Spin Off - Do a Kids’ Parents Political Views Impact You Allowing A Friendship?

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Anonymous wrote:This thread and you posters are horrible. I mean, if we are at a point where you believe that children of the Republican candidate are so evil that they cannot play with your children, you are the narrow minded one and playing an essential role in the demise of our democracy. It’s horrendous to me the vitriol on both sides; respectful disagreement is the only reason democracy will actually survive and being friends and sociable with people with other viewpoints without demonizing them is essential to being able to forge a compromise. Our system of government is predicated on compromise. One of the things I absolutely love about my child’s private school is that diversity of viewpoints is encouraged and valued and it’s truly a community of actually differing opinions. I think it makes for a wonderful academic experiences for my child and one of the reasons why GDS (and Sidwell to a lesser extend) sort of turn me off. And I am a democrat. With lots of republican friends!

It is not about being a republican. It is about supporting Trump and Trumpism. Would you let your kids associated with Confederates or Nazis?

Well, the Confederacy existed 175 years ago. Are you asking me to engage in a historical thought exercise? And comparing Trump to Nazis is as insult to the millions who died in WWII, including my relatives, and I take deep offense at your casual and dangerous rhetoric.

Trump himself is an insult to all who died for the US, including the og American Revolution.

I thought only the losers died in war, at least according to Trump.

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Anonymous wrote:I would imagine my kids' friends' mothers do not know I am a Republican. Why would this ever come up in conversation?

Then your friends aren't black or gay; or if they are we know you're a republican and we're just nice to you but not close.

Also - your kids tell my kids who you vote for.

My FRIENDS know I am a Republican, the question was about my kids' friends' parents. The only thing we are conversing about is child-related. Generally in my circles it would be a faux pas to start ranting about abortion while sitting on a bench at the playground with other moms. But you do you.

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You would have absolutely no idea who I vote for. I have no need to broadcast my choice nor do I care who you vote for unless you’re extreme one way or the other. If you are, yes I’m going to avoid the crazy but my kids can be friends with whomever they want.

I don’t support either because they’re both awful but I will have to vote for one of them. You will never know who.

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I don’t know why some of you people seem to think befriending Trump supporters is the same thing as being able to work with or attend school with them.

No one is saying you should befriend anyone. This thread is about friendships between the children. You should be able to be civil with their friends' parents to facilitate their friendships.

I would be civil with their friends’ parents, but I will not facilitate that unwanted friendship. My children would be friends with the children of trump supporters during school hours only.

My children: Can she come over?
Me: No

My children: Can I hang out at her house?
Me: No

My children: Can I go to her birthday party/invite her to mine?
Me: No

They will have to “bond” M-F, during the hours of 8 am to 3 pm. If their friendship someone manages to survive to adulthood, then that’s my child’s choice. I did what I could to stop it.

This is so unfortunate and, just... mean.

I can't truly believe that if your kid asks you to invite Larla you say no and she asks why not and you say because her parents voted for X.

This is the same vibe as the parents who want their kids to be friends with parents who have connections they want to access. I can't believe people really act like this.

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I don’t know why some of you people seem to think befriending Trump supporters is the same thing as being able to work with or attend school with them.

No one is saying you should befriend anyone. This thread is about friendships between the children. You should be able to be civil with their friends' parents to facilitate their friendships.

I would be civil with their friends’ parents, but I will not facilitate that unwanted friendship. My children would be friends with the children of trump supporters during school hours only.

My children: Can she come over?
Me: No

My children: Can I hang out at her house?
Me: No

My children: Can I go to her birthday party/invite her to mine?
Me: No

They will have to “bond” M-F, during the hours of 8 am to 3 pm. If their friendship someone manages to survive to adulthood, then that’s my child’s choice. I did what I could to stop it.

This is so unfortunate and, just... mean.

I can't truly believe that if your kid asks you to invite Larla you say no and she asks why not and you say because her parents voted for X.

This is the same vibe as the parents who want their kids to be friends with parents who have connections they want to access. I can't believe people really act like this.

Believe it. No children of trump supporters are welcome in my home.

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Anonymous wrote:If your family supports Trump, our children cannot be friends (at least not outside of school hours). The parents can try to “corner” me, but I will not relent and I will tell them why the relationship is a nonstarter.

This goes beyond supporting a political candidate. If you support Trump, you’re ok with too many things (racism, sexism, rape) that I cannot accept. I will question your judgement and your morality, so I cannot trust my children around you and your children.

This is the liberal way. If you disagree with me, you are my enemy. Racism, sexism, rape, oh my!

