What old fashion rules still apply? Which are outdated

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Anonymous wrote:This must be a wasp thread as most of my friends wear diamond studs 24/7.

Hundred percent. I grew up in NY around Jews, Greeks and Italians and believe those women love their gold and diamonds! None of these "rules" apply.

WASPs under 80 wear gold and diamonds too.

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Anonymous wrote:Perfume is not only outdated, it instantly brands the wearer as completely clueless. Only tweens and old ladies wear perfume.

Perfume is for whores.

Then call my the QUEEN OF WHORES, I wear it every single day. Sorry you had such a bad experience with something so beautiful.

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Anonymous wrote:Perfume is not only outdated, it instantly brands the wearer as completely clueless. Only tweens and old ladies wear perfume.

I'm neither and I am not giving up my perfume. Call me any name you like, the perfume stays.

The thing about perfume is it can cross over to being offensive for those of us who want to enjoy a nice meal or it affects sinuses.
I asked a friend to go easy on the perfume when going out to eat.

Oh, I bet that made your friend really loke you.

I think this openly Anti perfume movement is so millennial. Anyone who complains will just force me to an extra spritz when I know ill be seated next to you. And if you comment, I'll deny I'm wearing anything and that you are in fact crazy.

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Anonymous wrote:Perfume is not only outdated, it instantly brands the wearer as completely clueless. Only tweens and old ladies wear perfume.

I'm neither and I am not giving up my perfume. Call me any name you like, the perfume stays.

The thing about perfume is it can cross over to being offensive for those of us who want to enjoy a nice meal or it affects sinuses.
I asked a friend to go easy on the perfume when going out to eat.

Oh, I bet that made your friend really loke you.

I think this openly Anti perfume movement is so millennial. Anyone who complains will just force me to an extra spritz when I know ill be seated next to you. And if you comment, I'll deny I'm wearing anything and that you are in fact crazy.

It's ok, we know you only wear it bc you are stinky.

[Anonymous]

I just turned 56 & I wear slip-on, checkered OTW Vans.

[Anonymous]

I am 60 and grew up lower class, with many of these rules. This thread is fascinating. I now am fortunate to be living in a higher income bracket for the last several years.

I do not wear pantyhose ever anymore for formal events. Even in the winter, at a wedding or other formal event. I do wear spray on pantyhose, from Sally Hansen. Smooths out any imperfections and it looks like I'm wearing pantyhose. Kind of like a spray tan I guess. And probably makes me unacceptably gauche according to pantyhose lady

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Anonymous wrote:I just turned 56 & I wear slip-on, checkered OTW Vans.

I love these!

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone who says pantyhose are dead must not have been raised by a mother with class. Full stop.

ICYMI: certain outfits, occasions, and weather require your legs to be covered…and tights aren’t appropriate for certain outfits/settings.

Plus, I guarantee most men prefer seeing a woman in high end silky hosiery at dressy events.

In terms of other rules I follow: no bare shoulders in church. Ever. And no jeans in church.

Well by all means ... let's continue the tradition of wearing horribly uncomfortable things because of how "men prefer seeing a woman."

Gag.

ICYMI - That comment obviously isn’t aimed at dressing for the work place. Rather, it’s meant for all the women who erroneously believe they look better bare-legged in a cocktail dress. Presumably you are dressing up for a night on the town and want to look appealing. If you think your naked legs look better than high end hosiery when wearing a cocktail dress, you might want to see what your husband thinks. That’s all.

omg is this real?

It is sad that you think this way and worse that you turn it on other women.

I have started wearing high end pantyhose and I don’t know if they are doing anything for me since the color match is hard. (I’m brown). But now in lots of settings women without pantyhose seem half dressed to me.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone who says pantyhose are dead must not have been raised by a mother with class. Full stop.

ICYMI: certain outfits, occasions, and weather require your legs to be covered…and tights aren’t appropriate for certain outfits/settings.

Plus, I guarantee most men prefer seeing a woman in high end silky hosiery at dressy events.

In terms of other rules I follow: no bare shoulders in church. Ever. And no jeans in church.

Well by all means ... let's continue the tradition of wearing horribly uncomfortable things because of how "men prefer seeing a woman."

Gag.

Gentlemen prefer Hanes. Hanes will keep you smooth and silky, shapely…sexy.

Hanes, heaven forfend! If you must wear hose, make it Wolford.

I just posted above and I have both. Price is the big distinguisher not look and feel.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone who says pantyhose are dead must not have been raised by a mother with class. Full stop.

