I also live in a walkable inside the beltway area close to metro, but not every single thing can be accessed without a parent. Also some of it is at their school so I go there to meet them, I don’t reserve involvement in my children’s lives for just Saturday and Sunday. |
How many families can your neighborhood accommodate? |
I get it, you bow down to your employer. Some of us have options of where to work and don’t have to just take any JOB. |
I’m happy to be a single parent. I don’t put up with the crap so many DCUMs do so that they can maintain their current lifestyle. What are your children learning from their mother who takes abuse from their father? My kids are very self reliant and hard working. |
For those of you bragging about how you don’t do stuff with your kids after school and how you spent plenty of childcare money/hours in traffic and bent over backwards to be in an office because your boss said so with one parent getting home late … this isn’t the flex you think it is.
To quote Varsity Blues: “I don’t want your life.” |
You sound like the type of woman that emotionally and verbally abuses her husband, actually. That’s why he wanted to get away from you. Your poor kids, though. |
+1 It’s so sad to see so many people worshiping billionaires while bragging about whatever crumbs they can find on their hands and knees. It’s pathetic. |
Your kids don’t have to do “every single thing.” |
Lol. He’s the one who went to jail for spousal abuse. Good riddance to him. My kids are better off living without an unhinged abuser. |
Look, I don’t want FT RTO either. But the fact is you do need to plan your life, and it’s not a foregone conclusion that all parents need to dedicate all this time to after school activities. It’s not even clearly good for kids. Women placing these expectations on themselves (and it’s generally women) are going to drive themselves crazy. Your kid does not need to do travel soccer. They can do the school sports team and get themselves to and from there. But if your vision IS that you spend from 4-7 shuttling your kid around, then yes, you need a better plan than perpetual FT WFH especially if you are a fed. Set your life up so you can prioritize what’s important to you. That may mean you and your DH flex in opposite directions, choosing a more modest home with a shorter commute, one parent going PT, or investing in childcare. |
That's just sad no matter how you look at it. No winners in that situation. - np |
Well my kids’ elementary school doesn’t have sports teams. Rec level practices tend to be … after school with 1-2 practices/week. Times 2 kids that can be several days per week you need a parent around. And we let ours take at home music lessons 2x/month. I hardly consider a sport and an instrument overscheduled. And I did build my life around this by taking a fed job that has allowed telework since before Obama. I guess before having kids I should have foreseen a reality show entertainer would take over our country and pimp it out to a couple deranged billionaires who want to destroy and de-regulate our government to pad their own investment accounts. But since I didn’t I guess I’ll have to look for more flexible/higher paying work in the private sector. I don’t know why so many people are acting like WAH has been some recent COVID perk when it’s been around for a very long time. Getting “back to reality” by RTO 5 days per week is more draconian than many jobs were (including mine) 15 years ago. |
Yes, Black women had it more difficult but, let's not put women against each other |
And your bosses don’t actually need all employees in a random office building for 8+ hours a day to do the same computer-based work that they have been successfully accomplishing from elsewhere. You are SO pathetic. |
I haven’t gone into an office 5 days per week since my probationary period circa 2010.
Musk and Ramaswamy are trying to go back to the 90s. |