Spin Off - Do a Kids’ Parents Political Views Impact You Allowing A Friendship?

Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I normally run a quick LinkedIn check on the parents. Work directly for certain republicans and no. I ignore or tell them no. Work for those I align with. Welcome with open arms. I won’t tolerate my children being influenced by those with narrow views.


wow crazy
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:This thread and you posters are horrible. I mean, if we are at a point where you believe that children of the Republican candidate are so evil that they cannot play with your children, you are the narrow minded one and playing an essential role in the demise of our democracy. It’s horrendous to me the vitriol on both sides; respectful disagreement is the only reason democracy will actually survive and being friends and sociable with people with other viewpoints without demonizing them is essential to being able to forge a compromise. Our system of government is predicated on compromise. One of the things I absolutely love about my child’s private school is that diversity of viewpoints is encouraged and valued and it’s truly a community of actually differing opinions. I think it makes for a wonderful academic experiences for my child and one of the reasons why GDS (and Sidwell to a lesser extend) sort of turn me off. And I am a democrat. With lots of republican friends!


PP -
I’d be curious what school this is if you are willing to share
Anonymous
I mean, I don't think I'd want my child of color chilling with a child of a KKK member or something. So there are definitely limits. But I'd also potentially welcome that child into MY home and see how the child herself behaves with my DD. Some children are so much better than their parents, I would hate to limit my kids friends based on who their parents are.
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Anonymous wrote:If your family supports Trump, our children cannot be friends (at least not outside of school hours). The parents can try to “corner” me, but I will not relent and I will tell them why the relationship is a nonstarter.

This goes beyond supporting a political candidate. If you support Trump, you’re ok with too many things (racism, sexism, rape) that I cannot accept. I will question your judgement and your morality, so I cannot trust my children around you and your children.


So close minded. Way to raise your kids in a vacuum. Exposure to a diversity of views is good for all of us.


I’m UNAPOLOGETICALLY not open minded about a racist, sexist, rapist POS. My children live in the real world, watch the news, and read newspapers and books, so they have been exposed to a “diversity of views” their entire lives. They also live in Washington, DC so they’ve had front row seats to 4 years of the s-show also known as the Trump administration.

We will not welcome those who hold these abhorrent views into our personal lives. However, you’re free to do so.


Riiight... I'm sure you're exposing them to totally neutral sources and they just happen to come to all the same conclusions as you. I'm sure your minor children are totally dialed in to the inside baseball workings of the White House and independently concluded the Trump administration is a trainwreck.

If your kids are older teenagers who actually are capable of absorbing this and holding their own opinions, they do not need you to arrange their playdates and pick their friends. If they are young enough for you to be involved in their social planning, then you are exposing them to too much political drama and probably making them anxious that the sky is falling.
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I normally run a quick LinkedIn check on the parents. Work directly for certain republicans and no. I ignore or tell them no. Work for those I align with. Welcome with open arms. I won’t tolerate my children being influenced by those with narrow views.


Wow! Never thought to do this.
Anonymous
Nope nope nope
We will not associate with the crowd that wants us in camps dead and or thinks sex change surgery is happening in public schools. We won’t associate with book banners or the morons who support Projecy 2025 and the assault on our military members voting rights.

My kids have amazing friends not one family is in the cult. I have cut off all cult members 100 percent I don’t need idiots who hate my family behind our bs is in our lives also why would I hang with dummies?
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:If your family supports Trump, our children cannot be friends (at least not outside of school hours). The parents can try to “corner” me, but I will not relent and I will tell them why the relationship is a nonstarter.

This goes beyond supporting a political candidate. If you support Trump, you’re ok with too many things (racism, sexism, rape) that I cannot accept. I will question your judgement and your morality, so I cannot trust my children around you and your children.


This is the liberal way. If you disagree with me, you are my enemy. Racism, sexism, rape, oh my!
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:Nope nope nope
We will not associate with the crowd that wants us in camps dead and or thinks sex change surgery is happening in public schools. We won’t associate with book banners or the morons who support Projecy 2025 and the assault on our military members voting rights.

My kids have amazing friends not one family is in the cult. I have cut off all cult members 100 percent I don’t need idiots who hate my family behind our bs is in our lives also why would I hang with dummies?


Sounds like you are the one in the cult.
Anonymous
Left-leaning liberal here. Those of you who are in agreement with my politics must not be Christians. I'm both, so I take my cue from this:
“You have heard that it was said, ‘Love your neighbor[a] and hate your enemy.’ But I tell you, love your enemies and pray for those who persecute you, that you may be children of your Father in heaven. He causes his sun to rise on the evil and the good, and sends rain on the righteous and the unrighteous. If you love those who love you, what reward will you get? Are not even the tax collectors doing that? And if you greet only your own people, what are you doing more than others? Do not even pagans do that? Be perfect, therefore, as your heavenly Father is perfect."
Anonymous
Anonymous wrote:I worry about my kids at houses that support more gun rights and have guns. It's a safety issue for me. During school and at other locations is fine.