ICYMI: certain outfits, occasions, and weather require your legs to be covered…and tights aren’t appropriate for certain outfits/settings.

Plus, I guarantee most men prefer seeing a woman in high end silky hosiery at dressy events.

In terms of other rules I follow: no bare shoulders in church. Ever. And no jeans in church.

Well by all means ... let's continue the tradition of wearing horribly uncomfortable things because of how "men prefer seeing a woman."

Gag.

Gentlemen prefer Hanes. Hanes will keep you smooth and silky, shapely…sexy.

Hanes, heaven forfend! If you must wear hose, make it Wolford.

I just posted above and I have both. Price is the big distinguisher not look and feel.

No way. Hanes doesn’t have the range of denier that Wolford does.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:Even Kate Middleton sometimes wears bare legs with open-toed sandals, including when Queen Elizabeth was still alive. That’s the final word on class, so bare legs are fine.

Haha, I came out the exact opposite - Kate Middleton wears hose so they are not old granny out of style things.

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Anonymous wrote:Everyone who says pantyhose are dead must not have been raised by a mother with class. Full stop.

ICYMI: certain outfits, occasions, and weather require your legs to be covered…and tights aren’t appropriate for certain outfits/settings.

Plus, I guarantee most men prefer seeing a woman in high end silky hosiery at dressy events.

In terms of other rules I follow: no bare shoulders in church. Ever. And no jeans in church.

Well by all means ... let's continue the tradition of wearing horribly uncomfortable things because of how "men prefer seeing a woman."

Gag.

Gentlemen prefer Hanes. Hanes will keep you smooth and silky, shapely…sexy.

Hanes, heaven forfend! If you must wear hose, make it Wolford.

I just posted above and I have both. Price is the big distinguisher not look and feel.

No way. Hanes doesn’t have the range of denier that Wolford does.

My legs and hands say differently.

[Anonymous]

No white before Memorial Day and after Labor Day. That's the only rule I follow.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:No white before Memorial Day and after Labor Day. That's the only rule I follow.

What an absolutely stupid (outdated American) rule. Bet you're ugly and unstylish so no loss. But feel free to come back and announce how chic an gorgeous you are. We'll believe you.

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Anonymous wrote:Full disclosure, I'm a WASP from Chevy Chase and I grew up with a lot of fashion and etiquette rules that the rest of the country had dropped at least a generation before. Even now, if I showed up wearing a white dress to lunch with my 80 year old father in, say, October there is a 100% chance he'd make a comment about it. I still follow a lot of these rules for my own personal style, but I have lots of friends who dress totally differently and I love that for them. I'm 42 and a stay at home mom.

-I love black tights and wear them all the time in fall/winter. I also like colored tights sometimes. I do actually wear pantyhose but only to church when it's chilly outside, like today. Most people at my church are over 60 anyway.

-I don't wear diamond jewelry in general. I prefer solid gold pieces.

-I don't mix metals. All gold (usually) or all silver tone. This includes handbag hardware. If I'm wearing colored pieces then they should coordinate with the rest of the outfit. For nicer occasions I'd also make sure my nails coordinate.

-Nails are short and should be polished only in light pinks, nudes, coral, red, or burgundy. I might do fuchsia for vacation. No brightly colored eyeshadow or flashy makeup. My grandmother is long dead but she strongly disapproved of red or burgundy lips or nails.

-I don't wear white after Labor Day. I do wear winter white frequently but winter white is a different color than true white.

-I don't mix brown and black. To be fair, I rarely wear brown anything.

-Foundation garments are crucial to looking put together. I wouldn't leave the house without a proper bra and I am evangelical about proper bra fitting. No visible bra straps or lace peeking through a thin shirt. No VPL. Slipshorts are great for under dresses to prevent VPL and for modesty if there is a sudden gust of wind.

-Sneakers should be worn for athletic activity or with athletic clothes. Skirts and dresses should be paired with a proper shoe or a sandal in the summer or spring. Sandals require pedicured toes so I don't wear them very often.

-I don't care about having styled hair. My hair is straight and I don't think it makes much of a difference if I blow dry it or air dry it. I don't dye it but I probably will when I start getting gray hairs.

-Synthetic sweaters are yuck. Real wool (merino, cashmere, etc) only. I would not wear fake leather shoes or bags. Of course cloth or woven shoes and bags are fine.

Writing this has kind of made me realize I might need some therapy.

I'm glad you recognize that about yourself, LOL! It sounds exhausting.

It would only be exhausting if you had never done that and had to start.