How is Sorority Rush going?

[Anonymous]

What’s really interesting about this thread is how negative and judgmental the non-sorority people are. Open your minds! Not all sorority girls are the same! Shocking! There are a wide range of girls who are joining for a variety of reasons. Are some shallow and obsessed only with superficial things? Sure. But the same is true for the general population. There are also many girls looking for a friendly sisterhood within a larger school.

[Anonymous]

I thought rush was mostly in the fall, are there many that have spring rush? Is there an easy place to find a list of schools and when they hold rush? I have a HS junior and wondering if this is something to consider for college apps next year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I thought rush was mostly in the fall, are there many that have spring rush? Is there an easy place to find a list of schools and when they hold rush? I have a HS junior and wondering if this is something to consider for college apps next year.

Many Ivies and other top schools have spring rush so as to have a semester of grades. They get access to transcripts as part of the process. Some (Tufts) don’t have it until sophomore year.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:At some sec schools, there may be more legacies rushing the so called top sororities than places available that year: quota. These sorts of groups already have an official list of girls they want before rush ever begins. Yes, it should be possible to get a bid if you accept all your invitations each round, if you understood recommendations were necessary and if there actually are enough spots for every rushee. In the past, at least, I believe Indiana was one of those schools with more rushees than spots available.

It's one of those experiences where understanding what is happening may be very helpful. It's not a level playing field and definitely exclusionary in ways perhaps impossible for outsiders to see. A whole lot more is going on than judging zip codes, weight, and designer goods.

Correct. Those elements may be appealing to certain mid-tier sororities for sure. But at many schools where it is super competitive - especially at SEC-type flagships - the top houses are filled with girls from the 'right' schools/families/summer camps. Wealth can be new and designer goods can be fake/cringe but connections are real and old.

I have no idea if this is the case with Indiana though.

[Anonymous]

I would love to see the whole "Greek" system done away with. I can't believe it's a net positive.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I thought rush was mostly in the fall, are there many that have spring rush? Is there an easy place to find a list of schools and when they hold rush? I have a HS junior and wondering if this is something to consider for college apps next year.

Many Ivies and other top schools have spring rush so as to have a semester of grades. They get access to transcripts as part of the process. Some (Tufts) don’t have it until sophomore year.

Most colleges now hold rush spring semester.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What is the outrage over girls that are upset if they are dropped by the top houses? Of course they are not interested in joining a group of girls in the lower houses that have nothing in common with them. These dropped girls were very popular in high school, are smart, beautiful and fun. They have always been at the top of the social standing at their various schools. It is not odd that they would expect to be in the top sorority at college. It is a shock and let down when they are rejected. The girls in these top houses are their people, not the nerdier girls that are in the bottom houses struggling for members. Obviously, the girls in the bottom houses are probably kind, smart and great people, but they are not a match for the girl that was the top of the food chain at their high school. Surely you get this. Admitting this online in an anonymous forum does not make you a horrible person. It is reality.

Your people are where you are accepted, not where you imagine you should be but aren't wanted. It's like the people who can't get over being rejected by their target school and wind up in a safety with "lesser" students. They're not "lesser" students. They are your peers.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:What’s really interesting about this thread is how negative and judgmental the non-sorority people are. Open your minds! Not all sorority girls are the same! Shocking! There are a wide range of girls who are joining for a variety of reasons. Are some shallow and obsessed only with superficial things? Sure. But the same is true for the general population. There are also many girls looking for a friendly sisterhood within a larger school.

Agree, few things bring out nastiness on DCUM like the mention of sororities. I wasn't in one, but I've known a handful of horrible sorority women and plenty of perfectly nice ones.

The vitriol is over the top.

[Anonymous]

College message boards talk about how top schools could fill a class with equally impressive candidates many many times over from the applicant pool.

At some schools certain sororities are the same. But rush can be way more opaque than college admissions. Which is really saying something.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the whole "Greek" system done away with. I can't believe it's a net positive.

Agree 100%. Would love to hear from these Striver Moms that feel the need to belong through their Daughter’s social escapades if they had a a choice between an IVY acceptance and no Greek OR the Top Sorority in their mind at a t20 to t50 school what would they pick?

The American university system is great. The Greek system is a complete joke.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the whole "Greek" system done away with. I can't believe it's a net positive.

Agree 100%. Would love to hear from these Striver Moms that feel the need to belong through their Daughter’s social escapades if they had a a choice between an IVY acceptance and no Greek OR the Top Sorority in their mind at a t20 to t50 school what would they pick?

The American university system is great. The Greek system is a complete joke.

I was in a sorority (one of the “top” national ones). I want my DD to do what she wants to do. It isn’t my life. We very much stress academics, but if she decides to attend a school other than an Ivy even though she is admitted to an Ivy, that is her choice.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:What is the outrage over girls that are upset if they are dropped by the top houses? Of course they are not interested in joining a group of girls in the lower houses that have nothing in common with them. These dropped girls were very popular in high school, are smart, beautiful and fun. They have always been at the top of the social standing at their various schools. It is not odd that they would expect to be in the top sorority at college. It is a shock and let down when they are rejected. The girls in these top houses are their people, not the nerdier girls that are in the bottom houses struggling for members. Obviously, the girls in the bottom houses are probably kind, smart and great people, but they are not a match for the girl that was the top of the food chain at their high school. Surely you get this. Admitting this online in an anonymous forum does not make you a horrible person. It is reality.

Your people are where you are accepted, not where you imagine you should be but aren't wanted. It's like the people who can't get over being rejected by their target school and wind up in a safety with "lesser" students. They're not "lesser" students. They are your peers.

Why do you always defend it as if it’s a one way street? The houses get to decide who fits in and that’s fine by you, but when the girl rushing decides a house isn’t for her she’s shallow and spoiled. Do you hear yourselves?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:I would love to see the whole "Greek" system done away with. I can't believe it's a net positive.

Agree 100%. Would love to hear from these Striver Moms that feel the need to belong through their Daughter’s social escapades if they had a a choice between an IVY acceptance and no Greek OR the Top Sorority in their mind at a t20 to t50 school what would they pick?

The American university system is great. The Greek system is a complete joke.

What? And why is Ivy in all caps?

[Anonymous]

I went an ACC school OOS and rushed and had a great experience. Greek life there was and still is not serious. I think 15% of students are Greek, it does not control the social life.

I thought most sororities banned legacy preference (like with school admissions). Mine at least has.

My DD is looking at colleges now and she’s not sure if she’s interested in rushing. She’s interested in big SEC schools so probably some Tik Tok influence. I have one cousin’s kid in a sorority at Alabama and another at LSU currently and both are loving it (both are also OOS).

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:It’s for insecure women who have nothing going for them but their appearance and their mommy/daddy’s money.

I was in a sorority. I didn’t have money growing up and I became a lawyer. I am still good friends when many of women I met in the sorority.

Different poster with the same story. I pledged a less selective house and had a fantastic experience.

My sorority was incredibly fun while also being normal and down-to-earth. It was great to get to know women from other class years (broadened my college experience for sure) and I learned a ton by planning events and leading rush my senior year.

FWIW, I’ve actually grown closer to some of my sorority friends over time as we reconnected on FB, met up while traveling, networked for work etc. For me, it was 100% a great experience both in school and long after.

Seriously, not all sororities are elitist, superficial, or vapid.