+1. Absolutely.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:If your family supports Trump, our children cannot be friends (at least not outside of school hours). The parents can try to “corner” me, but I will not relent and I will tell them why the relationship is a nonstarter.

This goes beyond supporting a political candidate. If you support Trump, you’re ok with too many things (racism, sexism, rape) that I cannot accept. I will question your judgement and your morality, so I cannot trust my children around you and your children.


So close minded. Way to raise your kids in a vacuum. Exposure to a diversity of views is good for all of us.


I’m UNAPOLOGETICALLY not open minded about a racist, sexist, rapist POS. My children live in the real world, watch the news, and read newspapers and books, so they have been exposed to a “diversity of views” their entire lives. They also live in Washington, DC so they’ve had front row seats to 4 years of the s-show also known as the Trump administration.

We will not welcome those who hold these abhorrent views into our personal lives. However, you’re free to do so.


Oh boy. Good luck to your children who have to live in this country and deal with people of all persuasions, as we all do. You are not preparing them well for this world.


I don’t know why some of you people seem to think befriending Trump supporters is the same thing as being able to work with or attend school with them. I work with one Trump supporter that has no idea I find him detestable. I don’t live where I work, so I have no problem keeping our professional relationship cordial and at an acceptable distance. My children are able to do the same.

Good luck to your children because mine are doing great!


Trust me, your colleague knows. You clearly are incapable of hiding your feelings.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:If your family supports Trump, our children cannot be friends (at least not outside of school hours). The parents can try to “corner” me, but I will not relent and I will tell them why the relationship is a nonstarter.

This goes beyond supporting a political candidate. If you support Trump, you’re ok with too many things (racism, sexism, rape) that I cannot accept. I will question your judgement and your morality, so I cannot trust my children around you and your children.


Wow. You're a horrible person.

- not a Trump supporter


Unfortunately, you are a Trump supporter. If you think being closed to the idea of befriending those who support a racist and sexist rapist makes me a bad person, then you just told on yourself. Your projection is a confession.


DP. Unfortunately? What does that mean? We are free to support whoever we want in this democracy of ours. What are you going to do when Trump wins this election in two weeks time? Are you prepared to emigrate? Because if not, you will have some serious adjusting to do and you do not seem at all ready for it my dear.


I regard Trump supporters as unfortunate. Do you struggle with reading comprehension? Where did I say that you or others aren’t free to support whatever POS you want in this democracy. Btw, if Trump wins, it won’t be a democracy for long.

If the racist, sexist rapist wins, I’ll do the same things I did the last time he was in office. My ancestors helped build this country, so I’m not going to be run off by Trump, a child of an immigrant who hates **certain immigrants**. I will continue to live and thrive in the Nation’s Capital, as I’ve always done.
However, I will never befriend a Trump supporter.


You are the intolerant one, you do know that right?
Anonymous
We do not encourage friendships with parents who work to support Trump. 1) I would not have felt that way about Romney, McCain, even Bush. Trump is different - he is dangerous. 2) If parents privately support Trump and vote for Trump, that's fine. I can't encourage a friendship with people who are actively working to make our country worse and are dismantling our democracy.

I'm not sure that's the right line to draw, but it's the one that feels fairest to me to the (potentially awesome) kids who unfortunately ended up with parents that are choosing a bad path in voting for Trump. It's not the kids fault, and perhaps exposure to my kids and family will help normalize them.
Anonymous
I don’t know why some of you people seem to think befriending Trump supporters is the same thing as being able to work with or attend school with them.


No one is saying you should befriend anyone. This thread is about friendships between the children. You should be able to be civil with their friends' parents to facilitate their friendships.
Anonymous
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Anonymous wrote:I am super liberal and have always had friends from different parties. I think it is really controlling and narrow minded to try to control who your kid befriends. As someone wrote earlier, kids often have different views than their parents anyway.


If my kids supported Trump I would disown them.



So, in other words, you don't love your children unconditionally. If they don't share your views, you will disown them. What a lovely parent!


You're right, there are conditions, absolutely. Luckily I have raised them right so we're in the clear.


No, that’s called Control with a capital C. Only a matter of time before your kid lands on a therapist’s couch and they help them reach that conclusion. And then I hope they go No Contact with your Controlling self.
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