Activities you would never do...

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Anonymous wrote:My kids did lax, soccer, sailing, kayaking, mountain biking, juijitsu, football, baskeball, instrument, choir, hockey (lessons - never played)... what am i missing... oh dirt bikes at family member's farm

Got all their concussion in soccer.

anyway never did...

logistically, no swimming
too boring, baseball

no motorcycles, private airplanes
(Mater Dei/Prep accidents during their time growing up), ATV

Jeeze, did your kid ever stick with anything to get good at anything?

Yes. It is good to let them experience everything so they can pick something. 2 played D1 sports, 1 stopped after varsity HS sports.

I mean there are 18 years between birth and college and if you start at 5 that is 13 years with 4 seasons a year.

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Backyard trampoline. Anything with guns. I personally hate paintball too but I don't decline for my DC, just wish it wouldn't happen.

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Concussions are very very common in Lax OP.

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Trampoline parks. As a former trampoline coach, those places are my nightmare. Backyard trampolines are also an absolute no-go

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No to ATV riding, motorcycles, trampolines or football besides touch. I also did not allow my sons to ride in cars with new drivers. I did not allow cells phones till 7th grade.

I was a strict parent. I was a bit of a wild child growing up.

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Anonymous wrote:No to ATV riding, motorcycles, trampolines or football besides touch. I also did not allow my sons to ride in cars with new drivers. I did not allow cells phones till 7th grade.

I was a strict parent. I was a bit of a wild child growing up.

Do/ would you let your kids go skiing? I’m talking on real mountains, not the hills of Virginia or Pennsylvania.

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The only thing we said no to (so far) that DH has expressed interest in was when he wanted to do baseball again. It is excruciatingly boring (this was at the 8 year old level) and some of the parents were weirdly toxic. He ended up getting onto a year round soccer team which is his true love, so that kind of took care of it. So far, nothing else has really come up that we've said no to. ATVs will be one which I'm prepared will cause quite a few arguments as they are incredibly popular where we live.

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Softball. It turns normal girls into lesbians.

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Anonymous wrote:These make me a bit sad for girls. I had no eye hand or eye foot coordination, didn't enjoy the repetitive nature of swimming but was a damn good dancer then figure skater then cheerleader (I did all 3 over the years and cheered in college). I took absolute JOY in moving to music and had both a natural talent for it and love for it that made me work hard to build my skill.

I never once was body shamed in it or felt I had to be skinnier for my activity (vs the general be skinny pressure on girls). Maybe I would have been if I was at very high elite levels, but aren't all high elite athletes under body pressure whether its strength or weight or whatever. I am naturally petite which helped me with cheer and skating but that was no different than being naturally tall helping for basketball or tall and lean helping for cross country.

I just makes me sad that parents wouldn't let their kids do an activity out of potential future fears that gave me and many others such joy. I've circled back on all them in my adult life (just started taking skating lessons again after a 25 year hiatus) and I get energized from it in a way i never have any other physical or artistic persuit.

Thanks for this. My girls love to dance.

I danced growing up and my daughter dances now. IMO dance is far more inclusive and body positive now, at least for kids. I have been very happy with my DD’s experience (which is dramatically different than mine in the 90s, which resulted in me quitting despite loving to dance).

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DH got a concussion playing HS football and would have said no if our son had wanted to play. Luckily, the kid never did - preferred basketball, soccer and ultimate. He did become a football fan, however, but that's not so dangerous. Well, maybe, depending on who you root for and where.

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Anonymous wrote:These make me a bit sad for girls. I had no eye hand or eye foot coordination, didn't enjoy the repetitive nature of swimming but was a damn good dancer then figure skater then cheerleader (I did all 3 over the years and cheered in college). I took absolute JOY in moving to music and had both a natural talent for it and love for it that made me work hard to build my skill.

I never once was body shamed in it or felt I had to be skinnier for my activity (vs the general be skinny pressure on girls). Maybe I would have been if I was at very high elite levels, but aren't all high elite athletes under body pressure whether its strength or weight or whatever. I am naturally petite which helped me with cheer and skating but that was no different than being naturally tall helping for basketball or tall and lean helping for cross country.

I just makes me sad that parents wouldn't let their kids do an activity out of potential future fears that gave me and many others such joy. I've circled back on all them in my adult life (just started taking skating lessons again after a 25 year hiatus) and I get energized from it in a way i never have any other physical or artistic persuit.

Yes! My DD lacked any of the natural abilities needed for most ball/team sports -- and she was as a result basically having zero fun playing them. She found figure skating and it's been such a positive force in her life. She's decently good at it! She's setting goals, building confidence, grit, staying active...and she just plain loves it. She's never been body shamed, and we have not found the atmosphere toxic at all. I'm so glad options like dance, figure skating, etc. exist for girls like her and PP with a different set of talents and natural abilities.

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Never in a million years, would I allow DD to become an empty-headed, vapid, cheerleader.

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Anonymous wrote:Never in a million years, would I allow DD to become an empty-headed, vapid, cheerleader.

This + poms

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No competitive dance/cheer/gymnastics, parents, hockey. No travel anything.

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Anonymous wrote:No competitive dance/cheer/gymnastics, parents, hockey. No travel anything.

This, but also no rugby or football, of course. And due to all the concussions, no soccer either. Tennis destroys knees. I would allow cross-country but not marathons.