If you support trump, you are indeed my enemy and I will treat you as such.

Thats exactly how I feel about Liberals. I avoid them like the plague.

Good! May we and our children never share the same spaces. Amen.

Suits me!

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I would not deny them a friendship but i dont have to invite people over, break bread with them or otherwise spend my limited time hanging out with people with such extremely different views. And i have friends of the opposite political views. Very few.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I'm a raging liberal and work for the Democratic Party and I would not deny my children friendships over their parent's political party. Many children grow up having alternate views of their parents and that's because of their friendships. See: Claudia Conway

She has no relationship with her mother anymore, and her dad, while holding contrary political views, is generally aligned about what the USA is all about.

[Anonymous]

In 2016 we cut off all contact with my in-laws due to their vocal support of Trump and his racist policies. My middle school children have had zero contact with their grandparents on that side since they were in preschool. My only regret is we didn’t do it sooner.

As for friends here we do not socialize with Trump supporters, we don’t go to their homes and they’re not welcome in ours. Our kids are friendly with everyone at school but we have been clear with them that we aren’t welcoming those whose views we find abhorrent into our home.

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Anonymous wrote:I would imagine my kids' friends' mothers do not know I am a Republican. Why would this ever come up in conversation?

Then your friends aren't black or gay; or if they are we know you're a republican and we're just nice to you but not close.

Also - your kids tell my kids who you vote for.

What on earth? Many African Americans support Trump. Many LGBTQ support Trump. You really do love in a bubble.

hahahhahahahahah No,

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:You would have absolutely no idea who I vote for. I have no need to broadcast my choice nor do I care who you vote for unless you’re extreme one way or the other. If you are, yes I’m going to avoid the crazy but my kids can be friends with whomever they want.

I don’t support either because they’re both awful but I will have to vote for one of them. You will never know who.

If your kid knows, then I know. Kids talk.

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I don’t know why some of you people seem to think befriending Trump supporters is the same thing as being able to work with or attend school with them.

No one is saying you should befriend anyone. This thread is about friendships between the children. You should be able to be civil with their friends' parents to facilitate their friendships.

I would be civil with their friends’ parents, but I will not facilitate that unwanted friendship. My children would be friends with the children of trump supporters during school hours only.

My children: Can she come over?
Me: No

My children: Can I hang out at her house?
Me: No

My children: Can I go to her birthday party/invite her to mine?
Me: No

They will have to “bond” M-F, during the hours of 8 am to 3 pm. If their friendship someone manages to survive to adulthood, then that’s my child’s choice. I did what I could to stop it.

This is mind-blowing.

You are no different than a racist parent 75 years ago not letting their kid play with a black child from school.

Wrong. We're keeping our black kids away from the KKK. That's the issue. You think you're oppressed. When you're not. You want to vote for Trump? Ok but these are just natural consequences.

[Anonymous]

It matters my kids are friends with Trump supporters and yes their values are different. They are anti immigration, wealth and stays conscious and only associate with fellow country club members. If I could do it over I would reconsider it.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:If your family supports Trump, our children cannot be friends (at least not outside of school hours). The parents can try to “corner” me, but I will not relent and I will tell them why the relationship is a nonstarter.

This goes beyond supporting a political candidate. If you support Trump, you’re ok with too many things (racism, sexism, rape) that I cannot accept. I will question your judgement and your morality, so I cannot trust my children around you and your children.

So close minded. Way to raise your kids in a vacuum. Exposure to a diversity of views is good for all of us.

Exposure to homophobia would be damaging to my kid, as a kid of gay parents. I know she's going to see it in the world, and I'm preparing her for that, but I don't need to invite it into my home and I won't apologize for that. Sorry your kid can't have friends b/c you're a bigot.

Homophobia? Give me a break. It’s not 1955 anymore.

Please read Project 25 and get back to me on that.

[Anonymous]

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Anonymous wrote:I would imagine my kids' friends' mothers do not know I am a Republican. Why would this ever come up in conversation?

Then your friends aren't black or gay; or if they are we know you're a republican and we're just nice to you but not close.

Also - your kids tell my kids who you vote for.

My FRIENDS know I am a Republican, the question was about my kids' friends' parents. The only thing we are conversing about is child-related. Generally in my circles it would be a faux pas to start ranting about abortion while sitting on a bench at the playground with other moms. But you do you.

Being a republican isn't the issue. Being a Trump supporter, and thus, at best, silent on his views on anyone of color, women, etc, is an issue.

Personally, I would not hold it against your kids, but would not be tolerant of any expressions of intolerance, particularly related to race, or gender identity.