Spin Off - Do a Kids’ Parents Political Views Impact You Allowing A Friendship?

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I’m not going to hold the parent’s job/views against the kid.

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Anonymous wrote:I would imagine my kids' friends' mothers do not know I am a Republican. Why would this ever come up in conversation?

Then your friends aren't black or gay; or if they are we know you're a republican and we're just nice to you but not close.

Also - your kids tell my kids who you vote for.

My FRIENDS know I am a Republican, the question was about my kids' friends' parents. The only thing we are conversing about is child-related. Generally in my circles it would be a faux pas to start ranting about abortion while sitting on a bench at the playground with other moms. But you do you.

Being a republican isn't the issue. Being a Trump supporter, and thus, at best, silent on his views on anyone of color, women, etc, is an issue.

Personally, I would not hold it against your kids, but would not be tolerant of any expressions of intolerance, particularly related to race, or gender identity.

DP. 96 percent of republicans vote for Trump. They may not like him but they ARE voting for him. Friends have admitted to me they voted for him despite not liking him. They vote GOP a down the line.

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Anonymous wrote:I would imagine my kids' friends' mothers do not know I am a Republican. Why would this ever come up in conversation?

Then your friends aren't black or gay; or if they are we know you're a republican and we're just nice to you but not close.

Also - your kids tell my kids who you vote for.

My FRIENDS know I am a Republican, the question was about my kids' friends' parents. The only thing we are conversing about is child-related. Generally in my circles it would be a faux pas to start ranting about abortion while sitting on a bench at the playground with other moms. But you do you.

Being a republican isn't the issue. Being a Trump supporter, and thus, at best, silent on his views on anyone of color, women, etc, is an issue.

Personally, I would not hold it against your kids, but would not be tolerant of any expressions of intolerance, particularly related to race, or gender identity.

DP. 96 percent of republicans vote for Trump. They may not like him but they ARE voting for him. Friends have admitted to me they voted for him despite not liking him. They vote GOP a down the line.

The educated Republicans I know are hugely anti-Trump.

Voting for Trump automatically makes you a Trump supporter.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If your family supports Trump, our children cannot be friends (at least not outside of school hours). The parents can try to “corner” me, but I will not relent and I will tell them why the relationship is a nonstarter.

This goes beyond supporting a political candidate. If you support Trump, you’re ok with too many things (racism, sexism, rape) that I cannot accept. I will question your judgement and your morality, so I cannot trust my children around you and your children.

This is the liberal way. If you disagree with me, you are my enemy. Racism, sexism, rape, oh my!

If you support trump, you are indeed my enemy and I will treat you as such.

Thats exactly how I feel about Liberals. I avoid them like the plague.

Good! May we and our children never share the same spaces. Amen.

Suits me!

Yay! 🎉

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I don’t know why some of you people seem to think befriending Trump supporters is the same thing as being able to work with or attend school with them.

No one is saying you should befriend anyone. This thread is about friendships between the children. You should be able to be civil with their friends' parents to facilitate their friendships.

I would be civil with their friends’ parents, but I will not facilitate that unwanted friendship. My children would be friends with the children of trump supporters during school hours only.

My children: Can she come over?
Me: No

My children: Can I hang out at her house?
Me: No

My children: Can I go to her birthday party/invite her to mine?
Me: No

They will have to “bond” M-F, during the hours of 8 am to 3 pm. If their friendship someone manages to survive to adulthood, then that’s my child’s choice. I did what I could to stop it.

This is mind-blowing.

You are no different than a racist parent 75 years ago not letting their kid play with a black child from school.

Wrong. We're keeping our black kids away from the KKK. That's the issue. You think you're oppressed. When you're not. You want to vote for Trump? Ok but these are just natural consequences.

74 million people voted for Trump in 2020. That's an awful lot of people to hate.

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I don’t know why some of you people seem to think befriending Trump supporters is the same thing as being able to work with or attend school with them.

No one is saying you should befriend anyone. This thread is about friendships between the children. You should be able to be civil with their friends' parents to facilitate their friendships.

I would be civil with their friends’ parents, but I will not facilitate that unwanted friendship. My children would be friends with the children of trump supporters during school hours only.

My children: Can she come over?
Me: No

My children: Can I hang out at her house?
Me: No

My children: Can I go to her birthday party/invite her to mine?
Me: No

They will have to “bond” M-F, during the hours of 8 am to 3 pm. If their friendship someone manages to survive to adulthood, then that’s my child’s choice. I did what I could to stop it.

This is mind-blowing.

You are no different than a racist parent 75 years ago not letting their kid play with a black child from school.

Wrong. We're keeping our black kids away from the KKK. That's the issue. You think you're oppressed. When you're not. You want to vote for Trump? Ok but these are just natural consequences.

74 million people voted for Trump in 2020. That's an awful lot of people to hate.

