’t open. His girlfriend went too and was pretty much traumatized for years. So I would never be ok with skydiving-although obviously once an adult they can do what they want but I hope I can dissuade them.

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DD6 is doing ballet and gymnastic for fun, and they have an annual dance recital (no competition). We do it for fun and recreational, and I have seen teens doing that for fun. If it is not for competition, ballet and gymnastic are fine?

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Anonymous wrote:Never in a million years, would I allow DD to become an empty-headed, vapid, cheerleader.

This + poms

I think Poms is most popular down South and the Midwest. Have you seen the Pom teams and dance teams in the D1 college division? They are remarkably talented. Watch videos from some of their competitions and explain why you have a problem with it. These girls are not super thin. For the most part their weight is right where it’s supposed to be and they are strong.

Just like female sports teams there are mediocre dance teams but the top Pom teams are on par with the colleges top sports team with regard to the work put in and the results.

Except for things like pay. Or scholarship money. Or future career prospects. But sure other than those minor things for which no one looks at colleges, these are great.

The sports teams getting paid significant money starting this year are football players, basketball players and hockey players. some athletic programs like tennis, swimming, diving, wrestling, volleyball are being discontinued because they don’t produce revenue for the school. The court decision to pay college athletes will cause a lot more programs being dropped to focus on academics because money is tight.

What does the activities you choose have anything to do with future careers? Most college students don’t get sports scholarships so that doesn’t matter.

Most parents encourage their kids to pursue activities they enjoy as long as they don’t see them as dangerous. They are realistic and do not force their child in a sport that the parents think would be the best bet at a scholarship. That’s crazy.

You offered nothing that would dissuade a dancer from choosing a dance team or dance pom for a college activity. Harvard university competed in a national contest for the first time. They have a ways to go but they’ll make it.

Sports teams create networks which improves post-graduation job placement. My husbands firm had a ton of guys from the same university crew team. Would be interested to see what career or industry “poms” helps get into.

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Anonymous wrote:Never in a million years, would I allow DD to become an empty-headed, vapid, cheerleader.

This + poms

I think Poms is most popular down South and the Midwest. Have you seen the Pom teams and dance teams in the D1 college division? They are remarkably talented. Watch videos from some of their competitions and explain why you have a problem with it. These girls are not super thin. For the most part their weight is right where it’s supposed to be and they are strong.

Just like female sports teams there are mediocre dance teams but the top Pom teams are on par with the colleges top sports team with regard to the work put in and the results.

Except for things like pay. Or scholarship money. Or future career prospects. But sure other than those minor things for which no one looks at colleges, these are great.

The sports teams getting paid significant money starting this year are football players, basketball players and hockey players. some athletic programs like tennis, swimming, diving, wrestling, volleyball are being discontinued because they don’t produce revenue for the school. The court decision to pay college athletes will cause a lot more programs being dropped to focus on academics because money is tight.

What does the activities you choose have anything to do with future careers? Most college students don’t get sports scholarships so that doesn’t matter.

Most parents encourage their kids to pursue activities they enjoy as long as they don’t see them as dangerous. They are realistic and do not force their child in a sport that the parents think would be the best bet at a scholarship. That’s crazy.

You offered nothing that would dissuade a dancer from choosing a dance team or dance pom for a college activity. Harvard university competed in a national contest for the first time. They have a ways to go but they’ll make it.

Sports teams create networks which improves post-graduation job placement. My husbands firm had a ton of guys from the same university crew team. Would be interested to see what career or industry “poms” helps get into.

I know it’s hard for you to believe, but some activities can be just for fun, and that’s OK.

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Anonymous wrote:Never in a million years, would I allow DD to become an empty-headed, vapid, cheerleader.

This + poms

I think Poms is most popular down South and the Midwest. Have you seen the Pom teams and dance teams in the D1 college division? They are remarkably talented. Watch videos from some of their competitions and explain why you have a problem with it. These girls are not super thin. For the most part their weight is right where it’s supposed to be and they are strong.

