What does your nursing toddler call your boobs?

[Anonymous]

I don't care if you think its gross or inappropriate or whatever...it is a personal relationship between my child and me. There are so few years in which the are allowed this kind of comfort...And I don't nurse my toddler to make other people happy.

As for the question, I always called it "nursies" and my 1.5 year old shortened that to "she shes."

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:
A poster here indicated she breast fed up to 33 months... isn't that tiresome?

That was me. No, it wasn't particularly tiresome. I mean, at times it was -- at times, anything about parenting a two year old can be tiresome. But if I hadn't been nursing at any particular instant, it's not like I would instead have been out enjoying margaritas. I would have been soothing my dd in some other way. It was part of our bedtime routine; when I weaned, we had a different bedtime routine. The new one wasn't any more or less tiresome, it was just different. And if I was gone, she was perfectly happy to have a different form of comfort from a different person.

I'm nursing an infant now and THAT is tiresome -- doing it in the middle of the night, DH not being able to be a good substitute, having to pump if I'm gone, having to guess what his cries mean. Nursing a toddler is totally different.

[Anonymous]

My friend's two year old says "milkies"

[Anonymous]

I didn't BF past 10 months due to supply problems but I don't get all the gross comments either. Why is it perfectly fine to have a 4 yr old riding around a mall in a stroller with a binkie in her mouth and a bottle of juice but it is gross to BF a toddler? Why do people think the WHO recommendation only applies to people in 3rd world countries?

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

Anonymous wrote:

If they are old enough to ask, they are old enough to drink cow's milk. At that age, in our modern society, toddlers don't need nursing for any kind of immune system development at that age, unless these same women are the ones who aren't vaccinating their kids.

Is your child potty trained? If they are old enough to talk, then it's just icky for them to still be in diapers. Really, they aren't babies anymore!

THIS

My kid is potty trained and drinks cow's milk (I'm not the PP). I nursed her till she was done with it (around 12 months) and I do think nursing IS a great thing if it works for you and your child. But hearing a child ask for milkies, tatays and whatever other names mentioned here would gross me out ANYTIME. It doesn't have to make sense to you, it just makes my skin crawl and I can't do much about it.

[Anonymous]

#1 I would think it was hilarious if I was at Target and a 2 year old pointed at my boobs and yelled out Tittays...I would lmao!

#2 Why would I spend money on formula for my allergy ridden child when I can just continue to breastfeed for free? Its silly. I'm already producing exactly what he needs.

#3 Those claiming that they're children must be independent...really? At 13 months? Your poor child. What baby needs to be independent before the age of 2. That's just super sad and ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I am not opposed to the idea of extended nursing, but my neighbor nurses her 2 year old whenever she is upset/angry because she feels it helps to "calm her down." On one level, this is fine, but I feel that it is important to work on teaching a child other coping mechanisms to deal with upset feelings by that age. The child will have to learn these skills eventually.

I agree. I've seen this as well.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:I think it is nice that some moms are able to continue the nursing relationship longer. My DS decided he was done with it at 12 months - he would scream and try to sit up every time I tried nursing him. He doesn't even like a bottle much any more - he drinks water and wants to eat real food.

Hilarious. Proves the point that your kids don't want this! They will look back and shudder when they get older. You will not be thanked. Just stop already BREASTFEEDING IS FOR BABIES PEOPLE. Not children.

[Anonymous]

"Anonymous wrote:
I am not opposed to the idea of extended nursing, but my neighbor nurses her 2 year old whenever she is upset/angry because she feels it helps to "calm her down." On one level, this is fine, but I feel that it is important to work on teaching a child other coping mechanisms to deal with upset feelings by that age. The child will have to learn these skills eventually.

I agree. I've seen this as well. "

So you don't hug your kids for comfort because they should develop independent coping skills? My 2 yr old often needs a hug when he is upset/angry, I guess I should tell him to Man Up.

[Anonymous]

The WHO recommendations are for countries with poor water sanitation and food scarcity. is it really so hard to see why this does not apply to upper middle class white ladies in DC?

[Anonymous]

So you don't hug your kids for comfort because they should develop independent coping skills? My 2 yr old often needs a hug when he is upset/angry, I guess I should tell him to Man Up.

Learned coping skills do not have to be "independent." Getting a hug from another person to deal with upset feelings is a learned coping skill that can continue and last through life, whereas nursing is not.

[Anonymous]

Learned coping skills do not have to be "independent." Getting a hug from another person to deal with upset feelings is a learned coping skill that can continue and last through life, whereas nursing is not.

Neither are hugging a teddy bear, cuddling a lovey, squeezing play dough or punching a pillow but they are all pretty great when you are two.

[Anonymous]

"The WHO recommendations are for countries with poor water sanitation and food scarcity. is it really so hard to see why this does not apply to upper middle class white ladies in DC? "

Really? I missed the footnote on the WHO recommendations that says 'does not apply to upper middle white ladies'.

[Anonymous]

Anonymous wrote:

So you don't hug your kids for comfort because they should develop independent coping skills? My 2 yr old often needs a hug when he is upset/angry, I guess I should tell him to Man Up.

Learned coping skills do not have to be "independent." Getting a hug from another person to deal with upset feelings is a learned coping skill that can continue and last through life, whereas nursing is not.

Learning to let other people help you through your upset is a "learned coping skill" that continues your whole life. Nursing is just one example.

When I weaned dd (yes, at 33 months), she had absolutely no problem relying on other coping skills. And, I stopped nursing "on demand" at around 15 or 16 months.

[Anonymous]

"So you don't hug your kids for comfort because they should develop independent coping skills? My 2 yr old often needs a hug when he is upset/angry, I guess I should tell him to Man Up."

"Learned coping skills do not have to be "independent." Getting a hug from another person to deal with upset feelings is a learned coping skill that can continue and last through life, whereas nursing is not. "

Getting a hug from another person to deal with being upset/angry is not a skill you can use throughout your life. The next time I'm in a bad meeting feeling upset/angry I doubt I can ask my client or co-worker for a hug.

The whole "independence' argument is so incredibly stupid. I was thrilled when I stopped BF and when my kids moved into their own rooms but I didn't pat myself on the back that it was about independence or feel the need to validate my decision by coming up with nonsense. I wanted my body and my bedroom back!