That's an awful lot of people to vote for a POS, and yet, here we are.

[Anonymous]

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I don’t know why some of you people seem to think befriending Trump supporters is the same thing as being able to work with or attend school with them.

No one is saying you should befriend anyone. This thread is about friendships between the children. You should be able to be civil with their friends' parents to facilitate their friendships.

I would be civil with their friends’ parents, but I will not facilitate that unwanted friendship. My children would be friends with the children of trump supporters during school hours only.

My children: Can she come over?
Me: No

My children: Can I hang out at her house?
Me: No

My children: Can I go to her birthday party/invite her to mine?
Me: No

They will have to “bond” M-F, during the hours of 8 am to 3 pm. If their friendship someone manages to survive to adulthood, then that’s my child’s choice. I did what I could to stop it.

This is mind-blowing.

You are no different than a racist parent 75 years ago not letting their kid play with a black child from school.

Wrong. We're keeping our black kids away from the KKK. That's the issue. You think you're oppressed. When you're not. You want to vote for Trump? Ok but these are just natural consequences.

74 million people voted for Trump in 2020. That's an awful lot of people to hate.

I'm fine with it. I live in Maryland.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:This thread is why many in our country are registered as closet Democrats but vote Republican.

This thread is why many never-Trumpers and closeted Republicans are voting Democrat but not willing to admit it for fear of being exiled from the party for not worshipping the Chosen One.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:In 2016 we cut off all contact with my in-laws due to their vocal support of Trump and his racist policies. My middle school children have had zero contact with their grandparents on that side since they were in preschool. My only regret is we didn’t do it sooner.

As for friends here we do not socialize with Trump supporters, we don’t go to their homes and they’re not welcome in ours. Our kids are friendly with everyone at school but we have been clear with them that we aren’t welcoming those whose views we find abhorrent into our home.

Is this how you propose Democrats in government act if he wins? This is lunacy. The predicate of our country is compromise. Hating and demonizing the opposition is exactly what you accuse them of and you are doing the same thing. It’s so counterproductive to moving any liberal (or any) goals forward.

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Anonymous wrote:In 2016 we cut off all contact with my in-laws due to their vocal support of Trump and his racist policies. My middle school children have had zero contact with their grandparents on that side since they were in preschool. My only regret is we didn’t do it sooner.

As for friends here we do not socialize with Trump supporters, we don’t go to their homes and they’re not welcome in ours. Our kids are friendly with everyone at school but we have been clear with them that we aren’t welcoming those whose views we find abhorrent into our home.

Is this how you propose Democrats in government act if he wins? This is lunacy. The predicate of our country is compromise. Hating and demonizing the opposition is exactly what you accuse them of and you are doing the same thing. It’s so counterproductive to moving any liberal (or any) goals forward.

No, the PP accused them of racism and abhorrent views.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:You would have absolutely no idea who I vote for. I have no need to broadcast my choice nor do I care who you vote for unless you’re extreme one way or the other. If you are, yes I’m going to avoid the crazy but my kids can be friends with whomever they want.

I don’t support either because they’re both awful but I will have to vote for one of them. You will never know who.

If your kid knows, then I know. Kids talk.

Kid doesn't know.

[Anonymous]

How will we ever grow and learn if we don't open up to sincere requests for friendship?

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Anonymous wrote:How will we ever grow and learn if we don't open up to sincere requests for friendship?

Friendships with the children of people who support trump? Hard pass! That’s not an area in which I’m looking to cultivate growth in my children.

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Anonymous wrote:You would have absolutely no idea who I vote for. I have no need to broadcast my choice nor do I care who you vote for unless you’re extreme one way or the other. If you are, yes I’m going to avoid the crazy but my kids can be friends with whomever they want.

I don’t support either because they’re both awful but I will have to vote for one of them. You will never know who.

If your kid knows, then I know. Kids talk.

Kid doesn't know.

I wonder why…🤔

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:In 2016 we cut off all contact with my in-laws due to their vocal support of Trump and his racist policies. My middle school children have had zero contact with their grandparents on that side since they were in preschool. My only regret is we didn’t do it sooner.

As for friends here we do not socialize with Trump supporters, we don’t go to their homes and they’re not welcome in ours. Our kids are friendly with everyone at school but we have been clear with them that we aren’t welcoming those whose views we find abhorrent into our home.

Is this how you propose Democrats in government act if he wins? This is lunacy. The predicate of our country is compromise. Hating and demonizing the opposition is exactly what you accuse them of and you are doing the same thing. It’s so counterproductive to moving any liberal (or any) goals forward.

My in-laws were very strident about how poor brown immigrants pouring into our country were all criminals and displacing “us”. I feel comfortable with our decision to keep our kids away from those views and have been clear with the kids that we not open to that line of thought. Call me close minded, I’m fine with that.