Just like female sports teams there are mediocre dance teams but the top Pom teams are on par with the colleges top sports team with regard to the work put in and the results.

Except for things like pay. Or scholarship money. Or future career prospects. But sure other than those minor things for which no one looks at colleges, these are great.

The sports teams getting paid significant money starting this year are football players, basketball players and hockey players. some athletic programs like tennis, swimming, diving, wrestling, volleyball are being discontinued because they don’t produce revenue for the school. The court decision to pay college athletes will cause a lot more programs being dropped to focus on academics because money is tight.

What does the activities you choose have anything to do with future careers? Most college students don’t get sports scholarships so that doesn’t matter.

Most parents encourage their kids to pursue activities they enjoy as long as they don’t see them as dangerous. They are realistic and do not force their child in a sport that the parents think would be the best bet at a scholarship. That’s crazy.

You offered nothing that would dissuade a dancer from choosing a dance team or dance pom for a college activity. Harvard university competed in a national contest for the first time. They have a ways to go but they’ll make it.

Sports teams create networks which improves post-graduation job placement. My husbands firm had a ton of guys from the same university crew team. Would be interested to see what career or industry “poms” helps get into.

I know it’s hard for you to believe, but some activities can be just for fun, and that’s OK.

Sure, but if someone is going to do it at the collegiate level with all the opportunity cost that entails, there should be payoffs. “Poms” doesn’t seem to have much ROI which is why you don’t see people suggesting that boys do it.

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Anonymous wrote:No to anything that has a crazy hectic unpredictable schedule. Also no to the incredibly toxic girl things like pom, cheer, ballet, etc. We're lucky that mine was never interested.

This activities are extremely demeaning and degrading to women.

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Anonymous wrote:Never in a million years, would I allow DD to become an empty-headed, vapid, cheerleader.

This + poms

I think Poms is most popular down South and the Midwest. Have you seen the Pom teams and dance teams in the D1 college division? They are remarkably talented. Watch videos from some of their competitions and explain why you have a problem with it. These girls are not super thin. For the most part their weight is right where it’s supposed to be and they are strong.

Just like female sports teams there are mediocre dance teams but the top Pom teams are on par with the colleges top sports team with regard to the work put in and the results.

Except for things like pay. Or scholarship money. Or future career prospects. But sure other than those minor things for which no one looks at colleges, these are great.

The sports teams getting paid significant money starting this year are football players, basketball players and hockey players. some athletic programs like tennis, swimming, diving, wrestling, volleyball are being discontinued because they don’t produce revenue for the school. The court decision to pay college athletes will cause a lot more programs being dropped to focus on academics because money is tight.

What does the activities you choose have anything to do with future careers? Most college students don’t get sports scholarships so that doesn’t matter.

Most parents encourage their kids to pursue activities they enjoy as long as they don’t see them as dangerous. They are realistic and do not force their child in a sport that the parents think would be the best bet at a scholarship. That’s crazy.

You offered nothing that would dissuade a dancer from choosing a dance team or dance pom for a college activity. Harvard university competed in a national contest for the first time. They have a ways to go but they’ll make it.

Sports teams create networks which improves post-graduation job placement. My husbands firm had a ton of guys from the same university crew team. Would be interested to see what career or industry “poms” helps get into.

I know it’s hard for you to believe, but some activities can be just for fun, and that’s OK.

Sure, but if someone is going to do it at the collegiate level with all the opportunity cost that entails, there should be payoffs. “Poms” doesn’t seem to have much ROI which is why you don’t see people suggesting that boys do it.

I was a coxswain through college. There was not a huge opportunity cost - mostly my time and the few hundred bucks college and HS crew cost every season. I understand that other sports have a much bigger price/time tag, but there's pretty much always ways to make things cheaper and more relaxed and still fun.

Oh and my crew didn't get me anything in terms of a job.

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Sports in general, and no dance for the girls. We do chess, art lessons, mathematics and stem clubs, and robotics.

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Anonymous wrote:Sports in general, and no dance for the girls. We do chess, art lessons, mathematics and stem clubs, and robotics.

South Asian?

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ATVs, equestrian sports, gymnastics, competitive cheer, football- too dangerous.

Cross country and year round competitive swimming- I’m not 100% against these sports but I don’t encourage them as they are very hard on one’s body. I also don’t want to spend all of my weekends at a pool.

Theater- I’m not 100% against it but our local children’s theater was full of bratty/spoiled children and my DD says that the theater kids at her school are a bit mean/cause drama and not very inclusive.

Girl Scouts- Had a bad experience. We quit when we found out our troop leader was a racist and but even before that I didn’t like how all our troop ever did was sell cookies.

Baseball- If my child was really interested I would let them play but a) it’s hard on the body and b) we live in the South and many baseball families are super homophobic/MAGA and those aren’t values I would like my children to learn.

My kids have done or currently do basketball, volleyball, dance, ice skating, summer swim, lacrosse, American Heritage Girls, Boy Scouts, hockey, track, tennis, and golf. Those have been positive experiences.

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Anonymous wrote:Never in a million years, would I allow DD to become an empty-headed, vapid, cheerleader.

This + poms

I think Poms is most popular down South and the Midwest. Have you seen the Pom teams and dance teams in the D1 college division? They are remarkably talented. Watch videos from some of their competitions and explain why you have a problem with it. These girls are not super thin. For the most part their weight is right where it’s supposed to be and they are strong.

Just like female sports teams there are mediocre dance teams but the top Pom teams are on par with the colleges top sports team with regard to the work put in and the results.

Except for things like pay. Or scholarship money. Or future career prospects. But sure other than those minor things for which no one looks at colleges, these are great.

The sports teams getting paid significant money starting this year are football players, basketball players and hockey players. some athletic programs like tennis, swimming, diving, wrestling, volleyball are being discontinued because they don’t produce revenue for the school. The court decision to pay college athletes will cause a lot more programs being dropped to focus on academics because money is tight.

What does the activities you choose have anything to do with future careers? Most college students don’t get sports scholarships so that doesn’t matter.

Most parents encourage their kids to pursue activities they enjoy as long as they don’t see them as dangerous. They are realistic and do not force their child in a sport that the parents think would be the best bet at a scholarship. That’s crazy.

You offered nothing that would dissuade a dancer from choosing a dance team or dance pom for a college activity. Harvard university competed in a national contest for the first time. They have a ways to go but they’ll make it.

Sports teams create networks which improves post-graduation job placement. My husbands firm had a ton of guys from the same university crew team. Would be interested to see what career or industry “poms” helps get into.

I know it’s hard for you to believe, but some activities can be just for fun, and that’s OK.

Sure, but if someone is going to do it at the collegiate level with all the opportunity cost that entails, there should be payoffs. “Poms” doesn’t seem to have much ROI which is why you don’t see people suggesting that boys do it.

What kind of person worries about getting a return of investment on an activity their child is involved in. I don’t think the Harvard’s Pom team is worried about ROI. Their classes and degree will be sufficient. Same with the MIT cheer team.

These students will be scientists and engineers and doctors and leaders and they’ll have memories of the fun they had going to Disney World to compete.

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Anonymous wrote:Sports in general, and no dance for the girls. We do chess, art lessons, mathematics and stem clubs, and robotics.

Boring

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Anonymous wrote:Trampoline parks. As a former trampoline coach, those places are my nightmare. Backyard trampolines are also an absolute no-go

What about front-yard trampolines?

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Anonymous wrote:Softball. It turns normal girls into lesbians.

You have 100% got to be a troll.

It was clearly a joke. Besides, it's Subarus that do that, not softball.

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Anonymous wrote:Swim team.

No diversity and early practices. Hard pass.

This. Plus in our neighborhood, the parents are crazy.

But mostly: swim really needs to be avoided because of no diversity.

Agreed. Same with basketball.